Language is everyone's right, in this life, only a few months, can learn to speak, but it takes a lifetime to learn to shut up.
The words that come out, to a greater or lesser extent, will affect others or yourself, not all emotions are suitable for confiding, as you get older, sooner or later you will understand that when you are in trouble, it is a kind of wisdom.
Life is your own, although raised by your parents, to spend your life hand in hand with your partner, you can pursue its essence, no matter what kind of life you live, after all, you live with yourself.
There will be many people in life, maybe there will be intimate relationships, maybe they will only play the role of passers-by in life, no matter who they are, they are just bystanders of their own lives.
No matter how intimate it is, when you encounter trouble, there is no substitute for anyone else except to bear it yourself.
Just like Fan Shengmei in "Ode to Joy", it turned out that the family was not happy, and parents and siblings could not count on it, so they had to work hard in Shanghai and work hard to make money, but there was still not much left, and all the income was given to parents and subsidized younger brothers.
A messy life made him stressed, hoping to change the fate of his boyfriend Wang Baichuan, and take the family affairs to let each other out of the solution;When you encounter a problem, you hope that the other party can give the best solution.
But love is never an endless entry and exit of one party, even if Fan Shengmei is Wang Baichuan's former goddess, the pressure brought to him by Fan Shengmei makes him constantly measure, and he has the idea of retreating from time to time.
When they encounter trouble, they are the authority, whether they can solve it and how to solve it, only they say it, and taking out the trouble, of course, can relieve the pain for a while, but after all, the symptoms are not the root cause.
Since it is useless to say it, it is better to hide it in your heart, which will not cause trouble to others and reduce the chance of being ridiculed.
The encounter between people is a kind of fate, and it is only under the impetus of fate that it is possible to establish all kinds of interpersonal relationships. As the saying goes, there are many friends and many roads, but making friends is not easy.
Many things need to be experienced, and it also needs to be sincere and complete the replacement in order to turn from a stranger to a friend. The acquisition of interpersonal relationships may seem easy, but if you don't cherish it and blindly overconsume it, it will quickly disappear.
Between friends, there are things that can be confided in each other, but the meaning of the existence of friends is not just to become another person's emotional trash can.
Always talking to someone about your troubles, over time, can upset the other person.
When I was in college, I had a friend who I felt was very close, but except for the train home and the cafeteria, she would come to me when she was unhappy. At that time, she fell in love with a boy, was rejected by the boy, and mixed with me every day, with tears.
There's nothing wrong with sharing a friend's grief, but when she came out of the shadow of the breakup, I became the person she used to eat in the restaurant.
After graduating from college, I didn't have contact, and I took the initiative to send her a few text messages, but I didn't receive a reply, and later I learned that it was because she failed the graduate school entrance examination, so she gave up all ineffective social interactions, including me.
This relationship with her taught me a lesson, so that in the future, when I meet people who just talk to me about trash emotions and don't treat me as a friend, I will stay away.
Such experiences and encounters can also serve as a reminder to everyone: relationships are expensive, don't always say bad emotions to others, no one should be your trash can, and it's better to shut up than let friendship consume.
People have seven emotions and six desires, and because they care, they will be particularly upset when they encounter unsatisfactory things.
Confiding in a friend is certainly a way to ease your emotions, but to find the right person, you can do more with less.
talk to people who don't like you, talk about their troubles, and your experience will turn into something that gloates over him, and even be promoted;Chat with friends who you think are good, and make sure that the relationship is really to the point where you don't care about each other, otherwise, you will make the other person feel that they are being taken advantage of.
Talking is a way to ease annoyance, provided you meet the right person, otherwise the knock-on effect can be even more annoying.