I know a friend, let's call him A. A is a very good person, at least from the way he usually behaves and talks in his circle of friends, you can feel that he is a thoughtful, talented, and ambitious person. Later, he was admitted to the civil service, but gradually disappeared from the circle of friends.
Their daily updates are no longer updated, and even when you reach out to them, you often don't get a timely response. These changes make one wonder: where did they go?What's wrong with them?
The focus of the new life has shifted
Many people will shift the focus of their lives after being admitted to the civil service.
They will devote more time and energy to their new work. The work of civil servants is often highly specialized and complex, requiring them to invest a lot of time and energy to learn, Xi understand and master.
Such a change has made them less active in the circle of friends, or even gradually disappear from the circle of friends.
The pressures and constraints that come with the nature of the profession
As managers and service providers of public affairs, civil servants need to be constrained by higher standards and requirements.
They need to keep a low profile and be cautious in their work, and avoid making inappropriate remarks or behaving inappropriately in public. The pressures and constraints brought about by the nature of this profession make them cautious in their expression in their circle of friends, and even choose to gradually reduce their activities on social networks.
A re-examination of the circle of friends
As their career choices change, some people take a fresh look at their circle of friends.
They may find that some people in their circle of friends do not understand or respect their career choices, and some may even question or criticize their work.
In order to avoid causing unnecessary conflict and stress in the circle of friends, they may choose to establish closer ties with those who truly understand and support them, and gradually disappear from the sight of others.
The inevitable process of personal growth
In addition to the above reasons, there are also some people who choose to gradually disappear from the circle of friends because they are going through the inevitable process of personal growth.
They may be exploring their values and life goals to find the lifestyle they really want. In the process, they may find that certain behaviors and beliefs from the past no longer align with their values and goals.
Therefore, they choose to gradually withdraw from the circle of friends to avoid conflicts with their own growth goals.
Seek a higher quality social experience
Finally, there are those who choose to disappear from their circle of friends because they are looking for a higher quality social experience.
They may feel that the social methods of the past were too superficial or inefficient to meet their needs for in-depth communication and high-quality interactions.
As a result, they choose to devote more time and energy to more meaningful things, such as reading, Xi, exercising, etc., to improve their inner qualities and social skills. In this way, they are able to build deeper, more meaningful social relationships.
To sum up, there are many reasons why civil servants disappear from the circle of friends. This doesn't mean that they're completely giving up on their social lives or the desire to stay connected with their friends, but they're looking for ways to communicate with others, share their lives, and build deep social relationships that work better for them.
Therefore, as friends and family, we should understand their choices and respect their way of life. At the same time, we can also maintain a close connection by proactively communicating with them, sharing each other's lives, and caring for their growth.