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School bullying is a nightmare for many children when they were students, even if they grow up with good friends and happy families, they will feel a chill behind them when they look back on the experience. More people wake up when they dream more than ten years after the time has passed.
The harm of school bullying is so great that the state has continuously issued policies requiring the Education Bureau to devote more energy to this matter, and parents and teachers are also vigilant against school violence.
But why is it that school violence has been repeatedly banned, and can only be held accountable after the fact, and cannot be prevented in advance?After many children are subjected to school violence, why don't they choose to seek help from their parents and teachers, but choose to carry it alone?
When many people mention that their children are bullied, they will think that parents do not care about their children and do not care about what their children sayI think it's because teachers don't pay attention to students and don't pay attention to school bullying.
But we ignore the characteristics of children at this age, and parents and teachers can't really be blamed for this, and children in this age group who are prone to school violence have many unique feelings that belong to adolescence, and how to communicate effectively with them is a difficult problem.
First of all, there are different age groups where school violence is likely to occur, and there are different measures to prevent it. For example, children at this stage of primary school do not have the same strong self-will as older children, and they are more likely to ask parents and teachers for help when encountering problems.
In the face of school bullying at this age, teachers and parents need to intervene strongly, educate children to have the courage to resist in a timely manner, and tell students about school violence against others as a negative case and guide them in time.
The most difficult age group, and at the same time the highest incidence of school violence, is the middle school level. At this age, children begin to have their own judgment ability, and it is also a stage of rapid development of self-awareness, and school bullying at this stage is very difficult to prevent.
Children of this age often do not choose to tell teachers and parents after being bullied at school, and most likely choose to tell their friends around them, if they meet a friend with a strong sense of justice, the child will not lose confidence in the people around him.
If you run into a weak friend, that friend may cause more harm to the friend who is being bullied. In such a desperate environment, children are likely to make extreme choices, such as ending their own lives.
Why do children at this age choose to hide it and not tell their parents and teachers when they encounter school bullying?The reasons for not telling teachers and parents are different, and each has its own characteristics, so let's analyze the reasons behind this today.
First, let's talk about why children choose not to tell their parents
The first reason is that children are very sensible and do not want to tell their parents to let their parents worry about themselves.
This type of child is the most persistent, they firmly believe that they should be able to endure it, and do not want to add more unnecessary pressure to their parents. In this case, even if the teachers and parents find out, they will just bite themselves to death and not be bullied.
This kind of child is the most distressing, even though he is still a child, he always wants to protect more people, and he feels that he cannot share the pressure for his parents, and he must not add pressure to his parents.
The second reason is that these children generally distrust their parents after being bullied. They are not afraid that their parents will not believe it, but that they are afraid that their parents will come out. They don't trust their parents' ability to solve problems, and they feel that it will be worse if they let their parents know.
Adolescent children tend to be more concerned about self-esteem and face. If parents are always very irrational and emotional in dealing with their children's problems, it will make their children distrust their parents even more and choose to hide it.
This kind of child thinks that it is a very shameful thing for them to be bullied at school, and they have to endure the ridicule of the classmates who bully them every day.
If the matter is further expanded, so that all the classmates around him who don't know about it come to watch him, the child will feel even more embarrassed. He would be afraid that other classmates would think that they were spineless to bear this kind of bullying, so they would ask their parents for help.
Elementary school students like to sue their teachers, but this situation will change a lot after entering junior high school, and children will be very disgusted with the matter of suing teachers, and they will prefer to solve it by themselves rather than by their parents.
The reasons why children are reluctant to tell the teacher are more complicated, one of the reasons is that they are embarrassed to tell the teacher for fear of ruining the teacher's image of themselves.
If a child at this age likes a teacher very much, he hopes that he is perfect in front of this teacher, and if he takes the initiative to tell the teacher that he has been bullied, he will feel that his image in the teacher's heart has become weak and incompetent.
Let's not say that the teacher doesn't see this matter in his heart, but children of this age are generally more sensitive and will think about many things that everyone thinks are unnecessary, which is also one of the most difficult reasons to prevent school violence, and children at this age are even more extreme.
Another reason is that they feel that the teacher will not care about them, that they are looking for trouble. Teachers who usually have a contemptuous attitude towards what happens between students are more likely to have this kind of thinking, and teachers should correct children's wrong views in time.
The last and often the most lethal reason for these children to seek help is school violence, and their children are good students in the teacher's mouth, loved by the teacher, and they feel that the teacher will not stand up for them.
Because they don't study well and are not popular with teachers. These are all reasons why children will think too much.
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