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In our lives, we will always meet all kinds of people, some of whom are naturally fond of us, and some of whom are full of malice towards us.
When faced with a person who does not respect us, the most competent way to deal with it is not to seek compromise, let alone argue with reason, but to use the following three steps to silence the other party in a more intelligent way.
01: Skip the emotions and stay away from those people
Whether the other party disagrees with us or speaks ill of us, we as the injured party always feel aggrieved and easily controlled by angry emotions.
When we are in a hurry to explain, we will say the wrong things and do the wrong things on impulse, and the gains outweigh the losses.
At this time, the most important thing we need to do is to remain silent, stay away from people who are right and wrong, and let ourselves regain our composure and sanity.
Temporarily escaping the scene does not mean that we are running away from the problem or acquiescing to the other person.
On the contrary, it is to allow us to better control our emotions, so that we can clear our minds and not be carried away by the momentary anger and do impulsive and demented things.
The best way to deal with people who are interested in teasing us is not to respond immediately, so that they will find it boring and naturally bored.
This is also the time to calm down as soon as possible and help us get rid of negative emotions.
If you still can't calm down, do something you like to help us relieve anxiety and reduce our psychological burden.
02: Mild introspection, heavy self-insistence
When the mood is calm, the next step is to do some self-reflection.
Of course, this is not a tacit acquiescence to the other party's rhetoric, but a shallow examination of the self to help us understand our own problems and the reasons for the other party's conflict.
When we are able to face ourselves, we will not be blinded by feeling superior, let alone arrogant.
When we do that, we will believe from the bottom of our hearts that we are a person who is always vigilant, a person who can adjust in time even if we deviate.
We understand each other's positions and emotions better, and we no longer struggle with why others treat us the way they treat us.
However, the premise of all this is to look at each other, not to be humble.
Moreover, even if you reflect on yourself, you should be moderate, don't blame yourself excessively, and don't deny yourself completely.
If we don't have problems, we should stick to ourselves and not change our principles and established behavior trajectory because of the attitude of others.
Otherwise, we will get lost in other people's comments and become feathers drifting in the wind.
03: Be a better person and wow others
When we find out that it is not my fault, the most powerful way to fight back in the face of disrespectful people is to become a better person.
This not only proves that we are right, but also shows our maturity and self-confidence.
To become a better person, you need to keep learning and growing, and improve your self-cultivation and ability.
Only those who have strength but no virtue, and only those who have no moral ability, are not enough to be admired by all, and there will always be people who will find out our weaknesses and attack us.
Therefore, only by constantly surpassing ourselves can we make them look up to us forever and make them always ashamed of themselves.
At the same time, maintaining a positive attitude and an optimistic attitude are also the characteristics of a mature and wise person.
The voice of not being criticized fills our lives, and only by standing higher and looking farther can we make our minds calm and always look forward to a better future.
At that time, we became better people, so that those who once wanted to demean us were amazed and ashamed, and naturally had no fighting spirit at all, so they stopped talking nonsense.
The Weakness of Human Nature writes that if a person is criticized by others, it is because criticizing him will give the other person a very important feeling, that is, that the person is accomplished and attention-grabbing, and it will attract others to obtain satisfaction by blaming people who are more powerful than themselves.
People who don't know how to respect others can always focus on criticizing others instead of improving themselves.
As long as we hold our breath and concentrate on our own business, we will become more and more distant from them, until we become people of two worlds, and there is no intersection again.
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