One step forward is happiness, one step back is loneliness, and standing still will be empty on the road of love.
I once heard a friend say that she met his boyfriend at the age of the beginning of love, she liked her boyfriend very much, she could do anything for her boyfriend, and she had completely lost herself in front of her boyfriend, and later when her boyfriend proposed to break up, she once wanted to die.
She has always wondered why he would break up if I was so good to him, and I was reluctant to buy things that I was reluctant to buy
How to Hug a Hedgehog 2 is a book on the nine most common patterns of singleness, what kind of behavior and feelings people in single patterns in intimate relationships, and how the person they fantasize about entering into an intimate relationship will behave and feel;How they should take the first step.
The author of this book is Duan Xinxing, a professor at the School of Public Administration at China University of Mining and Technology and a Ph.D. in Developmental and Educational Psychology at Beijing Normal University. He is the author of "Compulsory Course in Love Psychology" and other works, which have been highly acclaimed.
Take the missed single, for example, he may be immersed in the past, unable to extricate himself, and unable to get along well with the current one, because he is always in a comparison. What can I do to get myself out faster?
The first is to stop attacking yourself.
After being broken up, my friend was obsessed with it for a long time and felt that he was not good enough, so his boyfriend broke up with him;Feeling that she is not rich enough, her boyfriend breaks her up;Feeling that she was not beautiful enough, her boyfriend broke up ...... her
Until one day, a sister she admires very much tells her that you can't love yourself well, how can others love you?Get yourself back first, love yourself well, be yourself, and others will respect you and love you.
She woke up like a blow to the head, and it turned out that the problem was here. When we love someone very much, we hold him in the palm of our hands for fear of dropping, and we are afraid of melting in our mouths, and we are careful every day, but we still do not keep our love. Falling out of love is not a bad thing, and she can make us better aware of our own shortcomings.
Love, which is both an ability and a kind of cultivation, is acquired through learning. When we experience the frustration of falling out of love again and again, we must learn to be self-consistent.
Yishu also wrote: "What you have lost has never really belonged to you, and there is no need to regret it." ”
The second is to say goodbye to the past emotionally.
What do friends do?He threw all the things related to his boyfriend in the trash, changed a new mobile phone number directly, cut his hair, and silently told himself in his heart to start over.
She began to focus on her work, and it didn't take long for her work to improve a lot, and her whole person became more and more confidentAlthough sometimes she also recalls the bits and pieces of her past with her boyfriend, she quickly reminds herself psychologically that all this is in the past tense and there is nothing to miss.
Decisively cut off all contact with the other party. Give yourself a strong psychological hint that the past is in the past, and everything is looking forward.
The third is to actively look for love.
My friend said that after he fell out of love, he rarely touched love again because he was afraid of being hurt again. However, she has a friend who has a happy married life, but she is envious.
Friends around her have also introduced her boyfriend one after another, and she is slowly healing herself and persuading herself. A friend is a military wife, so she was introduced to a soldier. She wasn't optimistic about this boyfriend at first, but as she got to know each other, she slowly accepted this soldier brother, and the thorns on her body slowly softened;However, this love affair made her a lot more rational, and I heard her say that they got married later.
Find someone who resonates at the same frequency, and love is by your side.
Write at the end:
Believe that everything is the best arrangement.
There are cracks in life so that the sun can shine in. There are bumps in the road, and people become strong.
How to Hug a Hedgehog 2 This book is suitable for all those who are looking forward to entering an intimate relationship but do not know how to take the first step, and feel anxious about problems in a relationship, can help you understand yourself, understand your lover, and understand love.
Let the flowers become flowers, let the trees become trees, see the mountains are mountains, see the sea is the sea, be a person who cherishes the present, focuses on the present, and embraces the "Roman Road" of new life.