I have a child who has been working in a position for 2 years, and I heard his mother say 3 times, "I am not happy with this job, and he wants to quit".
However, he has not resigned until now.
Although he didn't like his current job, he didn't have the courage to quit because he didn't know what to do after quitting and what he could do.
In fact, in daily life, there are many people who, like him, don't like their current job, but stick to it;Not suitable for the current job, but holding on;Frequent job changes, anxiety;I don't want to work at all, and I gnaw on my old ......
Confused, hesitating, lying flat ...... about themselves and their work
Today, reading Grandma Hengzhi's "The World is Worth It", with 70 years of experience in psychological counseling, she has helped countless people get out of the confusion and predicament of life, follow their hearts, be true to themselves, and create a wonderful life.
Her understanding and advice on work are very inspiring for you who are confused and hesitant about work.
Focus on the present moment and enjoy the fun and results of your work
Many people face their current work, and they don't know the bottom of their hearts, as if they are always coping with pain, and they are not happy at all.
When asked the reason, it was either "the company has no future", or "this job is not suitable for me", or "I lost the goal ......of my job and was very confused".
Grandma Hengzhi said: Thinking too much, thinking too much;If you think too far and expect too much, you will be easily disappointed and anxious.
So, sometimes, the reason why people are miserable and confused is because they think too much and do too little.
It doesn't help to worry about the future, because no one can predict the future.
Thinking too much and too far, it is better to focus on the present, think clearly about today's things, and do it well, neither much pressure nor confusion.
Once upon a time, an old monk and a little monk went down the mountain to make a relationship, and when they returned to the foot of the mountain, it was already dark.
The little monk looked ahead and asked the old monk worriedly: "* It's so dark, the road is so far, there are cliffs on the mountain, all kinds of monsters, we only have this little lantern, how can we get home?"”
The old monk looked at him and calmly said three words: "Look at the feet".
Focus on every step of the moment, take every step well, walk steadily, accumulate step by step, and you will definitely be able to reach the destination.
It's the same with work, don't think about the unknown future, focus on every little thing at present, complete your work steadfastly and seriously, and try to experience the happiness that work brings you, so as to achieve the unity of knowledge and action.
You will find that when you focus on the present moment, not only do you feel relaxed, but the things you focus on accumulate little by little, which will surprise and satisfy you.
When you have the ability to do the present moment, you will be pleasantly surprised to find that your worries have disappeared.
If you often think too much, you might as well go back to the present moment and do what you should do best.
Grandma Hengzhi said"In any case, don't ignore what's in front of you, it's the most important thing.
Whether it's your job, your children, or your housework, you can't make your current life messy and downcast. ”
Therefore, unrealistic problems, think less, do the things in front of you well, and actively strive to achieve the optimal solution, which is not only easy, but also under the cumulative superposition blessing of every day, the beauty you expect will come unexpectedly.
Just like Hengzhi's grandmother said: don't base all your self-worth on work, and work with the idea of "doing a little bit for the people around you", maybe it will be better.
Facing the long life with such a mindset may be crucial.
It's better to do work than to think about it
Grandma Hengzi said:"Too much free time can sometimes have a negative impact, but it's better to be properly busy.
Of course, it would be great if you could find your dream job.
But this situation is like buying a lottery ticket, it is difficult to meet but not to find, keep working, maybe one day you will come across a job that you like.
With such a mentality, the inexplicable pressure and troubles at work will disappear. ”
I remember the program "Gold Medal Mediation", a mother applied for mediation of her son's gnawing old age.
Her son is 35 years old and has a lot of jobs, but he doesn't do them for a few days, and he doesn't like all the jobs.
Later, I simply stopped working and gnawed at home.
The elderly parents were exhausted, sad, and powerless for his affairs.
There are many young people around us who are old at home, saying that they can't find a job or don't like it.
Speaking from the heart, even if you have a mine and money at home, but you don't work, eat, drink and have fun, you will get tired of it, and others will get tired of you. And your parents are not immortals, they can cover you for a lifetime.
We are all ordinary mortals, and in order to live, we have to work.
If you don't like it, who will pay for your life?
Therefore, it is better to do than to think blindly, and it is better to act than to think, and action is a good medicine to promote work.
In fact, when you try to go out, interact with the world, and experience and solve problems in the interaction, you will appreciate the value and meaning that work brings to you.
It is through interaction with the world that people are trained and grown through continuous problem solving.
Before the age of 88, Grandma Hengzhi worked 6 days a week, and the daily work schedule was very full.
When I was young, I had to go out to work because I couldn't rely on my parentsWhen she doesn't need to run around for life, her mindset is "you have to keep working".
Mr. Yang Jiang also said that people must stay busy, it is the cheapest medicine in the world, once people are busy, their emotions will be less, and their worries and distractions will be gone.
Therefore, a lazy life makes people listless, a busy life makes people energetic, life is short, and busyness makes life more abundant.
Therefore, there is no difference between the days of sitting and eating and waiting for death and salted fish, and people have to experience and experience it when they are alive.
Try to work, and only when you have something to do can you be fulfilling, and only then can you create the value and meaning of life.
It's up to you to decide whether to stay or stay at work
Nowadays, the social economy tends to be flat, the workplace competition is fierce, some people are bullied in the workplace, harassed by superiors, some people continue to work overtime, rest and sleep are not guaranteed, and some people are excluded and isolated ......
Causing harm to people's physical, mental and spiritual conditions, family members are uneasy, and they are also worried.
But it is strange that some people, even though they are physically and mentally exhausted, are still distressed and "do not want to flee".
Grandma Hengzhi said"If work makes you make great sacrifices, you must leave decisively and without hesitation. ”
Some people may say that you don't have back pain when you stand up.
But do we work to stay up late, get angry, and get hurt?
If you are in a depressed, fearful and worrying work environment for a long time, your body and mind will have problems sooner or later, and physical and mental health is the greatest confidence for a person's life.
Therefore, if you feel that "this job is not beneficial to you" or "you can't bear it anymore", you must make up your mind to leave decisively before you are physically and mentally harmed, and you must leave confidently and gracefully.
Leaving is also one of the driving forces that change your life.
Of course, Grandma Hengzhi also advises not to think about acting when you are physically and mentally exhausted, but to be well prepared when you are physically and energetic, and then make wise choices.
And try to do a good job in the aftermath, after all, people will get married, and they will meet again.
I remember that when I first applied for a transfer, the higher authorities appointed me to be in charge of the work of the two units without consulting me.
Considering that her husband had just passed away and her children needed to be taken care of, she was physically and mentally exhausted at the time, and she had no desire to be a leader, so she applied for a reassignment.
Although the process was difficult, considering my limited ability, I was still very resolute, and after two months, I changed my career to another department.
Therefore, it is up to you to decide whether to work or not, after all, you know your body and mind, you understand your own situation, and you have to be responsible for your own life.
Therefore, you must have a clear judgment about whether you want to go or stay in your work.
Some parents are afraid that their children will find it difficult to find a job, so they always nag "endure it if you can, and persist if you can." ”
But even parents can't fully empathize with your feelings.
If you encounter problems at work, it is of course good to take the initiative to change the work in front of you through your own efforts;If you try your best and you still can't change, then consider the aftermath.
But, no matter what, you have to live your own life, because your life is to choose and write by yourself.
Write at the end
Franklin said"Laziness is like rust, and it consumes the body more than hard work;Often-used keys, always shiny. ”
In life, you need to experience and see;The destiny of life needs to be chosen and fulfilled;The value of life needs to be reflected in the interaction with the world.
And all of this has to be interacted with and embodied in the work.
Work is an important part of our lives, not only to meet the survival and living needs of ourselves and our families, but also an important means to realize self-worth and pursue a better life.
Therefore, when dealing with work, we must follow our hearts and live our own livesYou should also consider reality, learn to focus on the present moment and take action, and slowly adjust your self-balance, and you will gain a different life.