I don't know if you remember a clip from "SpongeBob SquarePants", where SpongeBob SquarePants was invited to participate in a weightlifting competition. But he couldn't lift it.
And when he saw others lifting up, there were cheers, and SpongeBob SquarePants's heart was very lost. At this time, SpongeBob is lifting two marshmallow branches, but SpongeBob still can't lift them.
And at this time, an accident suddenly happened, and I heard a "tear", and SpongeBob SquarePants's pants were torn because of too much force, which caused laughter.
Since then, SpongeBob SquarePants has been performing every day. And every time he was able to make people laugh, only soon that was over.
People also began to dislike his performances, and slowly began to distance themselves from him. Eventually, even his best friend began to leave him.
In fact, when I saw this clip when I was a child, I didn't feel anything, so much so that I didn't think it was a flattery at all.
So much so that many years later, when I was watching "SpongeBob SquarePants," he used his experience to tell us a truth: that is, never try to please anyone.
Indeed, when I saw this clip when I was young, I didn't feel anything, so much so that I didn't think it was a flattery at all.
At that time, I just thought that SpongeBob SquarePants was doing all this just to be funny. But now, when I see this scene, I realize that this is actually telling us that it is useless to please others in life.
As there is a saying: "The most essential reason why people are tired is that they are trapped in shackles and cannot break through the bottleneck of life." ”
Yes, as we experience more and more, we also understand more and more that many times in life, what we have to do is not please others.
Of course, this is not to say that we cannot be nice to others, and we need to treat others well, but we must understand that being nice to others does not mean that we need to be pleased.
Because we all know how to please at every turn. The end result is like SpongeBob SquarePants, not feeling happy and not becoming happy.
Yes, pleasing others, we are the only ones who are sad in the end.
It's like in psychology there is a personality called the "people-pleasing personality." The so-called people-pleasing personality is simply a person who likes to please others.
In life, I always cater to others, and I don't know how to refuse other people's requests. Be "responsive" to others. It's just that this responsiveness is actually maintained by being sad about oneself.
It's as if I've seen a story about a wife with a people-pleasing personality and her husband attending a party. While attending a party, she accidentally fell herself.
And this fall also hurt his arm. But she didn't want to spoil the party environment herself. So she pretended that nothing was going on.
Not only that, but she also carries various other things with her. Until she has done everything that others have asked her to do. But she didn't get the gratitude of others for what she did.
So!On the road of life, what we should do is not always think about pleasing others. Because pleasing others is not for us to be cherished by others. On the contrary, it only increases the probability of not being cherished.
And that's exactly what happened. Of course, we all know this, after all, the root of flattery is that we want to get the love of others through please, and we are afraid of being hated by others.
It's just that a lot of things in reality are telling us one thing, and that is that pleasing people has no effect on the relationship between people.
Because people are always like this, things that are too easy to get are always unwilling to cherish. Therefore, in the process of interpersonal interaction, we need to know. It's not about pleasing to get what you want.
People should be equal in their interactions, and only in this way can such relationships last. It's like the SpongeBob SquarePants experience.
Isn't it SpongeBob SquarePants who tells us through his own experience: never try to please anyone.
Text|Ming Fusheng.
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