This year, I was 32 years old, and I have been married to my wife Lin Lan for 5 years. Speaking of which, our married life is happy, except for the occasional small quarrels, basically there are no major problems. Lin Lan has a docile personality, takes care of housework and is virtuous and capable, and she takes care of our 3-year-old son Xiaobao at home when I go to work. I work in sales in a foreign company, and my work is relatively smooth.
I felt that something was wrong, so I asked my mother: "Mom, Lin Lan said that you let her go back to her hometown and take Li Lei to see the house, what's going on?"”
My mother said, "Son, don't worry. It's my mother who wants Li Lei to come to the city to develop, and it just so happens that there is a house for rent in your community, which happens to be rented to Li Lei, and your brothers live together, which is also convenient to take care of. "
I still think it's very strange: "But Mom, Li Lei didn't say that he wanted to come to the city to develop before, and you didn't mention it to me, why did you suddenly decide to let him move here?"”
My mother was very resolute: "Son, this is for the sake of the overall situation of our family. Li Lei is not interesting in his hometown alone, it just so happens that he is also old, and it is time to form a family. With the care of your brothers, it is also convenient to take care of the elderly. "
I was very embarrassed when I heard it, and I felt a little wrong: "But you should also ask me and Lin Lan's opinions in advance, right?"If you suddenly decide like this, and make arrangements without telling us, Lin Lan will feel uncomfortable. "
My mother disagreed: "My daughter-in-law should listen to her parents-in-law, this is based on the overall situation, she should be more interesting, and go back to her hometown for a while." Don't make a mess, listen to Mom's arrangement, Mom is for your good. "
I was really aggrieved and puzzled by my mother's strong style. As an elder, I have always been very obedient and filial. After getting married, I often took Lin Lan and my children home to visit my parents, and fulfilled the filial piety that a son should have. But this time, my mother didn't discuss with me on such an important matter at all, and made decisions for me and my wife on her own. My relationship with my wife has always been very good, we have never had a big fight, and our family is harmonious and happy. My mom makes me feel like an outsider.
I hurriedly called Lin Lan ** and persuaded her softly: "Wife, don't listen to my mother, hurry up and go home, and when you come back, we will explain to my mother." "
Lin Lan's tone was full of helplessness: "I've arrived at the train station, and the tickets have been bought, your mother has to let me go back today." I'm also very embarrassed. "
I couldn't help but raise my voice: "Then why didn't you discuss with me, just listen to my mother and buy a ticket to go back?."I'm your husband, so you should ask me about this kind of big thing, right?"
Lin Lan said aggrievedly: "It's also difficult for me to do it, you know your mother's temper, what can I do as a daughter-in-law?"I told her earlier that you might not agree, but she insisted that I go back. "
I hung up silently and sighed in my heart. Now I think it's not easy. I called my brother Li Lei and asked bluntly: "Li Lei, I heard that you are moving to our community to live?"Why did you decide without any rumors?"
Li Lei's tone was very ambiguous: "Brother, this matter is still mentioned by my mother, I think it's okay, it just so happens that my place of work is close to your community, and it is very convenient to commute if you move over." "
I raised my voice and said, "But you decided to move for such a big matter without discussing it with your brother-in-law in advance, which will affect the lives of me and Lin Lan, don't you consider our feelings?""
Li Lei said half-jokingly: "Brother, don't be surprised, anyway, I also like the house, so I'm about to sign the contract." It's a matter of time before you move, so you can let it go. "
I hung up **, my brain was messing around, and I always felt that something wasn't quite right. My mother forcefully arranged for my wife to go back to her parents' house, and asked my brother to move in with us suddenly, which was too hasty and did not take into account my wife's feelings at all.
I could only call my mother again and tell my worries: "Mom, I don't think this is right." You are in charge of family affairs, but you have not considered Lin Lan's thoughts at all. This will have a great impact on our relationship as a couple. "
My mom said impatiently, "Son, you're thinking too much. Mom just wants your brother to be close to you and take care of each other, which is a good thing for the whole family. Don't just think about your and your daughter-in-law's feelings, you should think about the big picture. "
I explained to my mother very seriously: "But Mom, every major matter in a family should be resolved through negotiation, including the opinions of my son and daughter-in-law. You make such a strong arrangement, and you make the decision without telling us, it will really break Lin Lan's heart. There's no reason for you to let her go back to her hometown, our husband and wife have a good relationship. "
Not only did my mom not realize the seriousness of the problem, but she was angry and said, "You just spoil your wife too much, and the shrew on your head!."I worked hard to raise you, can't you listen to your mother?I have good intentions for your brother to come here, and it is also for the sake of our family. You can't get along with me for a daughter-in-law, so you divorce her!"
I've rarely heard my mom talk so angrily, and I don't feel good about it. But thinking of how important my wife is to me, I still said very seriously:
Mom, I can choose not to want you, the mother who gave birth to me and raised me, for the sake of Lin Lan!If I had to choose between you and my wife, I would only choose my wife!"
When I said this, my tone was very emotional. I know that with my usual personality, I would not normally do this against my mother. But I really can't accept my mother using this kind of ** attitude to dominate my life, and I don't take my wife's feelings and those of my eyes into account.
Since your mother is so strong, let's sell the house and divorce. I can't stand your mother's control. "
When I heard this, my heart was like a knife, and I hurriedly begged softly: "Wife, calm down, let's not be impulsive." This kind of family dispute can be resolved through communication, don't choose to divorce because of my mother's momentary mistake. "
Lin Lan's tone was very resolute: "I figured it out, under this kind of distorted family relationship, I can't be happy. You should also think about yourself, get out of your mother's control, and live your own life!”
I can't believe my wife is thinking of divorce, our marriage is so important to me that it can't just end like this.
I begged her with red eyes: "The child is still young, and you are reluctant to leave him, right?"We have also been very affectionate over the years, don't deny our feelings because of this incident. Give us a chance!"
Lin Lan said coldly: "I will pick up the child and live with me." As for feelings, they are not worth mentioning in the eyes of your mother at all. Divorce is good for both parties. "
I saw that my wife's attitude was so resolute, and my heart was like ashes. This argument not only put me in danger of losing my love, but also made me painfully aware that I was drifting away from the mother who gave birth to me and raised me. I was so sad that I couldn't control my emotions, and at the same time I felt extremely angry.
I was pacing back and forth anxiously at home alone, and my mind was full of my wife's decision to leave. The sweet bits and pieces of our time have come to naught, and my world seems to be falling apart. Is our marriage really going to collapse like this?I crouched on the ground with my head covered, tears streaming uncontrollably. I simply can't accept this brutal truth.
Just when I was desperate, my mother called**, and her tone softened: "Son, Mom has figured it out, it was Mom who didn't think it through before, and I can't make a decision regardless of your and daughter-in-law's feelings." Mom was wrong. You young people need your own living space, and I shouldn't impose interference. Forget about letting your brother move in, it's okay for him to rent a house himself. and daughter-in-law, you don't need to let her go back to her parents' house, you can live a good life. Mom knows it's wrong, you forgive Mom this time. "
I cried and said to my mother, "It's too late to correct your mistakes." Lin Lan has decided to divorce, and our marriage is about to come to an end, which is all caused by you. "
My brother also called** and said, "Brother, I won't mention the matter of moving in with you." You and your sister-in-law have a hard relationship, and you can't break up because of this discord. Young people, sometimes you are really impulsive, you have to be more considerate of Lin Lan. Hold on, your marriage can be saved!"
I know they're all trying to make up for their mistakes, but it's too late. I called Lin Lan with red eyes, and truthfully repeated my mother's apology.
To my surprise, Lin Lan's tone softened: "Actually, I'm just angry for a while, and it's a bit impulsive to say that I want a divorce." After all, the relationship for so many years is no joke. As long as your mom doesn't interfere with us too much, I can consider continuing this marriage. "
I was so excited that I almost cried: "Thank you so much!".I promise that you will be able to live the life you want in the future, and that you will no longer be at the mercy of my mother. We're going to be able to get married. "
Lin Lan smiled and said, "Actually, I am reluctant to leave you and my son. As long as your mother doesn't interfere with us anymore, I can continue to be a good wife and mother. "
I excitedly thanked Lin Lan for her last tolerance. We have simply gone through the ups and downs of life to continue to be together. I swear that I will give her happiness wholeheartedly in the future, and let my mother meddle in our family again!
After this family turmoil, I was disappointed with what my mother had done. But Lin Lan's tolerance and kindness gave me hope that our marriage could still continue.