Don't self-internal friction is a sentence that everyone often mentions recently, so what is self-internal friction?It's just that they often get caught up in some things that make them tangled up for no reason, and even if these things happen, they don't hurt, but these people will always be extra exhausted by these things.
I believe that everyone will have such a situation, the work assessment is like a sea, the pressure is like a mountain, and if you want to be promoted, the road ahead is difficult;In life, car loans and housing loans, people are sophisticated, and people are unskilled;Emotionally, it will always backfire, and what you get is not proportional to what you give. What you want is always unobtainable, and what you don't want is always entangled around you. Therefore, everyone will always fall into a kind of internal friction and feel that everything is not satisfactory.
In fact, every age group will have its own troubles, and people of every age will envy people of other ages. Young people envy the financial freedom of middle-aged people, middle-aged people envy the comfortable life of the elderly after retirement, and the elderly envy the youthful youth and unlimited opportunities. Life seems to be an endless closed loop, we always hold the present in our hands, but we are always nostalgic for what we can't get, how to reconcile with ourselves and not consume ourselves is a lesson that must be learned in life.
Everyone has different personality traits, and if you want to avoid internal friction, you must first understand yourself. American psychology professor Jane MDr. Tenger and WDr. Keith Campbell's co-authored book, The Psychology of Personality, tells us that everyone has different personality traits that lead us to behave differently in different situations. For example, some people will retreat in the face of pressure, while others will choose to rise to the occasionSome people are nervous and scared days in advance of something that hasn't happened yet, while others are just going to come and take it in stride at any time. The root cause of these different expressions is due to different personality traits.
The book Psychology of Personality divides personality traits into five broad categories, which are extraversion, agreeableness, conscientiousness, neuroticism, and openness.
Extroverts are more willing to engage in interpersonal interactions, be willing to be leaders, and enjoy group activities, which is what we now call "social". Extroverts are more popular with everyone, and the atmosphere of the place where they are always quickly activated, they are cute, funny, and can stimulate the inner enthusiasm of others. Extroverts don't seem to have troubles, they are natural optimists, and the word internal friction is almost non-existent in them. However, extroverts have a big disadvantage, that is, it is difficult to continue to do something quietly and continuously. In fact, most people still have an extroverted and introverted personality at the same time, and if a person is a pure extroverted personality, it seems quite scary.
Pleasant personality traits are very trusting, very sensitive to the needs of others, and compassionate, they are honest, humble and obedient, and do not want to conflict with others. They are very empathetic, and being friends with them makes you feel cared for all the time. However, if this characteristic is too obvious, it is easy to become a "good old man" in the eyes of everyone, and they will not refute others and will not put forward bad opinions. So, if you can't make up your mind when shopping, be sure to ask your friends who are not pleasant, because they will give real comments and opinions.
Conscientious people are organized, like to plan ahead, always have a plan to do things, they will not fight unprepared battles, they like countless drills in advance, they are diligent and responsible, they can overcome all kinds of difficulties, and finally achieve their goals. Studies have found that people with high conscientiousness are more mentally healthy and mature because they have higher willpower and are able to motivate themselves to exercise and eat reasonably. Conscientious people are probably the most perfect of the five personalities, whether in career or life, people with high conscientiousness can achieve better results and have a more stable life.
A neurotic personality is generally a type of personality that easily experiences negative emotions. They are easily angry, depressed, anxious, and at the same time self-conscious. It is easy to suffer from gains and losses, and it is easy to worry and be afraid, so they are what we often say are people who are particularly prone to mental exhaustion. For example, Lin Daiyu in the four famous novels "Dream of Red Mansions" that we are familiar with, she is sentimental and often sheds tears before speaking, she is a highly neurotic personality. It is important to know that most people with high levels of neuroticism are prone to mental problems.
It's easy to confuse openness and extraversion, but there is a difference. People with a high level of openness like to try new things, like to take on challenges, are willing to travel everywhere, and have a lot of complicated and strange ideas. People with high openness traits like to travel, and they prefer to accept new things, experience different experiences and think different things. If you're going to start an innovative company, then make sure to hire people with a high level of openness, who are all creative and creative. People with a high level of pioneering personality are the ones with the highest intelligence among the five personality traits and also live longer.
Through the above simple interpretation of the five personalities, I believe that everyone has a certain understanding of themselves, in fact, everyone is complex, there is not only one personality trait, understand yourself, in order to live a better life!