"Jinxin Like Jade" is a dreamy **, compared with the original "Raiders of the Concubine", it adds a bit of romance, but it lacks a sense of reality. In this work, Xu Lingyi is not a son-in-law who is as deep as the sea in the traditional sense, but the head of the Xu family who is in charge of the family as a young man, a marquis of Yongping who dominates the court, and an uncle of the country who is above and below ten thousand people. His life is full of power and responsibility, and every word and action needs to be carefully considered, including his marriage.
Xu Lingyi had seven women in her life, each with their own characteristics, like budding flowers in a garden. Yuan Niang is his wife, Eleven Niang is his partner, and Aunt Qiao, Aunt Wen, Aunt Tong, Aunt Qin and Aunt Yang are different scenery in his life. However, people can't help but ask, why Xu Lingyi prefers Eleven Niang after all the glory, is it just because of love?
This is not the case. Even though they love each other, there is a brutal truth hidden behind their marriage. This kind of unequal relationship, love that is not respected, has an enduring rumor in the Hou Mansion. There was once a gentle and kind woman Tong Biyu who made Xu Lingyi look the other way, but she died early. When Eleven Niang first started, she was also blinded to the truth. She gradually discovered that Xu Lingyi's feelings for Tong Biyu may only be pity for a gentle woman, not love. In Xu Lingyi's heart, his wife has the right to talk to him.
When her daughter Sister Zhen reaches the age of twenty-eight years, she needs to choose a good family for her. Aunt Wen was so anxious about this that she couldn't sit and lie down every day. However, Xu Lingyi never communicated with her about the child. After Aunt Qiao entered the door, the child was lost due to mistaken medicine, Xu Lingyi not only did not give comfort, but thought that she had not fulfilled her duty as a concubine.
This work shows the true side of the life of a wealthy family, while also revealing the multiple contradictions of power, responsibility, love and marriage. Although Xu Lingyi prefers Eleven Niang in love, his identity and concept make it impossible for him to really invest in emotions. This is the complex and real humanity shown in "The Heart of Jade". In a prosperous era, her eyes are cold, her eyebrows are raised, as if she is dealing with all accusations and criticisms;And Aunt Qin was completely disgusted by Xu Lingyi because she interfered in the affairs of Eleven Niang many times. Xu Lingyi's attitude towards concubines is very clear: they are subordinates of the high masters, and they are vines born of attachment. In this unequal relationship, Xu Lingyi couldn't hear the voices of his aunts, nor could he feel their love for him. The impression they left in his mind was only the words "obedient and obedient". In that particular era, the aunts were like his exclusive pets, and his will was their guide to action, how could this relationship last long?
However, whether it is the original Yuan Niang or the current Eleven Niang, Xu Lingyi has given enough respect and patience. In the book, although Yuan Niang and Xu Lingyi can only wait and see each other, their relationship is no longer what it once was. Xu Lingyi adheres to the unshakable position of Yuan Niang, and although Eleven Niang is young, she has begun to preside over housekeeping and has become the undisputed head of the family.
Their story begins when they met at the wrong time and failed to cherish each other. However, Eleven Niang entered Xu Lingyi's heart through long-term love. Before marrying Xu Lingyi, Eleven Niang knew that he already had many children, and she knew that she would be their stepmother. She accepts them and educates them with kindness and love. She knows how to treat them, whether it is Brother Zhen, Brother Yu or Sister Zhen, she gives them the best life and care. Under her education, Jin Ge grew into a valiant general.
Xu Lingyi saw all this in his eyes and remembered it in his heart. He saw Eleven Niang's kindness and pure heart, so he cherished her incomparably. If his choice was wrong at the beginning, the result now is his compensation and cherishing of her. All this proves that his vision and choice were correct.
In this story, the power of kindness cannot be ignored. It is only when you truly feel and experience it that you can truly understand its value. This is the story of Eleven Niang, she treats every child with kindness and love, allowing them to grow up independently and become themselves under her guidance. And all this, Xu Lingyi saw it in his eyes and remembered it in his heart. He saw her kindness and purity of heart, so he regarded her as a treasure. This is their story, a story of kindness, respect, and understanding. In ancient times, people's marriage paid attention to the right family, which was a system of marrying women from high families and marrying women from low families. If the Luo family does not have the death of Yuan Niang, and they urgently need a "mother" to take care of Brother Chen, then Eleven Niang, as a concubine, is not qualified to enter the Xu family. However, the fate of Eleven Niang did not bleak from there. She doesn't have a dowry with ten miles of red makeup, and she doesn't have a family to support, so she struggles in this marriage. But she understands that if she gets it wrong, it's an abyss. Therefore, she set her relationship with Xu Lingyi as "boss and subordinate" to cope with this challenging marital environment.
Some people once thought that this idea of Eleven Niang was too profit-oriented, and it had too little to do with feelings?However, it was precisely because of Shi Niang's accurate self-perception that she had a firm foothold in the Hou Mansion and Xu Lingyi took care of her in every way. In real life, we often hear people complaining: "I'm fed up with these days, what's the point of arguing with him every day?".I don't want to take it anymore, I'm going to divorce him!"However, when we calm down, we will find that divorce sometimes does not solve the problem. Life is not a fairy tale, and adults have to face much more than you think: growing children's school fees, aging parents, monthly mortgage and car loans, etc., all of which weigh on us like mountains.
Let's look at Shi Niang again, she is a selfish person, who seems to be indifferent to the children on the surface, and even framed everywhere. However, that doesn't mean she doesn't have a heart. She just sees the children as "the enemy of the **" and is on guard everywhere. As a father, it is impossible for Xu Lingyi to ignore this. The love of parents and children is far-reaching. For the sake of his beloved children, he will take action to fight back. Such actions are bound to cause harm to the feelings of the couple. However, we can't just look at the surface. A woman who can carry it well will find her own direction in marriage. She will be aware of her own shortcomings, including family and loved ones. At the same time, she also understands the truth of loving the house and Wu.
In this world, marriage is like a cup of tea. If you release kindness and love, then you feel the warmth of sunshine;On the other hand, if you release the cold and apathy, then you feel the coldness to the bone. In this complex world, we all need to learn to be clear and find our own direction. Otherwise, it's easy to get stuck and lost.
Therefore, when we face all kinds of troubles and challenges in life, we need to think calmly. After all, life is not a fairy tale, and adults have to face far more than they think. We should learn to cherish the happiness in front of us and resolve contradictions and conflicts with love and tolerance. Only in this way can we find true happiness and fulfillment in life. In the palace of marriage, we are like a combination of keyboard and mouse, rules and order are like the lifeline of typing, and love, it is like an invisible mouse, just one click, we can touch the warmth of the heart. Men are like the existence of that host, they shoulder the main memory and storage functions, they are the core strength of marriage, and bear the responsibility of providing for the family. And women, like a display screen, their emotional expressions and inner joys, sorrows and sorrows are all displayed here.
However, when we face the challenges of marriage, having the courage to move forward independently and the determination to move forward is like having the ability to start all over again. When we feel that a person is under too much stress, we can find a way for ourselves in this marriage, because the most important thing is to make ourselves comfortable and satisfied. It's not just for the other person, it's for yourself.
Every woman should firmly believe: go your own way and let others say go. Our happiness and joy are the most important. No matter what challenges life throws at us, we have the ability and courage to face them. On the road of life, only we can decide what it looks like, so as long as we keep going, happiness and joy will come as scheduled. Let us write our own wonderful life with fearless courage and tenacious determination.