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I have a friend who is a 35-year-old leftover girl, and she told me some of her thoughts. Over the years, I have been working hard to find a partner, but I haven't found a suitable one. During this period, she also experienced a lot of pain, some couldn't ask for it, some were hurt by scumbags, and more were deeply disappointed in the other half. In the face of these mental injuries, she said that she could only face it alone, licking her wounds alone for countless nights, slowly ** her own heart, and then putting on a strong armor for herself. Slowly, she learned to distinguish the hypocrisy of many men, and she didn't dare to give her sincerity easily. also slowly saw through the reality, and felt that marriage is not a necessary option in life, in fact, a person can live well, so now she is no longer obsessed with finding a partner, but lives her life colorfully, so although she is single now, she is quite happy, and she is not in a hurry to find a partner because she is 35 years old.
After listening to her story, I felt that the difficulty of older single women in finding a partner was a complex social phenomenon involving multiple factors. The following is an analysis of the phenomenon and possible root causes.
Influence of traditional beliefs: In some social or cultural contexts, traditional beliefs still exist, with clear expectations of women's marital age and roles. This can lead to older single women facing social pressure and prejudice, being labelled as "leftovers" and other demeaning labels, affecting their self-confidence and marriage chances.
Career development and education levels increase: As women's career development and education levels increase, many women choose to delay marriage and prioritize career advancement. This can lead to them remaining single at an older age, as they are more focused on career and independence rather than just looking for a marriage partner.
Changes in male mindsets: Some men may be more inclined to pursue younger women or be prejudiced against age, which may limit the marriage options for older single women. Some men may focus more on a woman's appearance, age, and fertility than on other qualities and abilities.
Limitations on social circles and opportunities: Older single women may have narrower social circles, especially in the workplace and at social events. In contrast, there are more opportunities to socialize at a younger age and it is easier to meet potential partners. In addition, the popularity of social and dating platforms may have changed the way people make friends, but it has also brought new challenges, such as authenticity and choice overload.
Increased personal choices and demands: Over time, individuals may become more selective and demanding in their demands on their marital partner. Older single women may pay more attention to factors such as the quality of their partner, stable financial situation, shared values, etc., which may lead them to be more cautious in choosing a partner, reducing their chances of marriage.
Therefore, the difficulty of older single women in finding a partner is a complex problem, involving the combined influence of multiple factors such as traditional perceptions, career development, male psychological concepts, social circles and personal choices. To solve this problem, it is necessary to change the perception and attitude of society, adjust men's perceptions and requirements of marriage partners, and provide more social opportunities and platforms to promote communication and mutual understanding between older single women and potential partners. At the same time, older single women can also take the initiative to broaden their social circle and actively participate in various social activities to increase their chances of meeting potential partners.