If you have a weekend off, will you ask some friends out to eat and drink, or listen to songs and drink tea alone.
If your family is urging you to get married, will you go with their will and go against your own ideas, or stick to your own opinions and just be yourself.
If someone says bad things about you, will you argue about it, or will you ignore it, not get angry, and not get entangled.
In fact, there is never absolute good or bad in life, but as long as it suits you, it is the best. After all, you don't have to be paid a lot of money to make you happy;It doesn't have to be a perfect life.
So, you might as well listen to your inner voice and live your life to the fullest.
Don't live in the eyes of others
My friend asked, "I always care too much about other people's eyes, and I often feel that others hate me, what should I do?"”
I said, "You just took a glass of water, and it feels very light, but if you take it more, your hands will be a little sore." What happens if you keep holding it, and it's still in a pose?You'll just throw it away, or you'll switch to the other hand. So, many times, it's always you who traps yourself, don't always take other people's affairs on you, sometimes others don't pay as much attention to you as they imagined. ”
The world is so big and there are so many people, you can't make everyone like you and recognize you. If you are always swayed by some opinions and eyes, then there will be more and more stumbling blocks that trap you, and even the ten steps that you have managed to take may be pulled back.
Once, my cousin came to play with me, and as soon as she entered the kitchen, she said, "My relatives say that you are very diligent, why haven't you even washed a pot?" ”
I smiled and said, "Life is my own, how happy I am." It's like what does it matter if someone calls me a cow, a horse, or a mouse?You say I'm a cow, am I?”
In fact, in life, we should all abandon distracting thoughts and be born to the sun. For example, when the mirror is dirty, you don't think it's your face that's dirty, so why do you think it's you who is bad when someone says something bad?
Don't compare yourself to others, be yourself
For as long as we can remember, the most common phrase we have heard is: "You see whose children are more obedient, more sensible, and have good academic performance, why don't you learn from them." "Slowly, you compare your grades, your well-behaved, your family, and your future ...... with them
Even if you enter the society and want to take the civil service exam, but every time you fail the list, you will say: Obviously, when I was in school, my grades were better, why was I unlucky. You want to have a good family, but life just doesn't go your way, you will say: obviously the family is better than others, why are there quarrels every day.
So, you read books and work day and night, taking care of your family. But as a result, life still did not improve, and I stayed up late for a long time, exhausting my body.
You can compare with others, but have you ever thought about comparing salary, work, car, house, lover, you compare this, there is another waiting for you. In this way, it is always you who suffers.
Therefore, life is just suitable for yourself, there is no need to compare with others, and there is no need to envy anyone, what kind of ability you have, what kind of life you live. Because, only well-fitting shoes are comfortable to wear, as long as they are suitable for their own life, they can live comfortably.
As the saying goes, we live in this world, not to compare ourselves with others, not to please others, but to be ourselves.
Life, you have the final say
There is such a sentence in "The Legend of the New White Lady": "To be an official is to be scolded, to be a good official is scolded by bad people, and to be a bad official is scolded by good people, there are many bad people in these years, or not to do it." However, some people praise good doctors for practicing medicine and saving people, but they will still be said by those who are uneasy and well-intentioned and greedy for personal gain.
Come to think of it, that's really what it is. But life has to be lived, and no matter what kind of life you live, there will always be someone to point fingers at you;No matter what kind of person you are, there will always be someone who doesn't fit in with you.
That being the case, it's better to do whatever you want, how you live, how you live, you have the final say. If you feel depressed, you can take a hot shower, get a beautiful haircut, and go for a walk in the night market in the city to make your mood feel better.
If you like it, you will pay attention, I hope you don't have to care about the opinions and evaluations of others, don't compare, don't fight or get angry, and live a good life.
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