The Long Goodbye adult relationships are all fragile

Mondo Psychological Updated on 2024-01-31

The American literary community has launched a selection of detectives in the past 150 years.

Chandler's "The Long Goodbye" is not only on the list, but the protagonist Philip Marlowe is also rated by readers as the most charismatic private detective, and his influence was once comparable to that of Sherlock Holmes.

American writer: Chandler).

Haruki Murakami said"The Long Goodbye is a flawless masterpiece that stands out. If I am allowed to exaggerate, it is almost dreamy. ”

* tells the story of Detective Marlowe, as his friend Terry is involved in a city-wide ** case.

In the process of searching for the truth, he was infamy, deceived, beaten, and almost killed, but in the end, what he was waiting for was conspiracy and deception.

Friendship, love, and family affection ...... once impregnableIn the incomprehensible human nature, it will break when touched, and it will make people's hearts flow.

It turns out that adult relationships are fragile.

Just as the poet Gu Cheng said:

I see "friendship" like a flower, and I know that the flower will wither;

I see "friendship" like pure snow, and I know that snow melts.

The feelings of adults can't stand the toss, and a little wind and grass will make people go their separate ways.

Adult socialization is essentially an exchange

Marlowe and Terry meet during an encounter outside a bar.

One cold winter night, Terry, the noble son, gets drunk and is ruthlessly thrown on the side of the road by his girlfriend.

And this scene happened to be seen by Marlowe, who was passing by, and without saying a word, he took Terry home and took care of it for a night.

When Terry woke up the next day, the two talked a few words, and they fell in love very much, and became friends who hated to see each other late.

From this day on, they met almost every day, drank small wines, and chatted.

Before they got to know each other, both the nimble Marlowe and the rich Terry lived extremely lonely lives.

Marlowe had no siblings, no marriage, and no children.

He didn't make much money, he lived a life of poverty, and the destitute and poor Marlowe could hardly help anyone except for the clients at work, no wonder he didn't have any friends.

Compared to Marlowe, the handsome and wealthy Terry should be full of friends and admirers, right?

Not really. He was the son-in-law of the wealthy Harlan Potter and married the youngest daughter of the Harlan family, Sylvia, a promiscuous aristocratic lady.

Before joining the Harlan family, Terry was a military veteran who was injured and unable to work, and remained at the bottom of society.

After marrying Sylvia, he seems to have good luck, but in fact he is a "cuckold" professional, a fig leaf for the Harlan family.

It can be said that he, like Marlowe, is useless to the people around him, and as a result, he can only wander on the edge of the crowd.

They are both fallen people at the end of the world, and similar situations make it easier for them to understand each other and comfort each other.

In life, Terry often helped Marlowe;Emotionally, Marlowe made Terry no longer lonely.

The beginning of this friendship looks like fate, but it can't escape the iron law of adult socialization - exchange.

The value of exchange is not only money and material things, but also inner support and comfort.

Why are they isolated?In the end, it's not because it's worthless in the eyes of others.

Why do they build friendships?It's mostly because you can get warmth from each other.

Back to reality, what we often call social relationships are essentially exchanges of equal strength.

You have the ability to hold an umbrella for others to shelter from the rain, and others will pave the way and build bridges for you;You can provide emotional nourishment for others, and others will naturally take you to heart.

There is no need to lament that people's hearts are sinister and human feelings are thin, this is just a rule that has to be followed in interpersonal interactions.

You are humble as dust, don't expect the outside world to lift you to the clouds;If you are as successful as a star, you will have a bunch of people and stars holding the moon.

Even if it is a relationship, it must be to warm each other in order to ignite a fire.

The farewell of adults is quiet

In Marlowe's life, Terry came and went as fast as he could.

Early one morning shortly after their acquaintance, Terry said goodbye to Marlowe in a panic, saying nothing, leaving only a huge $5,000 bill, and hurriedly boarded the plane to Mexico.

Terry walked on the front foot, and the back foot broke the shocking news that he had murdered his wife Sylvia.

And Marlowe, who was still in shock, didn't have time to think about it, so he was arrested and taken to the police station on the charge of "accomplice after the fact".

In prison, Marlowe was first severely beaten and then knocked unconscious by an electric baton, but no matter how hard he tortured to extract a confession, Marlowe always kept his lips tightly and never revealed Terry's whereabouts even if he died.

Just as Marlowe was dying, he was suddenly acquitted.

The reason is simple: when the news of Terry's suicide came, any interrogation and pursuit was no longer necessary.

Compared with the severe physical pain, Marlowe's heart was even more grief-stricken.

Terry didn't even say "goodbye" and just walked away quietlyEven if you drink a glass of wine before leaving, you can have fewer regrets.

But this is often the case, the separation comes suddenly, and the farewell is in an instant.

After Terry leaves, Marlowe wants to take a break from work, but is forced to go out of business to help a Mrs. Irene find her missing husband.

Her husband is not a nobody, but a well-known best-selling author, Roger.

The two were originally an enviable couple, but they didn't know when they became speechless, only indifferent and perfunctory.

Just like Roger's run away from home this time, he disappeared without a trace without even saying hello.

You see, whether it's friendship or love, all the goodbyes of adults seem to be so silent.

I've seen such a hot comment:

The farewell ceremony for adults is very simple, I didn't reply to your last message, and you tacitly didn't send it again. Disappeared into each other's lives like this, as if they had never known each other. ”

Friends who have played since childhood, just because of working in a different place, are gradually becoming unfamiliar, and when they meet again, they can't hide and go, and they don't even say hello;

Girlfriends who used to talk about everything, just because they got married, they had less contact, even if they were contacted, it was just a New Year's holiday, ** when the news, point each other's names;

You think that the relationship between the vows and the alliance should be vigorous even if it ends, but the result is that you don't know when the other party will go away.

Sometimes, we hope to officially end a relationship with some sense of ritual, but the result is often inadvertently, the tree is in ashes, and the person is gone.

There is no fanfare, no heart-rending retention, and no heart-wrenching regrets.

The farewell of adults is not noisy or public, but just quietly withdraws from their respective lives.

Adult relationships are fragile

After Marlowe takes over Erin's case, ** ushered in its climax.

A big drama of love and hatred is about to kick off under Chandler's pen.

It turns out that Terry, Sylvia, Erin, and Roger, two couples, have been entangled in two-way cheating extramarital affairs all year round.

After Terry enlisted in the army, he fell in love with Erin, but later the war broke out and the two were separated.

By the time they met again, Erin was Lady Roger, and Terry had become a wealthy son-in-law.

Erin wants to renew her relationship with Terry, but Terry has long lost his passion for her.

He lied that he was in love with Sylvia and vowed never to betray his marriage.

But just when Erin decided to return to the family, she unexpectedly discovered that her husband Roger was having an affair with Sylvia.

Anger, shame, and despair came to her heart, and Erin suddenly lost her mind and planned bloody ** cases.

She first shot Sylvia and smashed her head with a sharp weapon.

When Terry committed suicide unjustly, she used Marlowe to reveal her husband's old relationship with Sylvia, leading the disaster to Roger's head, and creating the illusion that Roger committed suicide in fear of sin.

But how can all this be hidden from the eyes of private detective Marlowe.

However, just after Erin confessed, she also committed suicide by swallowing a gun.

Looking at Erin in a pool of blood, a trace of hesitation flashed in Marlowe's heart, is this really the case?

Next, the biggest "reversal" in ** appeared.

Terry is not dead at all, he has long seen the ambiguity in the emotional world, and lured Erin step by step to this road of no return.

After Sylvia's death, he immediately transferred his property. After fleeing to Mexico, he underwent plastic surgery, changed his name, and created the illusion of suicide.

After that, he became a wealthy businessman named Lyrox.

Similarly, all of his was quickly investigated by Marlowe.

Marlowe wrote a letter asking to see him.

It's still the familiar tavern, and it's still their favorite wine back then, but the two people sitting facing each other are not in the same mood as before.

Marlowe looked at the unfamiliar face in front of him, and the word "Terry" was stuck in his throat.

After all, he couldn't say anything, and he dropped the $5,000 bill that Terry had left for him on the table and walked away without looking back.

Adult relationships are fragile

A word of deception, a trick of calculation, and a little conspiracy are enough to shatter decades of solid relationships in one fell swoop.

As the writer Lu Sihao said:

Don't overestimate your relationship with any one person. Everyone thinks that friendship can last forever, but they don't expect that the hardest thing is to keep in touch. ”

Yes, it's not hard to build a relationship, it's hard to keep the relationship.

The Long Goodbye" is arguably the most famous work by American writer Raymond Chandler.

He crushed the exploration of the darkness of human nature, the complexity of interpersonal communication, and the confusion of feelings into an uncomplicated love murder case.

If you read it with a curious mentality, I'm afraid you will be disappointed;But when you go through all kinds of separations in the world, you will deeply understand that life is a farewell.

A conflict of interest is enough to make a friend turn his faceDon't speculate once, let each other not communicate with each other;I couldn't understand it for a while, and I suddenly felt disgusted.

The two of them have gone too far to withstand the passage of time;If you get too close, there are many suspicions and misunderstandings.

If you are a little careless, the once long time will suddenly become a meeting in Pingshui.

In the adult world, meeting is an accident, and parting is the norm.

Those who are destined will not go far;People who have no fate can't be retained.

In this life, people gather and disperse like this, don't be sentimental, let everything follow fate.

Finally, I would like to give you the most famous sentence in the book: "Say goodbye and die a little." ”

May you and I not be alone in the crowd, no matter who we say goodbye to, we can become our own universe, and we will not lose or owe anything.

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