"Love is to touch and withdraw your hand" is translated as "love is a moment of suspense", both of which are good interpretations of the ambiguous feelings between men and women.
Ambiguity is a moment of suspense, a hand that wants to touch and withdraw. But how did the ambiguity begin?
In fact, there are often signs between men and women, such as these words, you must have heard them:
1. We seem to be
The subtext is that you understand me well, and I understand you.
This sentence is like opening the door to communication, you understand each other's minds, understand each other's preferences and interests, as if you have a tacit common language. He may give you more attention and care through some hints or jokes, so that you can feel that he pays special attention and attention to you.
This kind of ambiguous affection induces a liking and affection between the two. Through communication, the two slowly established a special emotional bond.
Gradually heat up in the interaction, express heart-warming feelings through hints and teasing, and narrow the distance between each other in an ambiguous and clear way.
2. I want to see you every day
This sentence reveals his thoughts and longing for you, and he looks forward to seeing you every day. There is a sweet teasing and subtle hint in his words that make you feel that he cares about you in particular. He is obsessed with your existence and can't hide his love and miss for you. This special affection makes his heart beat faster, and he longs to be face to face with you every day and enjoy each other's existence.
The daily chat became part of his anticipation. He is eager to get to know you on a deeper level through communication and share each other's feelings and dreams.
This kind of communication made him feel the tacit understanding and ambiguous feelings between the two, as if to imply that a deeper relationship was sprouting.
3. I envy your other half
When a man says this, his words reveal a complex emotion and subtle ambiguity. This phrase implies his affection for you and jealousy of your significant other. He laments your happiness and understanding, and hides his love for you and his desire to have a similar relationship with you.
His envy of your significant other expresses his appreciation for you and recognition of the affection between you.
This feeling of jealousy and envy makes him feel more affectionate towards you, and he hopes to have the opportunity to establish a special relationship with you. Although this sentence is full of ambiguous feelings, it also contains a certain amount of complexity. He uses this ambiguous way to express his companionship and concern for you, and at the same time implies that he wants to be a special presence in your life.
4. What do you think of me?
In Salinger's "The Heart of a Broken Story," Hogan Schrager, a 31-year-old down-and-out printer, writes in a letter to Miss Lester, the girl he fell in love with at first sight:
"Loving you is the only thing that matters to me, Miss Lester. Some people think that love is sex, that it is marriage, that it is a kiss at six in the morning, that it is a bunch of children, and that may be the case, Miss Lester. But you know what I think?I think love is about wanting to touch and withdraw your hand. ”
Many times, we like someone, or have a crush on her, and we don't say it directly. Rather, they will test the other person's ideas, so that they will not be too abrupt, and if the other party refuses, they will not feel embarrassed. Then after the two people have known each other for a while, he may suddenly say "what do you think of me". This sentence is actually a hint that he already has feelings for you, depending on how you answer.
If you answer positively, he will know your intentions, and if you are ambiguous, he may continue to be ambiguous and not dare to act rashly.
Of course, if you refuse, he will understand what you think.
Writer Zhang Yueran once said:
Ambiguity is not a vague graffiti, it is very precise and subtle, and it is definitely a matter of wisdom to grasp the balance here. ”
So many people thought they could enjoy the ambiguity, but they unknowingly fell into it.
Ambiguity is a double-edged sword, if you love or love deeply, otherwise simply leave neatly to avoid hurting others and yourself.