The writer Sanmao once wrote: "Love will not last long if it is not invested in the real life of dressing, eating, sleeping, and counting money." "If you think about it carefully, I think this is particularly reasonable, because feelings can't be drunk enough, people need to survive, and love also needs to be guaranteed, it also needs to give people a sense of security, and it needs to be truly implemented.
Some people may feel embarrassed and feel that talking about money hurts feelings, but if the two of you don't talk about money, life, and future, then how can you be sure that this person really loves themselves, really wants to live with them, and puts themselves in their plans for the future
Just like in real life, some boys usually say sweet words to girls, and they will also say sweet words, but when girls really have needs, such as lack of money and need help, the boy will disappear immediately, how can this person make himself believe, how can he entrust himself to his life, how can he make himself feel that two people can be happy together?
Although there is no way to measure the love between a man and a woman with money, you should not forget that people need money to live a good life, and no one in this world can live without money, especially when the two of you get married together and have children, you need fuel, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar tea to live, if you don't talk about money, you will never be able to see a person clearly, if you don't talk about money, you are never worthy of this person is not worthy of getting married yourself, don't talk about money, it is not enough to support your future married life, not to mention, really good love is never afraid to talk about money。
Just imagine, if this person is in love with you, they are not willing to pay for you, they are not willing to spend money for you, everything is bargaining, then there will only be more to marry with you in the future, in the end, a man is not worth getting married, talk about money to know, as can be seen from the details below.
It is said that a girl may not be happy with a rich man, but she will be happy with a man who is willing to spend money for herself. Similarly, a girl marrying a rich man is not necessarily happy, but she will be happy if she marries a man who is willing to spend money for herself.
Knowing how long it has been since a girl Xiaoya graduated from college, she is going to enter the palace of marriage with her boyfriend, everyone feels that they are getting married a little too early, and asks Xiaoya to say, don't worry about whether you will regret it after getting married?What if the marriage is not as happy as you imagined, or if you get married and meet someone better?
Xiaoya did not hesitate after listening to the affirmative answer, she will not regret it, this person is worth it. Behind Xiaoya also told us the story of his boyfriend, when the two were poor students, basically three meals were restaurants or instant noodles, at that time Xiaoya was chasing a TV series, just casually said in front of her boyfriend that she wanted to have a romantic dinner date like the hero and heroine in the TV series.
Xiaoya's boyfriend didn't say anything at the time, but when it was Xiaoya's birthday, he quietly booked a Western restaurant to give Xiaoya a big surprise, and later the two also graduated and worked, even if the boyfriend's salary is not particularly high, but no matter what Xiaoya wants, if she wants to play, her boyfriend will be willing to buy it for Xiaoya, try to meet Xiaoya's wishes, and make Xiaoya happy and happy.
Therefore, a boy is willing to spend money on girls, is willing to give money to girls, is worthy of girls to marry, entrusts people for life, in fact, it is not to look at a person with more money or less money, but seeing the other party's attitude towards himself, only if he really loves girls and boys, he is willing to pay girls, and girls are willing to spend money, on the contrary, he does not love girls and boys, always thinks only about his own interests, even if he only invites a girl to dinner, he always has to bargain with girls, because boys only have their own hearts and are always worried about their losses。
And boys who really love girls, no matter how much money they spend on their beloved girls, they will not feel at a loss, and boys may feel that they can be with such a good girl, or they earn it themselves, it is their own luck, so how can boys bargain with girls in everything?
I have seen a typical example in the news, there is a young couple who have just been married for less than two years are divorcing, their life can be said to be a mess, not only do two people disagree on many issues, but also often quarrel, and the two people are not reasonable about the distribution of money at all, and the two people still maintain an AA life after marriage. The husband was never willing to give his wages to his wife, let alone spend it on his wife, even if the wife later gave birth to a child.
Such a person is really not suitable for marriage, nor is it suitable for a woman to entrust for life, it is not good to say, it is really only suitable for his own life, the man never realizes that the two are married, this is equivalent to reorganizing a family, he is no longer a person, he can't only think about himself, he is already someone else's husband, someone else's father, you should know how to take responsibility as a husband and father, and the family should belong to two people, need to pay together, need to share together.
Especially when the wife has children during this period, there is no financial income, but as a husband, he only thinks about himself, always feels that it is his own money, does not need to give it to his wife, and does not want to pay for the family, it is enough to see that such a person is very self-centered, has no sense of responsibility, has no responsibility, and has no consciousness as a husband and wife.
So all girls should understand that this has always been a person who only thinks about himself, not about the other half, and does not love you, more important than your money, no matter what, is not a man who really wants to marry you, a man who is not worthy of your marriage, because he really loves girls, really wants to live with girls men, even if you are just two lovers, but men are willing to provide their money to girls, because in the human heart, women are always the most important, much more important than money.
In fact, two men and women fall in love together, and even want to get married and start a family, which is a process that needs to be understood and understood, for example, at the beginning, boys may ask girls what they usually like to eat, what they usually like to do, go to play, and girls may also ask boys some questions.
As the two of you get closer and closer, you will start talking about in-depth issues such as each other's actual income and savings, which is a necessary process for everyone to go on a date. If you love someone and get along with this person, you have to know the person, that is, you have to be familiar with all aspects of the person's actual life. Isn't that what two soon-to-be-married people should do?
Maybe if the boy is not really in love with the girl, and doesn't really want the girl, doesn't get along well with the girl, then the boy won't tell the girl about their actual salary or savings, and even if the girl asks the boy, the boy will just cheat on the girl or cheat on the girl, tell the girls a false message, after all, for everyone, our salary or how much money we have saved, this information is personal, we will only tell those close to us, but not casually to outsiders.
Knowing that the basis of love and marriage is trust, only boys who really love girls are willing to tell girls truthfully about their wages and savings, because boys really love girls, but also determine girls, it is more enough to believe in girls, if girls choose one who does not love themselves enough, marry one who does not believe in themselves enough, and then I am worried that in the future, girls will not only not be able to get all the love boys, but they may also get a lot of grievances and sorrows, so to see if a boy is worth getting married and whether it is worth entrusting his life, you might as well talk about the issue of money.
All in all, when a girl is thinking about whether a boy is reliable, whether a boy is worth marrying, whether a boy is worth entrusting his life, don't be ashamed to talk about money, otherwise you may never know if the person is sincere to himself, if he really loves himself, if he really wants to spend this life with himself, only to love the girl sincerely. will be willing to give money to the girl, will be willing to put their money in the hands of the girl, will be willing to tell the girl about their savings, don't not understand.
If, when you are in a relationship, whenever you ask your boyfriend about his salary or savings, the boy always hesitates to tell the truth, or tries to cheat on the girl, every time you go on a date, there is a cost, the boy always bargains, and is usually unwilling to spend money for the girl and is not willing to give the girl money, then the girl like this boy suggests must think carefully and think carefully.