My brother and sister-in-law came home twice a month, which became an opportunity for my in-laws to calculate me
My name is Zhou Ling, I am 33 years old, and I will tell you my story today.
When I was 24 years old, I was introduced by my eldest sister in the unit, and I met my husband Zhou Jie.
Zhou Jie works in a public institution in our county, and he is about the same age as me. He has a funny conversation, a gentle personality, and does not have the anger of ordinary young people, so we talked about it very much.
Zhou Jie's parents live in a village below our county seat, and the family's farmland is rented to the villagers to plant, so they don't have to do farm work.
Zhou Jie also has an older brother, who is married and lives in the provincial capital, and works in his father-in-law's company.
My sister-in-law's parents are businessmen, and the family's economic conditions are very good, and there is only this one daughter.
The house and car at the time of marriage were all brought over by the dowry, and the deposit of 1 million was also a dowry.
The parents-in-law have only two conditions for Zhou Jie's brother: first, they must be good to their sister-in-law after marriage, and they cannot reduce their daughter's quality of life just because they are married;2. No matter how many children are born, there must be a boy with the surname of the sister-in-law.
Brother Zhou Jie has established himself in the provincial capital in this way, except that the child can follow his surname Zhou in the future, and the rest is no different from the inverted door.
When she got married, her sister-in-law's parents knew that Zhou Jie's family was rural, and they couldn't save a few dollars a year by guarding a few acres of land. So the wedding was arranged by others, and they didn't even let Zhou Jie's parents pay for the bride price, saying that it was too much for Zhou Jie's family to take it;If Zhou Jie's family gives less, he will lose face in front of his friends in the business field, so it's better not to!
Zhou Jie's parents are happy to pick up a big bargain, and when they meet people, they talk about how good their son is, his father-in-law runs a big company, and when he gets married, he sends a car and a house to send money, and the company has to let his son manage it in the future!Everyone praised the old couple for their good lives.
In addition to giving his parents a pension of 3,000 yuan a month, Zhou Jie's brother will go back to his hometown every half a month, which is what Zhou Jie's parents asked to go back, in order to show off in front of the villagers.
Whenever Zhou Jie's brother and sister-in-law go back, one of the old couple must look at the entrance of the village early in the morning, and when they ask, they say that the eldest son and daughter-in-law came back from the provincial capital to see them today.
When I saw Zhou Jie's brother's luxury car driving into the village, I usually stopped the car first and chatted a few words, and then asked them to drive home, he walked back slowly, enjoying the envious gaze of everyone all the way, and often this is the highlight moment of Zhou Jie's parents.
Maybe Zhou Jie's brother's light is too dazzling, but it seems that Zhou Jie is much more humble and low-key.
Although our county is not big, we can have a career establishment, and we were admitted by ourselves, I think Zhou Jie is better than his brother.
Zhou Jie and I have had an in-depth understanding for more than half a year, and we feel that the other party is the most suitable person for us, so we put marriage on the agenda.
We discussed getting the certificate first, and then using the provident fund loan to buy a new house in the county, provided that we met our parents first to finalize our marriage.
My parents said that when I first met Zhou Jie, I had already told them about Zhou Jie's situation carefully, including in the process of our contact, some things that happened would also be said to my parents when chatting, so when I brought Zhou Jie to them, they felt that he was a reliable child as I said, and they were relieved to hand me over to Zhou Jie.
Zhou Jie's parents measure me by the standard of their eldest daughter-in-law: my parents are ordinary workers, with no money, no power, no power, and they are not qualified;The work is average, the appearance is average, the dress is average, it is an ordinary person, and there is nothing to show off when you take it out, and you are not qualified;When you get married, you need two people to buy a house and a car together, and your mother's family can provide little assistance, so you have to rely on your own work in the future, and maybe you will ask them for money to spend, which is not qualified;are all in a county town, according to the customs, they must take the bride price, and they are not qualified. . .
In short,The old couple didn't take a fancy to me, they also wanted Zhou Jie to find a daughter-in-law from a family like his sister-in-law, with money, power, and power, at least one of them, and they had to have the capital to show off in front of their relatives and friends.
Zhou Jie is a very assertive person, which is what I appreciate the most, and he will not follow the crowd.
He said to his parents:This is my own daughter-in-law, I think it's good, because the future life is my own, not for you, and what you think is good may not be suitable for me. My brother is looking for a rich girl to live a prosperous and wealthy life, which is what he likes, and I prefer the ordinary life of a long stream of water and foaming with each other;As for the bride price, it is indispensable, and if you don't take it, I'll figure it out myself. I am in charge of my marriage, I brought Ling'er here today, just to let you get acquainted, we will go back and get the certificate to buy a wedding house, you will support the two if you have money, if you don't have money, we won't say anything!
The prospective in-laws also know that as long as Zhou Jie makes a decision, it will be difficult to change it for him. Zhou Jie had a big idea since he was a child, and when he went to which university and what major, he took the exam after graduation.
Seeing that Zhou Jie was so determined, the old couple could only acquiesce.
My parents took out their savings of 300,000 yuan for many years to help us buy a new house, and as for the bride price, they told Zhou Jie: More money and less money, you do what you can, we are marrying a girl not selling a girl, and then the money will be given to you with the dowry!
Zhou Jie's parents heard that my parents gave 300,000 yuan, and they also called Zhou Jie home, took out 10,000 yuan and gave Zhou Jie and said: Your father and I can't compare to your parents-in-law's monthly salary, we live on the 3,000 yuan given by your brother every month, and we have to rely on this money to buy medicine if we have a headache and brain fever. The 10,000 yuan will be given to you, whether it is a wedding or a house, that's all.
3,000 yuan per month is not a small amount for the elderly living in the countryside, Zhou Jie's brother has been married for several years, and he has successively transferred nearly 200,000 yuan to the old couple. They grow vegetables and raise chickens and ducks in the yard, and they can't use 1,000 yuan a month.
Zhou Jie looked at the 10,000 yuan on the table and said: Dad, Mom, you can put this money away, with the 300,000 yuan given by your father-in-law, the down payment and bride price money are enough, this is the pension money that my brother gave you, or you should keep it for yourself.
After buying a house, decorating, and holding a simple wedding, Zhou Jie and I have our own small home
The next month after getting married, Zhou Jie's father called**"Jie'er, you are now married and have a business, we are old and have no income, and we have a headache and brain fever are indispensable to spend money, don't you be the same as your brother, give us 3,000 yuan of pension money every month!."”
Zhou Jie's head grew when he heard this, "Dad, you should give you pension money, I should give it, I will transfer 1500 to you every month." We are a county seat, we can't compare with the provincial city, my and Ling'er's salaries add up to only 8,000 yuan a month, and there are mortgages and car loans, and we also have to live. Do you see it?”
So much less?You all eat public meals, how can you have a more stable income than your brother. ”
It's stable, not much, and we only have so much capacity at present. Plus my brother's 3,000 yuan. 4500 per month is enough for you, it's really a big thing or something, I'll give it again. ”
Well, as you say, let's start next month!”
Zhou Jie, who left **, is also speechless to his own father, in their hearts, the positioning of their two sons may be rich people!
My brother and sister-in-law still come back once every half a month, unlike in the past, now every time my brother and sister-in-law come back, my mother-in-law has to call me **, asking me to go to the supermarket in the county early in the morning to buy fresh vegetables and fruits, saying that my sister-in-law is particular about eating, not eating the dishes in the vegetable market outside, but eating the pollution-free ones sold in the supermarket.
God knows that the pollution-free fruits, vegetables and meat in the supermarket are much higher than the ** in the market, and each checkout is hundreds better, and the in-laws will not be reimbursed when they arrive at home.
In the name of beauty, my brother and sister-in-law came back to visit the elderly, but it was us who spent money and effort. I can't help but feel a little emotional, after all, twice a month costs one-eighth of our salary, which is a big burden for us.
When I get home early in the morning from grocery shopping, picking vegetables, washing vegetables, chopping meat, and chopping bones are all my jobs, and sometimes Zhou Jie will come over to help me.
My brother and sister-in-law, children and in-laws drank water and chatted in the hall and ate melon seeds.
My sister-in-law is a child of a wealthy family, and she has a nanny to serve her when she is a child, and she has never been in the kitchen, let alone a firewood kitchen in the countryside.
Since I got married, I have to do my daughter-in-law's duty, and I can't worry too much.
My mother-in-law said that my sister-in-law loves durian and asked me to buy one back.
I went to the supermarket early in the morning to buy good food, and when I checked out, it was close to 700 yuan, and a durian was more than 200, and my heart was dripping with blood
Zhou Jie's unit has something to do and can't go back with me, which means that I am the only one busy today.
Everyone must ask, how did people eat when you didn't get married?yes, I wonder too
Before I got married, my mother-in-law could do anything, and she could do everything to stir-fry vegetables and make porridge, why couldn't I even buy vegetables after I got married, let alone work hard to cook a table of dishes in the morning.
This may be an eternal mystery that cannot be solved between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law!
It was still a busy and dizzy morning, and finally a table of dishes was prepared.
When I served the food to the round table in the hall one by one, there was no one at the table in the room who was talking!
Yes, my husband is not here, who can I shout at?
The dishes were already set, and they moved their precious bodies to the table and sat down!
I was unbuttoning my apron and sitting down, and my mother-in-law glanced at the dining table and said, "Second daughter-in-law, what about the durian I asked you to buy?"”
Oh, in the kitchen, is this what to eat?I asked, I originally thought that durian would taste big and be a fruit after a meal.
I want to eat durian, I want to eat durian... The little nephew shouted.
Okay, I'll get it. "With my apron in hand, I went to the kitchen. Actually, I had already opened the durian, but I didn't think it smelled too big, so I didn't bring it to the hall.
Zhou Jie hasn't come yet, I left him a single dish in the kitchen, and I have to leave him a piece of such an expensive durian.
Holding the plate of durian, I walked to the hall and heard:
"This second daughter-in-law just doesn't know how to do things, isn't it just to eat when she buys it, don't open it up and stare at it!”My mother-in-law is complaining about me.
Eh, okay, didn't she get it?Eat first!"My father-in-law thinks my mother-in-law is verbose.
"I'll say a few words, what's wrong, the small family is not atmospheric, and they are deducted and searched all day long!”
Mom, don't say it, my brother and daughter-in-law are not the same as us, they are dead wages every month. Sister-in-law said.
"I didn't want the second child to want her at the beginning, you said how good it would be to find a business that could make money, the second child is a stubborn donkey, and he won't look back if he sees it, God knows how she hooked up with the second child?”
Hey, okay!My father-in-law was a little angry.
"Mom, I found that my brother-in-law cooks better food than yours, and she also buys more vegetables than you. ”The sister-in-law hurriedly changed the subject.
"Of course, this dish is pollution-free that I asked her to buy in the county supermarket, it's delicious, right?."”The mother-in-law said proudly.
Well, it's delicious!However, pollution-free dishes are much more expensive than ordinary ones. ”
"It's expensive, it's not my money!The boss gives 3,000 yuan a month, and the two of them cry poor for the two of us, saying that the two of them add up to only 8,000 yuan a month, and there are mortgages and car loans to be repaid, so they will give me 1,500 yuan a month, and I will let her buy expensive vegetables, which is equivalent to almost 3,000 yuan, so it will be fair to you!There's no way to fool us!”
A wave of anger rushed to my head, and my mother-in-law tried her best to let me spend money, just so that we could also pay enough 3,000 yuan to be fair to my brother!
But what she didn't know was that 3,000 yuan was just a meal for my brother, but for me and Zhou Jie, it was close to a month's salary for one person!
"Mom, Zhou Jie said that you are uneducated and illiterate, I still believe it, it seems that your son really doesn't understand you, you are so good at this abacus, I am ashamed of myself!"I rushed in.
My mother-in-law's face then turned pale, she didn't expect me to bring the durian so quickly, and she was still arguing with words"Am I not right?The boss gives 3,000 yuan a month, and you give 1,500 yuan a month, everyone has to say it's unfair!”
"Yes, my brother and sister-in-law are giving you 3,000 yuan, I don't say how people are, I'll give you a break and Zhou Jie, the county salary is not as good as the provincial capital, the two of us add up to 8,000 yuan in January, 4,000 yuan for housing and car loans, 1,500 yuan for your pension, we still have 2,500 yuan left, and then subtract 1,000 yuan for my brother and sister-in-law to buy vegetables and fruits every month, you say, the two of us have 1,500 yuan left a month, and we dare not buy anything, only enough to eat, drink, water and electricity。 Mom, I want to know what you're saying about fairness
"You said that you have a total of 8,000 yuan a month, who would believe it, such a big house to live in!”The mother-in-law was a little weak-hearted and began to use strong words.
"Growing up so big, I've seen an unfilial son cheating his father and mother, today, you let me see it, and you are such a pit son, aren't you just dissatisfied with me?Don't you just feel that my mother's family has no money and no power, and I can't give you a long face?My sister-in-law's family has money, and that is what my sister-in-law's parents have earned all their lives!It's not a strong wind!Everyone has their own life, what's the use of envying others for having money?It's the same mom and dad, sister-in-law's parents save a big business for my sister-in-law, what about you?What have you saved for your two sons?Is it a company?Or is it a factory?It's still a belly of bad water and a small belly of chicken intestines!!
"It's against you, can you still eat this meal?".”My father-in-law didn't expect that I, who had always been weak, would be so aggressive when I got angry.
"No more!I bought it!I did it!I said if I don't eat it, I won't eat it!"After enduring it for so long, it finally broke out today.
I slammed the durian plate in my hand to the ground, took a step forward, looked at the table of sumptuous meals that I had worked hard to buy and fry in the morning, grabbed the round table with both hands, and lifted it up vigorously, with the sound of slamming dishes and breaking dishes, the whole round table was overturned by me.
The cry of my nephew and the cry of my sister-in-law are no match for the grievances in my heart.
Turning to look at my in-laws, staring at my blood-red and tearful eyes, I said"Tipping the table over today is just the beginning. It is said that tiger poison does not eat children, and it is the first time I have seen your in-laws who calculate their children like this. I didn't spend a penny on getting married, and serving your family to eat and drink during this time is also my duty as a daughter-in-law. From this day forward, don't try to take a penny from me again!My money is only spent on people with a conscience, and people with wolf hearts and dogs are not worthy!As for Zhou Jie, he wants to live with me, and you can't stop it if you want to!If you don't want to do it, you will get a divorce!I'm waiting for any time!”
Kicking away the plate fragments on the soles of my feet, I turned around and walked out of the gate of Zhou's house!
Later, I heard that I drove away for several minutes before I heard the howling voice of "Oh, God, this day can't be passed, I was bullied by my daughter-in-law, and I have no face to see people".
Then my brother and sister-in-law drove away with my nephew.
Many people stood in the courtyard and watched, probably gloating in their hearts.
The old couple showed off in the village all day long: they took 4,500 yuan from their son's filial piety every month, did nothing, and waited to eat and drink spicy food. Today is a proper slap in the face.
I drove to Zhou Jie's unit and told me everything about itZhou Jie held my hand trembling with anger, I don't know what to say, maybe he is also chilled by what his parents have done.
Zhou Jie received a ** from his father-in-law"Second brother, your daughter-in-law has lost the face of the old Zhou family today, let's leave quickly, otherwise I will kick my nose even more in the future!”
"Dad, I know the situation, I didn't expect you to make such a current event, today is the result of your insatiable greed!I have never regretted my choice, if you bully Ling'er, you are bullying me, we will not divorce. As for the monthly 1500 yuan, it will be reduced to 500 yuan, now our income belongs to the joint property of the husband and wife, any decision I make must be discussed with Ling'er, if she does not agree, I can't take out 500 yuan!”
With Zhou Jie's comfort, my mood is much better.
Since then, we have only transferred 500 yuan to my father-in-law every month, and as for how much my brother and sister-in-law transfer, it has nothing to do with us!All I know is that they never came back.
Summary
A family must understand and tolerate each other in order to be happy for a long time.
One dragon gives birth to nine sons and nine sons are different, parents should not compare their own children with each other, otherwise they can only let the children gradually stay away from you.