Under the green shade of the community, several mothers gathered together to chat about family life. Among them, the topic of a treasure mother has attracted everyone's attention. Her name is Xiaoyun, and she was unable to balance her family and career due to her busy work, and her children stayed in her hometown to be taken care of by her grandparents. In the past, Xiaoyun always proudly shared the peace of mind and freedom of the elderly with their babies. However, the recent situation has made her feel stressed. It turned out that the child had developed some bad habits under the care of his grandparents.
Xiaoyun's son is more than 6 years old, but he still stretches out his hands and opens his mouth when he eats, and loses his temper with the old man when he doesn't like it. Not only that, but he also often got into arguments with other children. Xiaoyun is deeply worried about this, and she realizes that her child's behavior and values have been greatly affected.
Such situations are not uncommon in modern society. Many young parents leave their children in the care of the elderly because they are busy with work or pursuing personal careers.
The elderly have become the backbone of taking care of children, and they use their experience and love to share the burden of raising their children. However, just as the sun cannot shine forever, the care of the elderly cannot be endless.
So, when is the best time for the elderly to withdraw from their children's lives?What impact will their withdrawal have on their children's development?
If you don't experience wind and rain, how can you see a rainbow?This lyric tells us that the ability to solve problems independently is an integral part of a child's development. Although the all-round care of the elderly makes the child feel warm, it can also lead to the child's over-dependence.
When children grow older and begin to develop a sense of autonomy around the age of 3, the moderate letting go of the elderly is conducive to cultivating children's ability to think independently and act independently. As Montessori said, "Children can only grow up through self-education and self-emancipation." ”
Companionship is the most affectionate confession. For children, there is no substitute for the company of parents. Having children cared for by an elderly person for a long time may weaken the intimate relationship between parents and children.
Therefore, when the care of the elderly is gradually reduced, it also provides more time for parents to spend with their children. These precious parent-child moments help to build a deep emotional bond and make children feel loved and cared for by their parents.
There is an old man in the family, if there is a treasure. "The care and affection of the elderly is a precious asset in our family. However, as they age, the physical and mental condition of the elderly may change. Taking care of children for long periods of time can be a burden on the body of the elderly and even affect their mental health.
Respecting the wishes and needs of the elderly, freeing them from the role of taking care of children in a timely manner, and paying attention to and protecting their physical and mental health is a reward for their efforts. As a philosopher once said, "Loving yourself is the beginning of happiness." ”
The elderly help to take care of the children, bringing warmth and support to the family, and providing a solid backing for the growth of the children. However, for the healthy growth of children, the establishment of parent-child relationships, and the physical and mental health of the elderly, it is very necessary to choose a suitable time for the elderly to gradually withdraw from the child's life. As family members, we need to seriously consider this issue and arrange a pleasant and easy old age for the elderly.
Dear readers and friends, do you also face the problem of the elderly helping to take care of the children in your family?When do you think it is most appropriate for the elderly to withdraw from their children's lives?Feel free to share your thoughts and experiences. Let's work together to create a harmonious environment for the growth of the next generation and work for the happiness of the family.
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