What is the most painful point for a wife after being betrayed by a man?That's right, it's that men want to turn the page, and women want to settle accounts. Why do you want to turn the page, because he is trying his best to seek a balance between the two sides, and when the two sides are balanced, they can better enjoy the happiness of betrayal. A fan asked me before, does the teacher have any tricks to make men return quickly and stop entangling with women outside?
There must be a method, but you need to have a strong aura and adaptability, which is the dry content that I want to bring to you today, the three-way talks. Before we get into the dry stuff, let's take a look at what is the core of a man's betrayal, which is what is lacking in your current marriage.
A man's betrayal is actually divided into three cores, also called three perspectives, namely, looking up, looking down, and looking up. First of all, we say looking up, the reason why a man from this angle will look up is because he can see the value that satisfies him, so he is willing to look up. People say that women are strong, and so are men, if you have enough self-worth, for men, he will always run forward.
Think about it, why do men like you so much when you are in love, because your value makes him excited, or your external value, good body and appearance, or humorous and funny character, or the ability to be proud in the workplace, these will become your advantages and values, on the other hand, after marriage, see how much of these values you have left?
That's right, men are creatures who like to chase, the higher your value, the more difficult it is to figure out, the more they want to chase, if you are willing to give up everything for the sake of the family, children and him, unless your husband is a very good man in the original family, responsible, and clear about his bottom line, otherwise betrayal of this kind of thing, there is a high probability that it will happen.
Let's talk about looking down, a man from this angle, in fact, wants the respect and worship of his wife, men have a heroism complex, he hopes to stand in the perspective of the capable person to get your admiration, so if you are a relatively strong, even communication is always in a commanding tone, and you want to blame the wife who wants to blame if you don't do something well, what the man finds after betrayal must be a green tea woman who will be coquettish, snort, provide emotional value, and let him feel the dignity of a man.
You may say, I've always had this kind of character, I can't learn that, let me be coquettish with him I feel disgusting, goosebumps, yes, personality determines the way you get along, but marriage is like this, if you want a stable marriage, we need to see each other's needs in marriage, and then go to the run-in, or from the beginning you should find a partner who can accept your strong side.
The last is head-up, what is head-up, that is, we have a common point of view, a compatible soul, our communication can be at the same frequency, you can feel the joy of chatting, most couples, after many years of marriage, the state is no communication, I feel that there is nothing to say, every day for the children to work hard, there is something to say, nothing to do, so as the marriage age, communication is becoming less and less, and the heart is more and more reluctant to talk to each other, because they have developed the habit of self-isolation, they would rather complain with their girlfriends, drink and chat with their brothers, and have no habit of telling each other。
After understanding these three angles of men's betrayal, how do we start to attack men?Since it is a three-way talk, then you must have the capital and hole cards to talk. What's your hole card?It can be the evidence you find, or it can be the weakness that you grasp in the underbelly of men and women outside.
How to grasp the evidence and weaknesses, you can look at my previous **, or talk to me directly. What do you do when you have your hole cards?Three-way talks, respectively, talk to the man, talk to the woman, and the three people sit together and talk.
Let's talk about talking to a man first, when talking to a man, don't let him be full of pressure as soon as you come up, the smell of gunpowder is strong, you have to do a good job of foreshadowing first, what kind of foreshadowing, you have to summarize your marriage first, affirm his previous dedication to the family, and then clarify your bottom line, for him to want to threesome things unacceptable, and then you have to take part of the evidence you have to launch an offensive step by step, the evidence does not need to be shown to him, you only need to say the content of the evidence, and then through the aura suppression, disintegrate the man's defense line, and set his words out。
After the set is out, you can let him make a choice, go home and divorce, divorce, you have to put out the consequences and punishments he will bear and even the compensation for you. When you go home, you can draw a blueprint for him and let him know what the benefits are when he goes home. But the premise of a beautiful blueprint is that he has to act and pay, and the marital property agreement can be signed by him, you have to tell him that these behaviors are actions that can make you feel safe, and then continue to give him the happiness after returning, and finally give him a few days to think about it, and then communicate.
After that, I talked to the woman, and many wives were emotional as soon as they heard that they were going to talk to the woman outside. The purpose of the talk is to make the woman afraid, let her know what the consequences will be if she continues, including the cost of her spending on your and your husband's marital property to make her clear and return it, otherwise a lawsuit will start, and everyone will know that everything that should be refunded is indispensable, and her situation will be more difficult at that time. Of course, when talking to that woman, what you need is to be emotional and reasonable, and let her know that you are not easy to deal with!
In the end, the three of them talked together, and when the man made a choice, the woman also made a choice, sat together, and discussed what the conditions were for no longer being in contact with each other, and they needed to sign an agreement with each other, and if they broke the thread, what would be the consequences. With restraint and knowing that it hurts, they will not dare to bully you again!
Therefore, the stability of your emotions, the resoluteness of your attitude, the words and aura of communication determine whether you can control the initiative, and you have the final say in the direction of your future marriage!