"If you can, don't let grandma take the baby", Bao's mother gave 3 reasons, which made people cry after reading it
In a small town, there is an old man named Aunt Mei. She silently took on an unusual responsibility - taking her niece Xiaoyu with her.
Xiaoyu's mother is Aunt Mei's niece, named Xuemei. Xuemei is a working woman with a successful career and a busy and fulfilling life. However, despite this, she chose to leave Xiaoyu in the care of Aunt Mei instead of letting Yu's grandparents take on this responsibility.
In the streets and alleys of the small town, Aunt Mei walked around with Xiaoyu in her arms, and their figures gradually drifted away. It's not that rosy. Aunt Mei's days are full of helplessness and silent giving.
Xiaoyu's father is a man with a successful career, but the family is a different scene. Whenever Dad comes home, he always just cares about lying on the sofa, and seems indifferent to the company. Although grandparents often come to admire, they are not active in the big task of bringing the baby.
Grandma Aunt Mei has become Xiaoyu's closest companion in life. All this is not out of Xuemei's wishes, but more because of avoiding conflicts with Xuemei's mother-in-law. Xuemei's mother-in-law once reminded her that once Xiaoyu was born, Aunt Mei must be by her side.
So, Aunt Mei came, but she couldn't leave it anymore. Her life seems to be trapped in a seemingly beautiful cage.
In the documentary "Grandma", Aunt Mei said helplessly: "Sister, this girl is born, you must come!."So, she came, but became a silent foil. Aunt Mei's niece was also relieved of the burden of taking care of the child because of Aunt Mei's help.
Life isn't always going well. Silently, a working woman, was able to return to work smoothly after pregnancy and childbirth. Her career has gone to the next level, thanks to her mother's full help.
From the birth of her son to the age of six, the relationship between mother and daughter has become deeper and deeper. The child seems to be closer to his grandmother, and his silent career is also in full swing. However, when the child entered elementary school, his mother wanted to go back to his hometown and never come back.
Silently confused, she got along well with her mother, the child grew up, and when she enjoyed life, her mother chose to leave. After in-depth understanding, he silently realized his debt to his mother.
In the process of raising children, the mother is often blamed. Once, the child fell while playing, and silently blamed her mother for letting her lead the child to walk. However, children are mischievous and have a hard time following instructions. In order not to have conflicts with her daughter-in-law, her mother could only endure it again and again, and secretly wiped her tears at night.
In the end, when the child can take care of himself, the mother chooses to return to her hometown. Mo Mo originally thought that it was a pleasure for his mother to be around, but he didn't realize how many grievances the old man had suffered silently. silently regretted, if she could do it again, she would never choose to let her mother take the child.
If it is a mother-in-law with a baby, the daughter-in-law will treat her mother-in-law politely when she takes into account her husband's feelings, but in the face of her own mother, it is different.
Because it is a mother-daughter relationship, the feelings for each other are deep, and the communication between them is even more unreserved. The daughter seems to think that she can still expect her mother to pamper herself unconditionally compared to before she got married. Even if she makes an unreasonable request, the daughter expects her mother to do her best to meet it.
When the mother makes a mistake, the daughter will vent her anger and scold, and she does not seem to take the initiative to comfort her biological mother as she did with her mother-in-law, but acts indifferent to her mother's feelings.
Although the responsibility for raising the child and household chores are the responsibility of the biological mother, the daughter and son-in-law seem to be the same, becoming the "hands-off shopkeeper". In this case, child-rearing becomes the exclusive responsibility of the biological mother, and the elderly seem to become free family nannies. This situation seems to complicate the mother-daughter relationship, involving uneven responsibilities and misunderstandings.
The relationship between Bao Ma and Grandma, if there is no boundary, only know how to call the elderly, this kind of relationship, for the elderly, one more day is a crime, and there is no sense of happiness at all.
Children are full of energy, especially those who are mischievous and mischievous, who are always inadvertently causing trouble and can easily get hurt. When grandma is in charge of taking care of the baby, her mental state is always highly tense, for fear that the child will bump into her head and fall if she is not careful. What makes her even more anxious is that once the child is sick, her grandmother has to stay up all night to accompany her and do her best to take care of the restless little life.
Grandma taking care of the children for her daughter is not only not easy, but also a hard and arduous experience. She gives silently, without asking for anything in return, but often falls into a bitter situation. Her hard work is unknown, and her mind is tense all the time. No matter how good she is, few people praise her, but once she makes a slight mistake, she has to endure the blame of her daughter and son-in-law, and even the dissatisfaction from her grandparents.
This burden seems to have become a heavy burden on my grandmother's heart. Her dedication is taken for granted, but it is difficult to get the respect and care she deserves. Grandma felt helpless in such an environment, she had to care about her grandchildren's every move, and she also had to bear all kinds of pressure from other members of the family.
For the elderly, no matter how hard the farm work is, it is not as comfortable as being in the fields. Even if they are tired, the old people never complain, because it is a life they are familiar with, a Xi. However, in his daughter's home, the old man lived in trepidation, and the uneasiness and contradictions of life seemed to be in the air.
After all, there is no blood relationship between the son-in-law and the old man, which makes the old man more cautious. The old man did not want to embarrass his daughter, they endured the bitterness in their hearts, and silently endured the inevitable contradictions under the same roof.
The son-in-law may be hostile to the grandmother, or may feel that she has robbed the grandmother of the opportunity to spend time with the children, and deprives the grandmother of the joy of the children and grandchildren around the knee. Living in the same room, contradictions seem inevitable.
And the arrival of the grandmother made the son-in-law more lazy with peace of mind. For him, an old man who is not his own mother will neither worry people because of fatigue, nor will he be expected to lend too much help. This made him even more slack, and he lacked respect for the elderly. The son-in-law may even be furious when it is discovered that the old man has not fulfilled the task of taking care of the child perfectly.
In the documentary "Grandma", when Grandma Gege mentioned her son-in-law, she was full of loneliness. She has been working for her daughter for a long time to take care of the child, but her son-in-law has never called her "Mom". She laughed at herself as an unknown "unsung hero", which made people sigh at the bitter experience of this old man's silent dedication.
Grandma came to a strange big city alone, shouldered the heavy responsibility of bringing a baby to her daughter, and her life became lonely and helpless, lacking a sense of belonging to the city. Her life is like a straight line, day after day, even if her children go to elementary school, it only adds a place to run, and life is still monotonous.
In the documentary "Grandma", Shuai Hu's grandmother is a person who loves singing, but in order to take care of her daughter's children, she has to put down her small business. The old couple came from their hometown, and at first the unfamiliar environment made her sit there silently, holding the child in a daze, and her hair was a lot grayer.
Grandma Yunyun used to be an actress, and after retirement, she instinctively looked for opportunities to enjoy the drama. However, since the birth of her child, she has given up her spare time and can only circle around the stove with her child. She is full of longing for her deceased mother and longs to return to her hometown on Qingming Festival. Got together with relatives and friends who had not seen each other for a long time, and the two talked happily, but when they were separated, they said goodbye and agreed to reunite.
After returning to Zhengzhou, she felt that her whole person was completely new, as if she had changed her identity. Even in the warm company of their daughters, what the old people still can't change is the trajectory of their lives. For the sake of their grandchildren, for the sake of their daughters, they endured everything in silence.
The elderly sacrificed their careers and hobbies to devote themselves willingly to the role of taking care of children. However, they have not been able to adapt to the busy big city life, nor have they had the time or energy to pursue or sustain their own interests. Perhaps this is the hardest thing they can endure.
The elderly do not have the obligation to take the baby, but they are willing to send charcoal in the snow and silently share the responsibility for their daughter, which is the power of family affection. The sacrifices they made to bring up the baby should be understood by the younger generation. The elderly who really bring a baby for their daughter should be treated well.
As children, we should be more tolerant and understanding of the elderly. Outside of work, we should be brave enough to take on the responsibility of parenting, so that the elderly have time to relax, have the opportunity to cultivate their own interests, and make more friends. Let the elderly feel more warmth and less loneliness in this city.
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