In a restaurant in Beijing, a man and his wife are enjoying a sumptuous meal. The woman suddenly mentioned that her younger brother was going to get married and planned to buy a house, but he was still short of 300,000 yuan. She hoped that her husband would help her brother, after all, her parents had helped her son-in-law in the past. The woman saw it as an opportunity to "repay the favor", and she took it for granted. However, the man did not share this view. With some annoyance, he told his wife that although he firmly believed in the principle of repaying kindness, this incident had nothing to do with their repaying their parents' kindness. The man thinks that his younger brother is not a motivated person, he does not have the ability to buy a house on his own, why should he get married?As a result, there was a huge conflict between the concepts of the husband and wife, which made the atmosphere at their table awkward for a while.
The man was very unhappy with his wife's request, and he did not understand why he had to pay for his brother's marriage and house purchase. He thinks that the woman's statement is too one-sided and ignores her brother's own problems. The money for my younger brother to buy a house came from?Did you rely on your family's funding or did you save it yourself?If it is the family's funding, then the problem of buying a house this time is solved, do you still need the support of the family in the future?And if it is the money he has saved, does it mean that the younger brother is not diligent enough and is unwilling to fight for his future?These problems raised doubts and worries about whether his brother was worth helping.
Regarding the controversy between husband and wife, netizens also have different opinions. On the one hand, some people think that since a woman's parents help a man, it is natural for a man to help a woman's younger brother. But there should be a limit to this help, and it should not last forever, so as not to create a bottomless pit situation. On the other hand, there were those who supported the man's decision, arguing that the woman's brother was not a motivated person and that he did not have the ability to buy the property on his own and therefore did not deserve additional support from the man. Supporting a bottomless younger brother can be a great burden and pressure for the future life of a male couple. There is merit in both views, but on this issue, the men's position is much stronger.
Different people have different opinions on this issue. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a sensitive and complex subject, and the concept between husband and wife will also conflict because of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. The wife wants to help her brother out of emotional considerations. She feels that family members should support and help each other. The husband is more rational, he does not deny the importance of family and family, but he pays more attention to financial management and long-term planning. In his opinion, supporting a relative who does not have the ability to be financially independent of his own will bring great uncertainty to the future of the family. Therefore, in such conflicts, both husband and wife should respect each other's opinions and resolve disputes through equal communication.
For his wife, she felt that she should give for the relationship between her family and help her brother achieve his goals in life. She values family affection very much and hopes that her husband will understand her thoughts. As for the husband, who is more concerned about the stability and future development of his family, he thinks it is unwise to give the same help as the bottomless pit. On this issue, the husband and wife have different values and interests, and it is necessary to find a balance to resolve the dispute.
The family is an important social unit, and family members should support each other and solve problems together through cooperation and understanding. However, each person's individual choices and interests are independent and dignified. In conflicts between husband and wife, both parties should have an attitude of equality, respect and understanding. Through open dialogue, they can work together to find a solution that satisfies each other's interests and maintains family harmony. Every couple should realize that there is no contradiction between affection and personal choice, but that they can be coordinated and integrated with each other.
For a wife, helping family members is a family responsibility and mission. The woman believes that family members should support each other and hopes that the relationship between her mother and husband will be good. The husband, on the other hand, is more rational and pays more attention to the stability and future development of the family. The husband and wife had a conflict on this issue, but there was truth to each other's views and positions. In family relationships, mutual respect and equal communication are the keys to conflict resolution, and couples should learn to listen and understand each other. Only by working together can both parties find a balance that can take care of the family relationship and ensure the future development of the family. In this way, the family can live in harmony and create a good environment for each member to grow.