In the original book of "Do You Know", there is a scene that is quite shocking.
When the rebels infiltrated Chengyuan and found Brother Tuan'er's hiding place and were about to deal with him, Sister Rong, who had always had a mediocre relationship with Minglan mother and son, actually stood up, fought hard, and protected her half-brother.
Recalling the scene at that time, Sister Rong couldn't tell what she was thinking at that time, she only knew that there was an obsession in her head, and she didn't want Brother Tuan to leave, so she would respond instinctively.
So, how did this instinctive reaction come about?In fact, if you take a closer look at the original book, you can see that the relationship was awkward and very distant at the beginning, Minglan and Sister Rong, the relationship between them has already slowly changed in more and more of each other.
Minglan knows how to be measured.
Marrying Gu Tingye not only means accepting Gu Tingye, but also accepting everything that Gu Tingye brings, including the grievances between him and the Hou Mansion, as well as the daughter Rong Sister Rong born to him and Manniang.
After the matter was completed, Minglan assured Gu Tingye that she understood.
But Gu Tingye was unwilling to embarrass Minglan , so he also promised Minglan in advance that he must ensure that none of the children born to Manniang would pose a threat to the identity of the child born to Minglan . I will pay more emotions for the children born in Minglan.
Even Sister Rong and Gu Tingye planned in advance - to raise her in the house for food and clothing, and to get married when she is old. And the specific method of raising is completely Minglan voluntary, so Gu Tingye won't ask.
This is what Gu Tingye is very smart.
Sister Rong represents her unbearable future. Because of the old things and the old people, Gu Tingye could hardly have a fatherly heart for Sister Rong.
It's better to be blunt than posturing. did not make things difficult for himself, nor did he expect too much from Sister Rong.
In addition, he understands very well that with Minglan's character, he will be able to make Sister Rong grow up peacefully and safely, and he will not be harsh on her. That Gu Tingye simply expressed his heart directly to Minglan and chose to let go.
Minglan knew what Gu Tingye thought, and made some plans for him to be with Sister Rong in the future - he didn't have to be very close, he just had to do what he could, but he wanted to be worthy of it.
Therefore, when Sister Rong was instigated by Manniang when she was young, she hated Minglan to the bone and refused to take Minglan in, Minglan didn't care.
Minglan was just waiting, waiting for Sister Rong to figure it out herself.
According to her:
When she grows up, when she figures it out on her own, no one in this world can survive the New Year, and a month, a year, or a few years can slowly get better. I ordered someone to let Qiu Niang take care of her food, clothing, housing and transportation, and let Aunt Gong take care of her reading and etiquette, take care of her body first, and when she is old, you can ask for some good teaching.
Make sure the general direction is right and don't interfere too much. Minglan is always moderate and conscientious.
When she found out that the people around Sister Rong hadn't even done a good job of cultural enlightenment, Minglan listened to the information and went to ask Miss General's Mansion for help and find a good way for Sister Rong to study.
And after Sister Rong enters school, Minglan will also teach her some ways to be a housewife, so that she can do her best when she marries in the future.
But the reason why Minglan did all this was not because she suddenly became a "virgin" and was open to her stepdaughter without reservation.
She is just worthy of her conscience, doing her duty, and having a clear conscience.
And Minglan didn't expect Sister Rong to repay her for anything. As she said when she talked to Gu Tingye about Sister Rong as a child:
I never wanted her to be filial to her parents.
I only hope that she can understand that she should live a wonderful life without being angry, frustrated, or resentful.
She will have a lifetime, she will have children in the future, the previous things are not her own fault, she shouldn't always drag the past and not let go.
The days of the big world, the sea and the sky, the broad mind and the broad vision will last long.
It is this psychology that makes Minglan always maintain a calm posture in the face of Sister Rong, and her posture finally touched Sister Rong.
Sister Rong understands etiquette.
Unlike Brother Chang, who was brought by Manniang all the year round and poisoned by Manniang's mind, Sister Rong entered the Hou Mansion very early.
And as she gets older, Manniang's influence on Sister Rong'er gradually declines.
When Sister Rong was sent to school by Minglan and heard Teacher Xue's lesson, Sister Rong had the ability to judge the problem by herself, and was no longer moved by her biological mother's thoughts.
Sister Rong has a good impression of Mr. Xue, and is secretly determined to be a man like Mr. Xue who does not let his eyebrows go, is upright, and is refreshing.
Therefore, when Sister Rong does things, she always uses Teacher Xue's criteria to demand her, and asks her to pose an evaluation question.
When she struggled with whether Minglan would give birth to her own child, as outsiders say, she would regard a child like herself as a thorn in her side, and her mentality was unbalanced, she would think of what Teacher Xue said, "When you encounter problems, you should correct your heart, instead of thinking about problems first." The heart is open-minded, the eyes are clear", to adjust their mentality.
When she doubted that Minglan was good to her because she really liked her, or she wanted to please her father and win a good reputation, she would remember what Teacher Xue said, "Good is good, and those who receive good should be grateful, sincerely cherish blessings, act modestly, and be gentle and do good." In this way, we can stay blessed for a long time, and God bless people to help", let go of entanglement.
It is with this kind of continuous learning and continuous reflection that Sister Rong has an increasingly open-minded mentality.
Although on the surface she still can't get close to her mother-in-law. But from the bottom of her heart, she clearly knew that she was grateful to her mother-in-law.
Sister Rong also has a soft spot for her mother's brother-in-law.
In addition, Brother Tuan looks similar to himself, and he is better than his own brother Brother Chang. Sister Rong glanced at Brother Tuan'er, and she became closer and closer.
It is precisely because of this kind of affection and intimacy that Sister Rong will face the danger of Brother Tuan'er, don't think about it, and rush forward desperately to protect herself.
There is a saying: sincerity for sincerity. Because of this desperate situation, Sister Rong really integrated into her father's new home.
Minglan is also becoming more and more kind to her, planning her future for her from the bottom of her heart, and letting her find a good grandmother's family and marry her with her own hands.
Since then, Sister Rong has had a good day of her own.
Recently, when writing **, I like to use "the road to simplicity" to describe it.
Because I have always believed that in the complicated and troublesome world, people can find a simple way to settle down in the world.
Minglan is like this, she can't be a warm sister, so she didn't force her to be vain, but adhered to her consistent principles of doing things, worthy of her conscience, and only then would she reap enough to die well.
And Sister Rong is the same, she couldn't understand her mother-in-law's good intentions for her, and she didn't make it difficult for her to entangle, so she simply followed Teacher Xue's teachings, thanks to her good intentions, didn't ask the reason, and looked for opportunities to return.
And we can also do the same at the moment, in the big principles, do not give up and stick to it, and in small things, we don't have to embarrass ourselves. It is also easy and enjoyable to live.