There is a kind of thinking of chasing girls, which is called paying thinking. The specific performance is 1, all kinds of good to women, and they do not hesitate to give up their self-esteem for this.
2. Give gifts, send red envelopes, please eat, and meet the material needs of women.
3, sweet words, obedient, dare not say a word of excess, these men think that as long as they meet the woman, there is always a reward for paying. Sooner or later, the woman will be moved and promise to be together.
As a result, it's a pity that you don't have the life of the hero of the TV series, and the woman still rejects you. Why?
It's very simple, in a word, she thinks you don't deserve it.
From a psychological and gaming point of view, only people with low value will please people with high value. For example, we usually see that most of the people who give gifts are asking for help. In the same way, people who often convey emotional value to others, (complimenting others, sweet words, etc.), are also low-value people. Those who are sycophants are the best proof of this.
You pay all kinds of things, all kinds of sweet words, in the eyes of women, she will not be moved, but will be suspicious, why do you do this?
The end result is, you want to soak her. With this thought, it's impossible for her not to guard against you. When can you give and talk sweetly?
The answer is that when the relationship between the two of you has been determined, the woman already knows you well enough, and you do such a thing again, which is the icing on the cake.
There is another reason why women think you are unworthy, that is, you have raised her value in disguise.
You think, you gave a lot of gifts and said a lot of nice things. The woman will be fluttering, and she will take it for granted because she deserves it.
The best way to flirt with a woman is the reasonable application of one's own value.
I have a friend who runs a bar. Around him were beautiful women. Once he told me that for so many years, he chased girls, and basically didn't spend any money.
He told me that it was easy for him to chase girls. took her to the bar, and a circle of people around greeted him: Brother Zhang, bring your sister-in-law over. Then, on his booth, a bunch of people toasted. They are all handsome men and beautiful women.
When he was almost drunk, he sent his sister home and drove his own luxury car (rented). After this round, the girl is basically dizzy. Then when I have time, I will make an appointment with my sister, have a meal with friends in my circle, and play mahjong. A bunch of people said that he was good, plus the value of the circle that the girl saw. The relationship is basically determined. He chases girls to bring his value to the extreme. Show the value to the woman, not share it with her. Women will find you attractive.
It's like, if you have a grassland, you don't have to worry about not having horses.
This method can be used directly. Use the money you spend and the time you pay for women to use yourself and constantly improve your value. There's no reason for a woman to reject you.
Some boys, he is too anxious and always wants a way to work immediately. Instead, they ignore the most important things, and the result is a failure.
That's all for today. For more chasing girl skills and emotional love issues, it is very interesting to pay attention to Brother Yue