Marriage is a spiritual practice that requires both partners to work together. For women, if they want to keep their marriage long, they need to learn to let go of something. Letting go is not giving up, but a kind of wisdom and growth. Here are the best ways for a woman to keep her marriage long: Three let go.
I remember a female classmate in college, after graduation, she married a handsome and successful husband not long after, and she didn't have to worry about food, clothing, or work. Let us all be envious, and we all think that she is married to happiness.
However, in fact, this is not the case, she has no job, she has no financial **, and all her expenses have to be paid by her husband, so she is not less angry with her family.
The mother-in-law can't get used to her being at home all day except taking care of the children, doing nothing and not making money, and often says that she is not.
She confided her grievances to her husband, but instead of speaking for her, her husband asked her not to make trouble.
The depression of the family, coupled with her husband's indifference, made her suffer from depression not long after.
Later, with the comfort and encouragement of his classmates, he finally mustered up the courage to leave this home and go out to find his career again.
In order to make up for her own shortcomings in the years of marriage, she began to work hard to learn Xi management knowledge.
Soon after, he invested in business with his friends, and slowly his career became impressive. Through her own efforts, she not only gained financial independence, but also regained herself and became more confident.
And after she left, her husband realized her hardship. Realizing her problem, she bought a new house, moved out, and took the initiative to take on the responsibility of taking care of her children, so that she could feel at ease about her career.
Gradually, the relationship between the two also recovered as before.
In married life, no one can give you a sense of security, only when you have independent capital, you can become your own backer, and you can have the confidence to give yourself a sense of security;You have the strength to face hardship with your significant other.
In marriage, it is inevitable that there will be various contradictions and disagreements. Blindly choose to blame and blame, and ask your partner to make changes. However, excessive blame will only make the partner feel stressed and dissatisfied, and will only hurt each other's feelings.
Only by letting go of posture, understanding each other, and communicating calmly can we get along for a long time in marriage.
There is no shortage of such people around us, who quarrel over trivial matters, threaten when they quarrel, and are full of foul language when they are threatened. It's like an explosives bag, and it explodes at one point.
As soon as your partner's opinion differs from your own, immediately deprive the other person of the right to speak, "You shut up, you don't talk." "Constantly suppressing each other.
Everyone is an adult, and life is not easy for anyone.
Dumping your emotional garbage on your partner will only make your relationship more and more strained.
No matter how good-tempered a person is, he can't withstand endless mental attacks.
So, don't blame the person who loves you too much and don't let the home become the place he wants to escape from the most.
Put down your posture, speak well, and be reasonable slowly, so that the marriage will last long.
Many women have high expectations for marriage and want it to be perfect.
I hope that one of my actions or a look can make a man understand his thoughts.
However, this is often not the case.
Don't put too many expectations into your marriage, the greater the expectations, the greater the disappointment, and the more likely it is to have misunderstandings between husband and wife.
We have such a couple living next door.
The wife is a teacher at a university, and the husband is an employee of a company.
In the eyes of everyone, they are very cultured people, with high quality, and they have a very good relationship with everyone's neighbors, and they are a very happy couple.
However, on the way home, I met this wife, and during a small talk, I learned that she was not so happy.
She once expected her husband to be thoughtful and read what she was thinking.
But that's not the case.
Her husband is a simple straight man with no mind, and many times, the hints to her are indifferent.
Every time I go out shopping, it feels like he doesn't understand what I mean, and it makes me really tired. ”
So, I asked her, "How do you usually communicate with him?"”
I remember once when I went shopping, most of the day passed, and I was so thirsty. ”
I wanted to buy water, so I asked him repeatedly: Are you thirsty?”
Unexpectedly, my husband said 'not thirsty' every time and continued to wander around. ”
I was very annoyed and asked: I have given you so many opportunities, you can't realize that after walking for a long time, do I need to drink water?”
But he said, 'If you don't tell me, how do I know?'’”
Makes me so angry. ”
Because everyone grows up in a different environment and has different living Xi, their cognitive ability to things is also different
Naturally, the Xi of expression and the way of thinking are also different.
It is often expressed in a more straightforward way, which is easier for people to accept and understand, and also makes life less troublesome.
The neighbor's wife later understood this.
Later, when she was tired from shopping, she said directly to her husband, "I'm tired, a little thirsty, and I want to drink water." ”
Her husband immediately agreed, "Okay, I'll buy it for you right away!."”
After that, when I met her again, I never heard her say that she was unhappy again.
Therefore, in marriage, many times we don't bend around, don't let the other party guess your thoughts, there are some things you don't say, he will never understand;There are some ideas that you don't mention, he will never think of.
There is no perfect person in the world, just like there is no one who can understand you perfectly.
Put down the pairPerfectMarriage fantasies, withUnderstandwithInclusionGo empathy,to letMarriageLove,Longer.
Let go of the over-dependence of the economy and be your own strong backing;
Let go of excessive accusations against your partner, calm your posture, and communicate calmly;
Let go of the illusion of a perfect marriage and face the difference between you and him simply and straightforwardly.
May we all let go of the baggage in our hearts and manage our marriages with tolerance, generosity, and understanding. Until a long time.
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