Wen Xiamo. In interpersonal communication, there are very few invincible feelings, and more are based on interests.
The relationship that can really stand the test must be obtained through the careful maintenance and joint operation of both parties.
And when your relationship with others starts to deteriorate and you gradually distance yourself from each other, it must be inseparable from the reality of the reason.
When a relationship goes bad, it can't do without two words.
Interests are an unavoidable test in a relationship.
If you cross the past, the relationship between each other will be stronger, and if you can't cross it, you can only drift away.
My cousin has a good friend.
The two of them are from the same company, go to work together, get off work together, enjoy food together, and are like sisters.
Once, the two worked together to take charge of a project, and many of the problems were solved by the cousin, but when reporting to the leader, the friend grabbed the credit and fought for more benefits.
Through the perfect execution of this project, my friends have also been promoted in their positions and accepted the congratulations and applause of other colleagues.
In private, my friend said that she hoped that her cousin would support her work in the future.
The cousin also expressed her blessings, but she no longer regards her as a bosom friend.
In the face of interests, choose to abandon each other's friendship, then, this relationship is destined to not go far.
Zhou Guoping said: "The dominance of the social scene is definitely not friendship, but fashion, profit or boredom. ”If a person always values interests above everything else, he is destined to not be able to manage a relationship well.
Even through interests, it is not a bad thing to be able to see a person clearly.
Staying away from people who value interests and despise friendship in time can save you from being hurt more.
Everyone's heart is like a mirror, and they are not stupid. It is not difficult to see who is a true friend and who is wearing a mask of hypocrisy.
If a person is calculating and always wants to take advantage of others, he will definitely leave clues.
When others have been calculated by him once, suffered a loss, and were deceived, they will naturally have scruples and precautions against him in their hearts.
The relationship between two people is secretly calculated, and others will definitely notice it, and they will no longer give all their trust and sincerity.
What's more, I was calculated by others once, and I was unwilling, I didn't want to suffer a dumb loss like this, and I tried every means to breathe a sigh for myself.
Therefore, they will also choose to use the same way to calculate the other party and let the other party know that this taste is not comfortable.
As time went by, the relationship between them gradually deteriorated. Both sides regard each other as enemies, and fire and water are incompatible.
A relationship gradually changes because it is mixed with calculations.
When two people are together, hiding their own thoughts and unable to be honest with each other, they will naturally drift apart.
I've seen such a paragraph**, which says:
The two married women, who were originally very good friends, often made appointments to chat over tea and share their lives.
One of the women was happily married, her husband would often buy her gifts, obey her, and her face was always rippling with sweetness.
And the husband of another woman likes to drink, and when he gets drunk, he either scolds her or throws things. She felt miserable about making a mess of her home.
She was very envious of the other party in her heart, and gradually, this envy turned into jealousy, and became unwilling. She couldn't help but slander her behind her back.
Another woman's husband, hearing the gossip outside, started arguing with his wife. The relationship between the two women also broke completely from this time.
Keigo Higashino said, "The greatest evil of human nature is not being able to see the good of others. You never know how much malice those people in your life who seem close to you will be behind your back. ”If friends treat each other sincerely, they will not be jealous of each other. I won't feel unbalanced in my heart just because the other party is doing well and has made achievements, and I will blush at each other.
When two people get along, one party can't see the other party's good, and can't help but slander the other party behind their backs, no matter how deep the relationship is, it will become bad.
When a relationship goes bad, it often starts when they can't be honest with each other.
In fact, while denigrating others, a person also puts himself in a despicable position, exposing his own evil and unkindness.
A relationship, if it is mixed with interests and calculations, or slander, will quickly turn bad.
Only by treating each other sincerely and with an honest heart can we exchange for a sincere relationship.
You should manage your relationship with others well, abandon distractions, and strive to gain warmth and companionship.
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