My name is Li Ming, I am 32 years old and I am a programmer. My wife's name is Li Li, who is the same age as me and is a primary school teacher. We have been married for 5 years and have a 3-year-old son named Li Bao.
My mother's name is Zhang Yuying, she is 60 years old and is a typical traditional Chinese mother. She has always lived with my father-in-law in her hometown, and I rarely went back to see them after I got married.
A few days ago, my mother called, and her tone was a little excited: "Son, your daughter-in-law is going to be confined after giving birth to the baby this time, right?"Mommy misses you so much, I really miss my baby!You can take me to you, just a month, let the mother help you take the baby and do some housework, okay?
I was a little embarrassed, and I stumbled for a while before saying, "Mom, this place is too small, and it must be very inconvenient for you to come." My mother immediately said, "What's inconvenient, I can live on the sofa in the living room, as long as I can see the baby."
I wanted to explain more, but seeing her eager tone, I couldn't bear to just say that I wouldn't let her come. So I said, "I'll discuss this with Lili and see if it can work." My mother said happily, "Then you can discuss it quickly, and if you can, I will sit next week."
Hang up **, and I'm in a dilemma. I knew there was no room for one more person in the apartment, and my family and I were already overcrowded. For individuals, washing, cooking, etc. will greatly affect the quality of life.
But I couldn't bear to tell my mother directly that there was no space and I couldn't pick her up. She missed us so much, and I understood what she was looking forward to.
I told my wife Lili about the situation, and she was also embarrassed and said, "Of course I understand that your mother wants to come, and when I gave birth to Xiaoxing in the past, my mother also came to help a lot." But it's really too crowded to accommodate so many people. ”
I nodded and said, "I know it's normal to squeeze, but just telling my mom that there is no place makes her feel uncomfortable." She is so eager to help us take care of the baby, I am reluctant to hit her directly.
Lili thought for a while and said, "Otherwise, don't reject your mother directly, let's think about any other way?"For example, see if your parents can make room at homeI thought about the offer and thought it might work. My parents' old rural house is quite large, and it shouldn't be very difficult to live alone. But I thought of another question: "But the environment is so bad on my parents' side, and there is no one to take care of them." If you are left alone with your baby, life will be very difficult.
Lili thought for a while and said, "You don't have to go, as long as you can make room for your mother." I can go to my mom's place for a while and come back when your mom is gone. I said with some anxiety: "Then it is very hard for you to carry a baby alone, I think it is better not to grow old."
Lili said resolutely: "What's the matter, it's for your mother's hard work for a while." Just tell your mom that the spot is vacated and that she'll come over next week.
I wanted to say anything more, Lili had already started packing her things and was ready to move to her mother's house tomorrow. Looking at her sharp back, I felt a wave of emotion in my heart, and at the same time I blamed myself. In the end, it was up to her to give in so that my mother could come over.
A week later, I went to the station to pick up my mom. She cried happily when she saw me, and my eyes were red from her infection. When I got home from the rental, my mother looked at the empty house, and although she was very relieved that she had a room to live in, she cried again at the thought that her daughter-in-law had to move out to make room.
I reassured her that it was all our own and that she didn't mind. My mother wiped away her tears and said earnestly: "I came here for your sake, why do you still embarrass my daughter-in-law!."I think it's better to forget it, let's go back.
I hurriedly said, "Mom, you've just arrived, don't leave in a while." Lili also hopes that you can come and help me with the baby. I can do any work by myself, so you can spend time with your grandchildren at home.
Although my mother still kept nagging and feeling sorry, she decided not to leave for the time being, thinking that she could see the baby every day. Sure enough, in the next few days, I could see that she was busy all day long, taking care of the baby, and always with a kind smile on her face.
I spent a week with my mom and I found that she helped me and my family a lot. Not only does she take care of the baby, but she also does all the housework such as cooking and laundry. Every day I come home from work, I have a hot meal and my clothes are neatly folded and organized. I began to realize that all my previous worries and worries were unnecessary. Living with my mom and soul made me feel a lot of warmth and longing.