With the development of society, people have more and more opportunities to participate in various celebrations, and the ensuing issue of gifts has become a headache. As a traditional custom, it is a sign of blessing and support to the organizer, but in some cases, we should carefully consider whether to give a gift. In this article, we will discuss four reasons why you should not give a gift in four situations.
First of all, for those who have been handing out invitations to others, but have found various excuses to decline them, it is best not to participate in the ceremony. These kinds of events are often run by the organizers to increase the number of guests, and they don't really want us to attend. Such activities often lack sincerity and intimacy, and are only for the sake of formal fulfillment. In this case, we tend to passively participate in the ritual without real meaning and value.
Second, we should also be wary of those who ask for gifts for improper reasons.
For example, some people will make a small profit from various celebrations, and they will use the name of celebration as a tool for their profit. Or, some people throw a banquet because of their child's good grades and ask the guests to do so. This behavior goes against the original purpose of the gift and turns it into a transactional act rather than a heartfelt blessing. In such a situation, we should decisively refuse to follow the etiquette and stick to the values and principles of our hearts.
The third situation is when a friend who has not been in contact for a long time suddenly sends an invitation. In this case, we can simply ignore it, there is no need to seriously participate. Invitations from friends who have not been in contact for a long time are often sent to make up the number of people or meet temporary needs, rather than genuinely inviting us to participate. If there is no real emotional foundation and intimacy, we are not obligated to participate in the ceremony. In this case, we can reserve our time and energy to care for those who truly play an important role in our lives.
The last case is the case of forced participation without being invited. If mutual friends receive invitations but don't, it means that the organizers don't want us to participate. In this case, we should not be self-indulgent, force participation in the event and follow the ceremony. This will only bring embarrassment and unnecessary embarrassment to yourself. We should respect the decision of the organizers, but also learn to maintain self-esteem and self-confidence, and not to behave inappropriately in pursuit of vanity.
To sum up, although it is a traditional custom, we need to take into account the authenticity of the event and the original intention of the organizer when choosing whether to follow the ceremony. In some special circumstances, such as the lack of authenticity of the invitation activity, asking for a gift for improper reasons, a sudden invitation from a friend who has not been in contact for a long time, or forcibly participating without being invited, we should decisively refuse to follow the gift and maintain our bottom line and principles.