At the age of 65, the pension of 8,000 is still working, and the in-laws have no income at the age of 58 to provide for the elderly
I am 63 years old, my partner is 65, and both of them are retired from the design institute with a total monthly pension of $15,000. The only child is 36 years old, the daughter-in-law's youngest son is 1 year old, the grandson is 6 years old, and the granddaughter is under 2 years old. My wife is still working after retirement, with an income of more than 8,000 yuan, and has been subsidizing her son's family, while her 58-year-old mother also lives with us, but she does not enjoy a pension. This incident has always made me dissatisfied, until one time my mother-in-law was sick and hospitalized, and I took care of my grandchildren on her behalf, that I deeply understood the hardships of my mother-in-law and was full of gratitude to her.
My son has been outstanding since he was a child, and he didn't worry us at all. After he entered 985 University to study for a master's degree, he also entered our design institute, and his family of three became colleagues. At the age of 27, his son met Chunling, a junior high school teacher with good looks and figure, gentle and melodious speech, and sensible manners. Our whole family was very impressed with her, and her sweet smile seemed to be coated with honey. Because his son made Chunling's girlfriend, he was as happy as a rabbit, jumping up and down when he walked, and humming a song in his mouth.
My wife and I are relieved to see our son so happy. But when I learned about Chunling's family background, I began to hesitate. She comes from a rural area, her parents are ordinary farmers, and she has no pension. I made it clear to my son: I don't agree with the two of you!I took great pains to analyze the situation for my son in detail: after marriage, your burden will be very heavy, and the woman's family will not be able to provide financial support, but will have to support her parents, and the burden will continue forever. It's not going to happen for a while, and it's likely to last. If something happens to her parents, you're all responsible. In desperation, I couldn't convince my son. He insisted on going his own way, and he would not marry unless he was Chunling. My wife persuaded me: "If you want to open up, he has chosen this path, let him go, the more you manage, the more you will become an enemy." "Whether we agree or not, Chunling eventually became our daughter-in-law. At that time, I said to my son, "If you don't listen to what I say, in that case, then I won't take a penny, and you will be naked." "It's just talk, but it's our only son after all.
When the two families discussed marriage, the mother-in-law showed that the family was simple and lived on a limited thin field. Her father had been suffering from low back pain for a long time and was unable to do heavy labor, so our family could not afford to provide a marriage house even though they wanted to. We didn't expect the woman to pay for the marriage house, because we have an old two-bedroom house and plan to renovate it as a newlywed home.
In fact, if it had been a marriage that satisfied us, we would have been willing to buy a new, larger house for our son's wedding home. However, at the moment, I don't want to buy any more, so I'm going to use this old house. Fortunately, the woman also agreed, Chunling said: "This is already very good, when we have enough savings, we will change to a bigger house." "Chunling is a sensible child, which makes me feel a little comforted.
I proposed, "I'll give 90,000 90,000 bride price, and ask for a good omen for a long time." "To be honest, it's not a lot of money. Chunling didn't speak, and her mother-in-law agreed: "Yes, it's 90,000." ”
I continued, "No matter what, Chunling is a sensible child. I'll buy another 5 gold, and you can choose the style yourself. Chunling responded: "Auntie, 3 gold is enough, it's just a scene, and it's important to have a good life." ”
My wife added: "We'll buy a new car, about 200,000 yuan, you can pick it yourself." "The in-laws didn't spend a penny, and the bride price was not taken home, we understand, after all, they are not financially well-off, and it may be more practical to keep the bride price money for medical treatment. Now that we've become a family, we don't care about it.
The wedding was simple and warm, and Chunling became our daughter-in-law from then on.
After my son got married, my daughter-in-law Chunling soon became pregnant, and my wife and I had not retired at that time, and the two in-laws also came to our son's house and said that they would take care of Chunling.
At that time, my mother-in-law and father-in-law were only in their 50s, and although I came to take care of my daughter, I actually felt more like I came to my daughter's house to enjoy her old age.
After the birth of the grandson, the daughter-in-law's parents have always been there, and we have not worried about the confinement.
My grandson has always been taken care of by my grandparents, and we haven't taken it with us since we retired, not because we don't want to, but because we don't need to worry about it.
Now my wife is 65 years old, with a pension of 8,000 yuan, and she is still working to make money. My father-in-law is 70 years old and has no pension, but he enjoys family fun at my son's house.
Since my grandson was born, I have felt that it is a good choice to let my grandson's grandparents take care of him, after all, we only need to pay for it. Therefore, I will pay 3,000 yuan per month for my son's living expenses.
Although 3,000 yuan is not much, because the son earns a lot, their family is not short of money. I gave this money just as a thought. When my grandson was more than four years old, my daughter-in-law became pregnant unexpectedly and gave birth to a very cute granddaughter.
One day, my son and daughter-in-law came to me and wanted to discuss something with me. Originally, they planned to sell their current house and buy a bigger one. Since there are now two children at home, plus the children's grandparents, the family of six is really a little cramped.
This house was originally in the name of my wife, and after you sell it, you buy a house, won't this become your real estate?
I couldn't help muttering in my heart: Isn't this like the bathroom plot on the Internet?Is this going to be a drama in our family?
My wife didn't say a word, and I guess her face wasn't very good. I thought to myself: your family of six is happy, but we are always like outsiders. This time, we want to sell the house to buy you a new house, we are too wronged, right?
Seeing that we were not in a good mood, my daughter-in-law quickly explained: "Mom and Dad, I didn't make it clear. We were indeed too crowded to stay. Do you think that's going to work?When we buy a house, we can add your and Dad's names as well. Now that I have two children, the expenses are also large, and if I don't sell this house, I still have the pressure to repay the loan. We have some savings, and with the money from selling the house, we can buy a new three-bedroom, two-bedroom house in full. ”
After hearing this, my wife and I suddenly realized that I had misunderstood the meaning of the children, and it was not the plot of the washing room that was staged in my house. As a result, the exchange of the house was perfectly resolved.
Four years later, we are very satisfied with our daughter-in-law's handling. In order to accommodate our feelings, she was even willing to add our name to the new property. Moreover, she also gave birth to a lovely big granddaughter for us. As a grandmother, I think that in order to show my heart, the monthly subsidy for my son has increased from 3,000 yuan to 6,000 yuan.
Whenever the day of pension payment comes, we will transfer the money directly to my daughter-in-law's bank card. Every time, the daughter-in-law will send a message of thanks through WeChat: "Thank you, parents!."”
My daughter-in-law is really a good daughter-in-law who is caring and sensible, knows how to take care of our emotions, and can also think about us.
Despite this, I always feel that my in-laws are too happy. My wife worked hard to earn money to supplement my son's living expenses, and they didn't spend a penny when they married their daughter, and now they are living in our house in their 50s.
No matter how my wife comforted me and said, "As long as your son is happy, why should you care too much?"I go to work because I don't want to be idle at home, and I can't be tired. Let's just live our own lives, you don't have to think too much. ”
But I always had an unbalanced feeling in my heart, feeling that the two of us had suffered a loss, while the two of my in-laws had taken a lot of advantage.
A few months ago, my father-in-law's lower back condition deteriorated further, and he had to undergo an emergency operation, which made him unable to fidget and take care of himself, and he was finally admitted to the hospital.
In order to share the responsibilities of the family, the daughter-in-law took annual leave and took care of her father-in-law's daily life with her mother-in-law. During this period, my wife and I took the place of the two in-laws and temporarily moved to our son's house. Our responsibilities include not only transporting our 6-year-old grandchildren to kindergarten, but also our granddaughters under 2 years old who need to be taken care of.
With his son's busy schedule, housework has become almost a luxury, and weekends are even more tedious. The grandson no longer goes to kindergarten, and the lively and active boy sometimes jumps and sometimes restless;My young granddaughter needs to eat, drink, and go to the toilet, so my wife and I are very busy, and we do our best for the stability of the family.
The experience of this period of time made me deeply appreciate the hard work of my in-laws, their life is not an ordinary pension, but full of hardships to take care of others, but also a kind of unpaid dedication. The reason why my father-in-law's back disease is aggravated is because of their hard work, they are the unsung heroes of our family!
I would like to express my heartfelt gratitude to my in-laws for supporting our family and for your tremendous efforts to take care of our grandchildren. You are the heroes of the family, you are the heroes who have paid silently, I want to sincerely say: thank you!
At the same time, I would also like to express my respect and gratitude to my daughter-in-law. You have shown a mature and sensible side and have become an important member of our family. With you by our side, we have become a close-knit family. Thank you, you are our pride and the luck of our lives!