Zuo Zhigao sent away the last few people in the cave room, took a hasty shower and entered the bedroom. At the age of 30, he finally ushered in his cave room with candles, and his excitement was beyond words. He couldn't wait to get close to his new wife, Ke Shangmin, and feel her warmth and softness. However, when he was about to kiss her, he was pushed down by Ke Shangmin with a serious face. Zuo Zhigao couldn't help but feel lost and surprised.
Ke Shangmin took out a paper agreement from the bedside table with a serious expression, and said in an unquestionable tone that their married life would implement the AA system in the future. If Zuo Zhigao doesn't sign, she will insist on sleeping in separate rooms. For the traditional Zuo Zhigao, husband and wife should work together and take responsibility together, rather than dividing everything so clearly.
I have 16,000 yuan after tax every month, we earn our own money and spend it ourselves, you are yours, I am mine, we must distinguish clearly. Ke Shangmin said coldly. Zuo Zhigao couldn't help but fall into confusion and helplessness, according to the traditional concept, marriage should be two people working together and sharing the burden, not like roommates so clearly.
Although Zuo Zhigao was very dissatisfied in his heart, in the face of Ke Shangmin's tough attitude, he could only sign the agreement in compromise. They had a conjugal ceremony and then had a unique wedding night. However, living in the way of the AA system every day, Zuo Zhigao felt embarrassed and helpless, he felt that they were not husband and wife, but more like roommates, just living together.
However, about a year later, after Ke Shangmin gave birth to their son, she suddenly regretted the AA system she had formulated. With the birth of his son, the family bills doubled, and expenses such as milk powder, diapers, supplementary food, and hospitalization became the norm, and Ke Shangmin began to realize that he had mistreated Zuo Zhigao.
She was pregnant for ten months, risked her life to give birth to a son, and almost all the care and auxiliary work in daily life were undertaken by herself, but Zuo Zhigao was like a dead pig sleeping deeply, no matter how she shared the cost, she felt that she had lost a lot.
However, because of the rules set by Ke Shangmin, she couldn't open her mouth to tear up the agreement, so she could only stick to it. She went back to work after maternity leave, but she was mentally exhausted and made frequent mistakes at work due to the need to take care of the baby by herself at night, and she was eventually fired by a foreign company. Ke Shangmin was in a difficult situation, and because she lost her income, she had to reconsider the AA system.
However, when Ke Shangmin proposed to cancel the AA system, Zuo Zhigao resolutely rejected her. In Zuo Zhigao's view, Ke Shangmin's behavior has a double standard, only when it is beneficial to herself, she will keep her promises, and when it is not profitable, she will break the contract. He worries that if she gets a high-paying job, will she go back to the old model againHe also stated the reason for his refusal, and everyone was stunned.
It turned out that during the AA system, Zuo Zhigao's father was suddenly seriously ill and hospitalized, and the cost of the operation was still 100,000 yuan. After Zuo Zhigao borrowed money everywhere to no avail, he could only borrow money from Ke Shangmin, but Ke Shangmin not only asked Zuo Zhigao to sign an IOU, but also demanded to pay high interest. All this completely hurt Zuo Zhigao's heart and became the reason for his refusal to give in.
The story ends here, leaving the suspense for the time being, what changes and impacts will the unknown development bring to the couple?Will they be able to find a way to get along with each other that is more suitable for each other?This chain of events has sparked reflections on marriage, responsibility, and fairness, and has had a profound impact on the relationship between husband and wife.
Grandma Song's point of view:
1.The AA system allows both parties to be financially independent, fair and reasonable. Ke Shangmin proposed the AA system before marriage to protect his own interests and avoid financial disputes after marriage. She is willing to take responsibility for her efforts and is not dependent on her husband's income. For the economic management after marriage, there should be clear regulations and division of responsibilities between the parties, and the AA system is a reasonable and fair way.
2.The AA system helps in the personal growth and independence of both parties. Under the AA system, Zuo Zhigao can better understand and experience the importance of taking responsibility and managing his own finances independently. Ke Shangmin's request is also to help Zuo Zhigao cultivate good financial management skills, promote the personal growth and independence of both of them, and better develop their careers and lives.
Aunt Yang's point of view:
1.Family responsibilities and financial burdens should be shared between husband and wife. Marriage is a partnership that supports and grows together, and the AA system destroys the common experience and mutual support between husband and wife to a certain extent. Ke Shangmin's approach is too business-oriented and emotional, and husbands and wives should face and solve problems together, rather than completely separate finances.
2.The AA system leads to a lack of trust and emotion. Married life should be based on mutual trust and solid affection, not purely financial considerations. Ke Shangmin's indifference and egoism made Zuo Zhigao feel the coldness and irrationality of marriage, and such a relationship could not provide him with emotional support and dependence. Marriage should be a partnership that faces difficulties together and shares financial pressures together.
Legal Opinions:1According to article 9 of the Marriage Law, husband and wife shall be faithful to each other, help each other and bear joint responsibilities during the existence of the marital relationship.
2.Article 29 of the Marriage Act stipulates that husband and wife are responsible for the joint administration of family property.
3.According to article 46 of the Marriage Law, the expenditure of family property by husband and wife shall be agreed upon through consultation and shall not be decided unilaterally, and it is not appropriate to completely separate the finances.
4.It is worth mentioning that, according to article 23 of the Marriage Act, husband and wife are obliged to share the cost of family living and maintain the normal functioning of the family.
The above is based on my understanding of the stories provided and the relevant laws and regulations. The specific circumstances also need to be comprehensively judged in light of the actual situation and judicial interpretations.