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Recently, a wedding turmoil in Taiyuan, Shanxi Province has attracted widespread attention, and the topic of a woman being ignored by graduate students to recover gift money continues to ferment on the Weibo hot search list. The person recalled that in 2017, she gave a graduate student 500 yuan in money, however, when she got married, the classmate ignored her marriage invitation under the pretext of pregnancy, and did not take the initiative to return the gift money. The angry party found out the screenshot of the original transfer and insisted on returning the 500 yuan gift money. In this regard, netizens commented one after another, and some supported the decision of the parties, believing that since the other party did not fulfill its promise to attend the wedding, they should take the initiative to return the gift; Some people believe that this kind of thing is not uncommon, but the key to keeping friends is to keep up with the times and adjust your mentality at all times.
When a wedding becomes a monetary transaction, the friendship between people becomes fragile. This incident makes people wonder whether giving money or not to people can really affect the relationship between people. The matter of courtesy is not unfamiliar to many people, and the contradictions and disputes in it are not unique. This article will look at some of the rules behind the gift and the influence of personal mindset from different perspectives.
The custom of Sui Li has been practiced in China for a long time as a social etiquette. Whether it's attending a wedding, birthday party, or other important occasion, giving a certain amount of money has become a social routine. In traditional Chinese culture, Sui Gift is a way of human exchange, a way to express blessing and respect to the organizer. In this case, it is important to maintain the rules of the courtesy.
First of all, don't cut your share of the key money. The relationship between people is mutual, and the amount of gift money given and the gift money given by the other party should be kept at the same level, or even a little more. If the amount of the gift is much lower than the gift money given by the other party, it will give the other party the impression of being stingy and taking advantage of others, which may lead to the other party's negative perception of you. Therefore, no matter who you give a gift to, you should keep the amount of the gift reasonable and consistent.
Second, don't be too showy and stand out from the crowd. When giving gifts, you should avoid the psychology of comparison, and the amount of your gifts should be decided according to your own financial ability. In particular, when giving gifts to important people such as leaders and bosses, you should be consistent with your colleagues and avoid being too public, which will only attract dissatisfaction and hostility from others.
In addition, when dealing with relatives who do not harbor good intentions, it is perfectly reasonable to refuse to give gifts. Between relatives, although most people have sincere feelings, in reality it is inevitable to meet some relatives whose relationship is not harmonious. In this case, for those relatives who have no good intentions and are scheming about you, you can refuse to give gifts, which is a kind of adherence to your sincere family affection. By refusing to give gifts, you are able to maintain an independent position, filter out relatives who are good to you, and reduce unnecessary trouble.
As a way to express emotions, with the development of society and the continuous improvement of people's living standards, the rules and mentality in it are also constantly evolving. As participants, we should revisit the issue of Sui Li and make decisions based on our actual situation and values.
The purpose of the gift is to show blessing and respect, not to simply trade money. When choosing the amount of gifts, we should consider our actual situation and financial ability, rather than blindly compare. For those who are not close to us or have a discordant relationship, whether or not to give a gift should be decided according to one's own judgment and beliefs.
In addition, we should also pay more attention to keeping up with the times and adjusting our mentality. Modern society is changing rapidly, and so are the connections between people. Friendship is not only maintained by casual gifts, but more importantly, it is more important to build a true friendship through daily communication and care with each other. In our interactions with friends and classmates, we should pay attention to inner sincerity and concern for each other, and get used to accepting changes in relationships.
In short, Sui Li is a traditional social etiquette, but in modern society, we cannot see it as a simple monetary transaction. When giving gifts, we should follow a reasonable rule and maintain respect and dignity for others. It's also crucial to keep up with the times and adjust your mindset. By examining the rules and meanings of the gifts, we can truly understand the value and build more genuine and lasting relationships. After all, cash gifts can be exchanged for a moment of gratitude, but true friendship and affection cannot be measured in money.
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