The countryside once again set off a trend of queuing for blind dates, and girls said no to three kinds of people, and what was the reason
Poorer. The rural marriage market is a huge problem for people from poor families. The reality of society has created people's yearning for a better life, so material conditions often become the main consideration for rural blind dates. In rural areas and areas inhabited by the Zhuang ethnic group, it is not difficult to see whether the family conditions are good or bad as long as the matchmaker is investigated slightly. Bride price, car, and house are almost indispensable conditions in the rural blind date market. Without these basic conditions, many people are not even eligible to join the matchmaking service, so it seems unrealistic to let people from poor families get married through matchmaking services. Therefore, in the countryside tens of millions"Single men and women"Most of them come from poor families, and many are destined to live celibate.
The dilemma that people from poor families often encounter in the process of blind date is financial pressure. Whether it's a bride price, a car, or a house, it takes a certain amount of financial effort. For people from poor families, this is undoubtedly a big financial burden. In rural society, the economic situation not only represents the amount of material wealth, but also relates to a person's status and reputation in the village. Therefore, in this case, it is almost impossible for a person from a poor family to successfully find a partner.
Arrogant. Marriage is a very important factor in the dating and marriage process. Similar personalities and shared interests are also key to a successful marriage. However, in today's blind date market, people who think highly of themselves are often too self-righteous and lack sufficient understanding of reality, and this attitude can easily attract the disgust of the other party. Today's rural men's role in blind dates is colder, and they need to face the reality seriously. However, many people don't believe what the matchmaker says, which is also the type of person who has the most headache for the matchmaker. These people may be reluctant to accept reality because of past emotional hurt or because of an extremely high opinion of their physical appearance. Eventually, they become a member of the population waiting to be married. They range in age from their 20s to their thirties and forties, and they can't find a suitable partner.
People who think highly of themselves are often seen as unsmiling, uninteresting, and unattractive. In rural society, women naturally recognize men's honesty, but it is difficult for people who are too honest and shy to win over women. In today's society, women are looking for strong men, and the more active a man is, the more opportunities there are. That's why in social circles,"Scumbag"More marketable than other men. In other words, women have the trait of pursuing the strong, and naturally avoid those who are honest. As a result, people who have a high self-esteem and lack practical action often find it difficult to do well in the dating market.
People who are too honest.
As the saying goes, a good woman is afraid of pestering. The meaning of this phrase is that in modern society,"I like to chase strong"women are more marketable. In the past, the image of honesty and sincerity was a symbol of security, but in today's society, honesty is often considered synonymous with uninteresting, lack of emotion, timidity, and cowardice. In today's world where women pursue strong men, it is difficult for those who are too honest to win the favor of women. These people often lack self-confidence and determination to appear attractive and charismatic. As a result, it is difficult for such people to succeed in dating.
The dilemma that people who are too honest often encounter in the dating process is passivity and lack of initiative. They are not good at expressing their thoughts and feelings, and often passively accept the disposition and choices of others. In the dating process, this passive attitude is not conducive to the development of good feelings for both parties. Women want men to have some initiative and energy, while men who are too honest lack these qualities. As a result, it is difficult for them to attract the attention and favor of women on blind dates.
Conclusion. Returning to the countryside and going on a blind date in the countryside has become the norm. However, we have to admit the difficulty of rural blind dates. Especially in the reality of male dominance and patriarchal preference, it is difficult for rural men to find suitable partners. This article introduces the three types of people who have the hardest time finding a partner in rural areas and analyzes the reasons for them. However, we should not only focus on these three types of people, the difficulty in finding a partner and the difficulty in getting married is a social problem. This problem affects the willingness of young women to marry, as well as the number of older unmarried young men in rural areas. This problem has further led to a depopulation and a decline in fertility. Therefore, it is necessary to pay attention to this problem and find a solution.
Personally, I don't think the plight of rural blind dates is limited to these three types of people. Factors such as traditional concepts, cultural differences, and rural social structure are also important reasons for the difficulty in finding a partner. Therefore, to solve this problem, we must take into account various factors and carry out fundamental reforms. At the same time, we must also pay attention to the impact of changes in the concept of marriage and social progress, so as to find a way to solve the problem of marriage in rural areas that is more in line with the needs of the times.