Due to the mismatch in the marital conditions of men and women, many men and women of the right age and older age are unable to find a partner.
Ten years ago, when we were looking for a partner, most people didn't have high demands, as long as they liked us. At that time, we thought that as long as the two of us got along, the other party would be fine. At that time, it was easy to find a partner, because the material requirements depended on our efforts.
I have a classmate from elementary school who has very high requirements for boys because she thinks she is beautiful and good in all aspects. You have to have a house, a car, and a job. As a result, she is in her 30s and still unmarried, but I think she is too picky. You don't have to look for someone who has a house and a car. One of her male classmates liked her and chased her for a long time, but he couldn't catch up with her, thinking that she didn't have a house or a car. Look down on him. But she's too demanding, and I think the two of them are a good match.
I have a 33 year old girl. She said that she was not demanding, and wanted a boy who was less than five years older than herself, unmarried, and had a family. He has an income every year. Annual income of more than 300,000 yuan, height of 1 meter, bachelor degree, over 75 years old, medium to high appearance.
But all the requirements look normal. It's not expensive, of course, but if you look closely, you'll see the problem.
A lot of men only consider beautiful girls under the age of 30.
Therefore, it is advisable not to have too many standards. Anyone who fits two or three of your criteria for choosing a mate is a good partner. Don't miss out on someone who ticks all the boxes. What they want to find is the best. They don't like you.
The main reason why quality women remain single is that they don't understand what men need.
There is a lady in her 30s, with a master's degree, an annual income of 15 watts, a house, and looks relatively normal. The man she wants is a master's degree or above, an annual salary of 30w, and a house. It stands to reason that it is not too much to ask for someone who is equal to you in every way.
However, the requirements for men are different from those for women. In the eyes of men, houses, cars, and salaries are not so important. The first thing men look for when looking for a partner is their looks, and many women are rejected by men because of their looks, of course, there will be no more problems.
Men are not only concerned about a woman's appearance, but also about her age. There's a saying, "Men love 18-year-old girls, no matter how old they are." ”
In other words, things like houses, cars, salaries, etc., are either not important to women or not important to men. But unfortunately, a lot of women don't realize it.
The order in which men look for women is roughly as follows: age and appearance first, then educational qualifications, and the rest are less important.
And for men, every man wants to marry a beautiful woman, but the resources of beautiful women are very scarce, and most women are mediocre in appearance, so men can only settle for the second, you can't. If you focus too much on a woman's appearance, you may procrastinate.
Let's take a look at the requirements for women to choose a mate.
Men like beautiful women, and women like rich men. There is no woman who does not love money. If I had to choose between handsome and rich, I would definitely choose rich. The reason why women look down on men is fundamentally because men are poor.
A woman's requirements for marriage are only a house, a car, and a salary, followed by education, height, and appearance. Matter always comes first. Basically, a man cannot marry a woman of his choice unless he has some basic assets. Women are realistic and need security and material support in life.
All women want to get married, find someone who is better than themselves in every way, and all women want to improve their quality of life through men. For women, men are often used as a façade or to satisfy their vanity.
Women are very critical of men. I will give you a lot of conditions. One condition alone isn't high, but unless one or two are met, she's likely to give up. For example, you don't like the other person's family, height, etc. Some women are very picky and have very limited options.
Moreover, judging from the current living conditions of the people, the overall condition of men is not as good as that of women. If a woman is looking for a man with better conditions than her, then many men are destined to be like this. Discouraged.
Many people associate love with home, thinking that only when there is a house and a car can there be love.
I'm not happy with the idea. Love and money have nothing to do with each other. That's the standard. We don't live up to that standard, but we can't fish in troubled waters under this standard. ”
I believe there are many people who will stand up and say that a poor and humble couple needs to grieve for a hundred days before the material foundation and spiritual edifice can be built. All this is true and very reasonable, but the question is: do you believe that love has nothing to do with these things?
If you believe it, you can add these as accessories, no problem.
The premise is love, so I believe that love is the standard.
Often material things go hand in hand with love, and you can protect yourself by saying that you have to have them to protect yourself. I don't think that's the criterion for finding a partner.