In this bustling county, I, Li Yue, am regarded as an "older leftover girl".
is 29 years old, has a stable job in the eyes of people, but at this age, he is not married to a wife, and it is inevitable that people will point fingers behind his back. My blind date, oh no, it was a four-year love game – 200 encounters and goodbyes.
At first, my heart was full of romantic longing, and every blind date was like attending a grand dance party, looking forward to dancing gracefully with the destined one. I firmly believe that he must be waiting for me in the sea of people. However, time flies like a white horse, and the male companions around me have changed again and again, but there has never been the person who can compose a love song with me.
I'm starting to wonder, is it because I'm too picky? Should the bar be lowered?
But every time I try to convince myself to accept an unsuitable man, there is always a voice deep inside me that cries: "No compromise!" You want true love, not reluctant happiness! The voice sustained me in my search, even as the fear in my heart grew.
Until one day, my dear friend Xiao Min whispered in my ear: "You know, there is a psychological test that puts a bunch of the same products on the supermarket shelf, and the consumer picks and chooses, and the final result is that they don't buy it." If you only put two kinds of products, one is more expensive and one is cheaper, but the consumption of two different products is very high. The rich pick the expensive ones, and the poor ones pick the cheap ones, which fully shows that the more you have to choose, the more difficult it is to choose, and the more you don't have to choose, the easier the choice will be the more you can facilitate the transaction. The more blind dates you see, the more you can't make it. These words shook my inner world like a bolt from the blue.
Yes, I admit that I was the one who hesitated in the supermarket and had so many options in front of me that I was overwhelmed. Is my pickiness, my pride, also an escape? Are you afraid to face the brutal truth of dying alone?
Just when I was falling into self-doubt, another friend, Cuong, unceremoniously pointed out my blind spot: "You yourself think that you are the dragon and phoenix among people, with a golden body and a noble body, and everyone else is an inferior person who needs to be compromised." This kind of person has to leave even if he gets married. ”
This sentence is like a mirror, reflecting the pride and prejudice in my heart.
I began to reflect, am I really setting myself too high? Am I lacking basic respect for others? My sense of superiority may be just a disguise to disguise my inner turmoil.
In the end, even my three aunts and six mothers-in-law who like to nag said to me: "A county with a population of hundreds of thousands, in fact, there are not too many men and women of the right age to go on a blind date, if you go on a blind date more than 50 times, you will be a celebrity in this circle, and the person on this blind date is likely to be a colleague and relative of the previous blind date." ”
This quote made me realize that I had become a joke in this small circle.
I started to feel tired and tired of this seemingly endless blind date game. My heart gradually became numb, and I no longer expected much from every blind date. All I want is a stable life and a partner I can rely on, even if he is not the perfect prince in my heart.
So, when I met the man who had a stable job in the system, I didn't hesitate as much as I used to. He wasn't the perfect fit, but he gave me a sense of security that I never felt before.
His steadiness and steadfastness made me feel a plain but real happiness.
We started dating, without the passion of our youth, but with more mature tacit understanding.
I no longer expect him to bring me a vigorous love, I just hope that we can go through the rest of our lives together peacefully.
Now, when I look back on those years of perseverance and perseverance, I can't help but smile bitterly. I used to be the woman who held high the banner of "no compromise", but now I have chosen to "make do".
The sadness and helplessness in this are perhaps only something I can experience.
However, I don't regret it. Because on the way to growth, I learned to face reality, learn to let go of myself, and learn to cherish the people in front of me. I hope my story can give you some inspiration when you are still confused: sometimes, we need to let go of unrealistic illusions and embrace the ordinary but real happiness.
Because, life is not a fairy tale, but a real day.
If you're also stumbling on your blind date, you might as well stop and ask yourself – what do you really need?
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