Unlock the true meaning of heartbeat: humor and grace don't have to fall in love.
A friend once asked in a private message, "How do you shape your sense of humor to appeal to the opposite sex?" Ask the title: Authenticity Speaks of Humor: Myths and Truths About Love.
* The core of emotion: why humor is not a necessity for love.
In the labyrinth of love, many people favor humor as the key to the mystery of reaching the depths of the heart of the person of their choice. Yesterday, a backstage message made me determined to see the light of day: do you really need to transform into a star-like gift to attract the opposite sex? This question exposes a common misconception of misplacing humor at the heart of emotion.
He Guangzhi and Xu Zhisheng, their jokes are like comedy movies, but in terms of attractiveness alone, even if they are popular all over the screen, they may not be able to win the priority in the hearts of women. Why? Because the attraction is not in their jokes, but in the added value that comes with fame. In fact, it is the success and uniqueness that they have shown, not just the humor.
In my own case, if I am forced to become a master of ridicule and squeeze out jokes that are not suitable for me, then I am just deceiving myself. However, the quiet beauty and honest jokes in me didn't diminish my charm. On the contrary, I realized that one does not have to open one's mouth to laugh and attract the affection of others through performance. Humor is not reflected by reciting jokes and mastering memes, it is also an attitude towards life and a reflection of wisdom.
True humor comes from a strong heart, and it flashes when you can face things with optimism after a setback. When you can still laugh at yourself and start again with hope in the low point of your career, true humor will come naturally. It is a visceral state of nature, not a deliberate ornament.
Regardless of gender, the logic of affection for future partners is actually the same. Whether a woman has a sense of humor or not is not the determining factor in whether you like her; Vice versa. The reader is not really trying to understand how to be funny, but how to create a harmonious atmosphere and how to deepen the relationship between the two people naturally.
Women are ambivalent about holding hands: they may want to hold hands, but most will exercise some restraint. If the atmosphere has not arrived, forcibly holding hands will only backfire. The words and timing of holding hands are not about the humor, but about the naturalness of how you handle the process.
The decisive battle of attraction takes place in just a few minutes from the first meeting. If she is interested in you, she will be happy without jokes; On the other hand, even if you tell all the jokes, it will be difficult to touch her heart. So there's no need to be more fun. A woman's criteria for choosing a mate are always another matter for the person she likes.