Dear friends, as a person who has experienced emotional ups and downs, I would like to share with you some thoughts on feelings.
First of all, I would like to say that nothing is too absolute. Why? Because in the world of feelings, there is no absolute black and white, there is no absolute right or wrong. Once you fall into an absolute mindset, you may miss out on many wonderful opportunities, and may even bring an irretrievable relationship to an end.
Some of you may be going through the pain of a breakup or are considering whether you should end the relationship. I understand the pain, and I understand your confusion and confusion. However, what I want to tell you is that whatever your decision is, don't take it lightly as final.
If you think that the main problem lies with the other person, then doesn't he just want to communicate with you and solve the problem now? His attitude may not be resolute enough, not sincere enough, but at least he is trying. You can ignore him, you can block him, but at least give him a chance to prove his change. It's not about investigating, it's about giving him a chance, but also giving himself a chance.
You may feel relaxed now, as if you are relieved. And he may spend every day in pain, reminiscing about the good old days, unable to concentrate on his work. However, time changes everything. You'll find that your roles may be reversed over time. You'll start to miss him and start to regret your decision.
I know it's much easier to find a new love than to get an old one. But he chose the latter, because he was braver, more sincere, and more cherished. His hand is outstretched, waiting for you to put it down. If you don't, he may be so tired that he retracts.
By the time he gets through this stage, he may feel that life is fine on his own. And you, you may start to miss him, start to feel guilty, start to regret it. You will find that all the people you meet later do not understand you as much as he does, tolerate you, and even love you more than himself.
So, what I want to say is, don't be too absolute. Don't say goodbye lightly, because there may not be a chance to see each other again. If you're thinking right now about whether you should end the relationship, I hope you'll stop and think about it. Don't give up easily, and don't say no easily. Give yourself a chance, and give the other person a chance. Because, true love is worth cherishing and striving for.