"If three people don't go to the grave, the descendants will prosper", this saying is widely spread among the people in China, and it involves an ancient cultural tradition: going to the grave. Going to the grave is a kind of remembrance and worship of deceased relatives, which is a very important part of our traditional culture. However, what does the proverbial "three types of people do not go to the grave" mean? What are the particularities behind it?
Categories 1 and 3 are not allowed to go to the grave.
1.Pregnant woman.
Pregnant women are not allowed to go to the grave for the sake of the health of the pregnant woman and the fetus. In folk tradition, it is believed that pregnant women who are pregnant with Rokko are weaker and more susceptible to the impact of Yin Qi, which may cause adverse effects on the pregnant woman and the fetus. Therefore, pregnant women should avoid going to graves during pregnancy.
2.Patient.
Nor can the sick go to the grave. This statement originates from the ancient medical concept that patients are weak and affected by undesirable external factors. The environment around the grave may have harmful substances such as bacteria and viruses, which are not good for the patient. Therefore, it is best for the patient to go to the grave when he is in good health.
3.Son.
Why can't a filial son go to the grave? This is actually a misconception. In traditional culture, filial sons should go to the grave to worship their deceased relatives, because filial sons are descendants of the family and have the responsibility to remember their ancestors and continue the family's incense. However, some people mistakenly believe that filial piety is not suitable to go to the grave during the filial piety period, because the filial piety is to wear filial piety clothes, a filial piety hat, and a white filial piety cloth on the body, this kind of clothing is considered to carry an "ominous atmosphere" and may cause adverse effects on the deceased. But there is no scientific basis for this claim, it is just a superstitious idea.
Second, the attention to the grave.
1.Choose the right time.
The time to go to the grave is generally chosen on traditional festivals such as Qingming Festival, Zhongyuan Festival, and Winter Solstice, or on special days such as the birth and death anniversary of the deceased. On these days, it is believed that the soul of the deceased will return home, so it is necessary to go to the grave to pay respects as a memorial.
2.Bring the offerings.
When you go to the grave, you should bring the sacrifices. Common offerings include incense, candles, paper money, flowers, fruits, food, etc. These offerings represent respect and remembrance for the deceased, and a kind of remembrance of their lives during their lifetimes.
3.Respect the deceased.
In the process of going to the grave, we should respect the deceased and behave in a dignified manner. Don't frolic around the grave, and don't litter and damage the environment. We should pay our respects with our hearts, so that the deceased can feel our remembrance and respect for them.
4.Keep the grave tidy.
We need to go to the grave regularly to clean up and keep it tidy. This is not only a respect for the deceased, but also a tribute to the ancestors. At the same time, keeping the tomb tidy is also conducive to maintaining the family's reputation and image.
Although the saying that "if three people do not go to the grave, the descendants will be prosperous", it has no scientific basis. We should look at this issue rationally and not be bound by superstitious ideas. Going to the grave is a cultural tradition, which is the remembrance and respect of the deceased, and we must treat this process with our hearts so that this traditional culture can be passed on.
However, with the development and change of society, the custom of going to the grave is also constantly evolving. In the future, we may see a different way of going to the grave, but in any case, we should keep in mind that the original intention of going to the grave is to remember and respect the deceased. Let us work together to protect this cultural heritage and inherit the excellent traditions of the Chinese nation.