On the stage of life, the pattern determines the height, and the calculation often becomes a stumbling block.
A philosophical coupling says: "The world is full of knowledge, and the practice of human feelings is the article." This reveals that the core of life's journey is nothing more than tossing and turning between being a person and doing things, and shuttling between insight into people's hearts and understanding human nature.
A person's life, whether it is managing interpersonal relationships or fulfilling duties and missions, is inseparable from a deep understanding and accurate grasp of people.
Treating the person you love does not need to be too close to each other at all, but keeping an appropriate distance can create a harmonious and lasting relationship. In the face of unhappy people, there is no need to suddenly turn around due to emotional fluctuations, maintain a calm and respectful attitude.
Knowing how to let go of prejudices and prejudices in our hearts at the right time is like clearing the clouds, allowing us to glimpse a larger, more beautiful and more real world. This kind of open-mindedness and tolerance is the true embodiment of the pattern of life, and it is also the wisdom of our walking in the world to win respect and success.
People are different, so why bother to go the same way
"Zuo Biography" contains: "The difference between people's hearts is as different as their faces. ”
This statement is deeply rooted in the different truths of people's hearts, just like the world is full of different situations, thousands of people, each with its own characteristics, and cannot be copied.
In the historical scroll "Romance of the Three Kingdoms", Liu Bei's camp once faced strong pressure from Cao Cao, but Xu Shu's joining was like the dawn of dawn, helping Liu Bei to overcome Cao Ren, winning consecutive battles, and successfully seizing the strategic place of Fancheng, which was in the limelight for a while.
Cao Cao heard the name of Xu Shu and understood his superior resourcefulness, so he had the intention of accommodating. In order to achieve his goal, he used a cunning trick to trick Xu Shu's mother to Xuchang, and forged a letter from his mother to summon Xu Shu to join him.
Xu Shu is a human being, with pure filial piety, and in the face of the choice of loyalty and filial piety, it is difficult to achieve both, so he had to endure the pain and say goodbye to Liu Bei with tears and embark on the road to Xuchang.
However, when the truth was revealed, Xu's mother saw through the treacherous plan and did not want to become a fetter on her son's loyalty, so she resolutely chose to commit suicide and die to make her will.
The ancients had a saying: "If the Tao is not compatible, do not conspire with each other." ”
It means that it is difficult for people with different aspirations to achieve great things together. You and I have our own sufferings and difficulties, and if our minds are very different, there is no need to force us to go together; You and I have our own reasons and thoughts, and if we can't understand each other, we don't have to be reluctant to blend.
Life is like the sea, gathering and scattering sometimes, all encounters are determined by God's will, as the so-called "where to meet in life, acquaintance is important in knowing each other".
In the journey of life, we do not lack friends, what is really scarce is that deep understanding and tacit understanding. Therefore, life is short and energy is limited, and only by walking side by side with like-minded people can we live up to our time and create a wonderful future.
Stay away when you encounter bad things, and don't get entangled with villains
I have tasted such a fable-like little story:
In the warm family courtyard, the child saw a young sapling gradually withering, and could not help but ask his father with tears in his eyes: "Dad, how can we bring this little tree back to life?" ”
The father lovingly stroked the top of the child's head and replied with a smile: "Sometimes, it may be the best salvation to let it go with the changes of nature." ”
However, the child's heart was full of pity and reluctance, and he insisted on watering and fanning the little tree day after day, but in the end, the little tree was still unable to return to the sky and quietly fell. Faced with this scene, the child's heart was filled with a deep sense of loss.
At this time, the father saw it in his eyes, and took the child to pull out the dead tree with his own hands, and sowed the seeds of flowers and plants in the same place. Soon after, the courtyard was full of life again, and the children burst into tears and laughter.
Although children may not have grasped the profound philosophy contained in this, we can deeply understand that in the journey of life, those people and things that are as hopeless as dead wood, no matter how hard we try to retain or change, often cannot reverse their doomed fate.
In a person's life, there is nothing more to sigh than not to give up when it is time to insist, but to be too persistent when it is time to let go.
Walking on the road of life, once you find that you are going in the wrong direction, you must adjust the course in time; People who encounter distress and trivial things must also know how to withdraw in time.
As Guiguzi said: insight into the hypocrisy of the world does not have to be shaped; If you suffer from someone else's debt, you don't have to say it. On the stage of life, a gentleman is rare, a villain is unavoidable, and only by learning not to entangle, can we truly release our compassion on ourselves.
In this way, valuable time and energy are saved, and emotions and mentalities are relieved. The days of anger are undoubtedly the torment of the soul.
Only when the heart is calm, the appearance is calm, and the insight and acceptance of life can we devote ourselves wholeheartedly and focus on managing our own life chapter.
To be a man, win in the pattern, lose in the calculation
Between two adjoining families, there is an elderly mother-in-law who is bedridden due to illness, but when she peeks through the window, she always subjectively assumes that everything in the neighbor's house is dirty, the clothes are unclean, and the characters are the same.
Finally, one day, she couldn't stand the visual distress anymore and asked her children to ask their neighbors if they had any clothes that needed to be washed.
Soon after, the child returned empty-handed and told her mother-in-law an unexpected fact: the neighbor's house was as clean as new, whether it was people, clothes, or even every corner of the house, it was spotless.
It wasn't until her condition improved that it dawned on the old woman that the problem was with her window, a dusty glass window that distorted her vision and made everything she saw look dirty.
When the window was wiped clean, the world in her eyes was completely new, and even the neighbors who once made her feel unclean became fresh and lovely.
"If you are not properly dressed, how can you be a decent person. This sentence takes on a deeper meaning in this context. In fact, each of us is in contact with the outside world as if we are separated by such a glass window.
When we feel disgusted or dissatisfied with someone, it is often not their own fault, but rather that our own soul window has lost its purity.
Everything in the world, each person is like a unique leaf, with its own edges and shapes.
When we rely on our personal likes and dislikes and subjective judgments to distinguish between what we like and what we dislike, it is easy to let ourselves fall into a narrow vision.
As the "halo effect" in psychology explains, in the process of interpersonal communication, we often magnify our first impression of others infinitely and cover all their qualities, so that we ignore all the other good aspects of them.
Those who are too concerned about trivial things often find it difficult to get through the long road of life leisurely.
When we bravely push open the heavy door of prejudice and gently let go of the preconceived notions in our hearts, our hearts become clearer and clearer like a mirror.
At this moment, the outside world will always shine with light and beauty in our eyes, full of infinite possibilities and hopes whenever and wherever it is.
Once a young man, filled with confusion, consulted a respected elder in the village.
The elder asked the young man, "Which do you think is more important, silver or water?" ”
Without hesitation, the young man replied, "Of course it's silver!" ”
The elder smiled and asked, "But what if your identity is just a seed?" ”
It dawned on the young man at this point.
Everyone's position and situation are different, so their pursuits will also be different.
Caigen Tan wrote: "Putting aside the distractions of the world, there is naturally no battle between flames and ice and snow in my heart; Eliminate the narrowness in your heart, and you will have the tranquility of the moonlight and the breeze in front of you. ”
The world is complicated and noisy, and in the face of all this, only with a broad mind will the road be broader.
When the mind is as broad as the ocean, the voyage of life will always be calm.
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