Since I was in high school, my expectation for myself is to be a promising person in the future, a person who is different from the ordinary people around me.
It has been more than ten years since I graduated from college, and looking back, I am still an ordinary person, and my income may be slightly higher, but there is no essential difference.
If a person can realize early that just by relying on his own efforts, he can only be an ordinary person who can solve the problem of food and clothing, and it may be easier to achieve happiness.
In this way, you will not put pressure on yourself from time to time, think about some expectations that are not easy, and it will be easier to cherish the current life.
Living in a social environment, a person's efforts are important, but whether they can have extraordinary achievements in the end depends on fate.
And most people's fate is limited by the environment and people around them, which is why there is a saying that the average of the 5 most frequently connected people around you is your own level.
Ordinary people, if they don't have the cogs of the times and fate, if they don't keep challenging breakthroughs, no matter how hard they work, they may be slightly better.
So, everyone understands that financial freedom cannot be achieved by working part-time and going to work.
Of course, it is not impossible to be free, but it is only until the retirement age of 65, and personal efforts can only reduce this time by a few years.
It is the majority of ordinary people who make up this world, and extraordinary people are outliers.
If you understand this, you will be able to let go of some things, you will no longer be clinging, and more importantly, you will let go of yourself.
Accept it calmly, be an ordinary person leisurely, cherish every moment in life, do not involute, do not consume yourself, only time and health are the real wealth in life.
If you always spur yourself to be an extraordinary person, you have been spurring for more than ten or twenty years, but you still can't see the whole society, it is a kind of stubbornness and stupidity.
In this world, what is lacking is not people who pursue fame and fortune, but people who are not obsessed with getting ahead.
Accept the reality that most people can only be an ordinary person if they work hard all their lives, live a life, work hard, and maybe the results will be better.
People who accept the ordinary, on the contrary, are more likely to gain the extraordinary.
Things will not succeed just because a person especially wants to do it, and it is more important to do things that conform to the laws of its success.
Laws do not depend on human will.
Therefore, it will not be because you have been worried about it for more than ten years and want to be an extraordinary person, you will not be able to surpass the ordinary. On the contrary, accepting the reality and doing things as they are may have unexpected results.
The above gossip is inspired by reading Xu Zechen's collection of essays.
In the author's prose, he says that if he has any secret wishes, it is that his son will enjoy reading.
The purpose of reading is not to become a learned person, nor to make him a writer, but to make him understand that there are countless kinds of life and life in the world, and to gain enough ability and ordinary heart from books to be an ordinary person.
Even if you have great ambitions in the future, you must look at this ambition with a normal heart, do not rush for quick success, do not complain about the sky, do not want to be ambitious, and do not have great ambitions and talents, and move forward conscientiously and steadfastly for your ideals. It is gratifying to achieve it, but if it fails, it must be treated calmly.
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