I have a deposit of 5 million, and after I quit my nanny, I gave my son 1,000 yuan a day, and he volunteered to be filial
I used to live in the Yangtze River Delta, where the textile trade flourished when I was young, and my wife and I seized the opportunity. We started out as a garment factory, set up three production lines, took orders and produced them ourselves.
During that time, we worked very hard to make money. Early in the morning, my wife ran to the factory before dawn and operated the sewing machine herself. I was in charge of production and business, including printing, embroidery, finding accessories and other trivial tasks myself, and I was busy until dark.
At that time, my son was still in elementary school, and he learned to cook and do laundry independently at a young age. We are very pleased with his understanding. My son was admitted to university and soon found a job. When they got married, we bought them a property and a car. Over the years, our son and daughter-in-law have always had a good relationship with us, but because of their busy work, the number of family gatherings has gradually decreased.
Thirteen years ago, my wife and I felt that our energy was limited, so we sold the factory to someone else. The funds obtained were not reserved, and my wife was good at managing money and quickly bought a shop. The shop was strategically located, the rent was rising, and the market value later reached about 5 million.
With no longer working in physical positions, my wife and I retired completely. Although the pension is not much, about more than 6,000 per month, we have a shop on hand, plus more than 1 million yuan we saved before, I said to my wife, this is enough for us to retire, and we only need to maintain good health in the future.
In previous years, we lived with a relaxed mind. I used to work hard to make money, but now I can finally enjoy life. I took my wife on a trip to enjoy the beauty of my motherland. It was the most relaxing and happiest time for us.
However, later my wife fell ill and was diagnosed with advanced disease. Since surgery is not suitable, only conservative** can be chosen. My wife spends every day in pain, and I feel so distressed that I can only ask the doctor to relieve her pain. My son and daughter-in-law are also worried, but it is difficult to take long leave due to work, so I have to take care of them most of the time.
My wife is gradually reaching the last stage of her life, and every aspect of her life is done in bed. I couldn't cope on my own, so I had to find a nurse to help. We agreed to pay her $250 a day, and I thought that with the caregiver, my task would be easier. However, the nurses talk about it well, but when they actually put it into practice, they don't do their job.
I came to see that the caregivers relied on me as long as I was there. She also picked up another elderly person in the next ward, taking care of two people at the same time, causing her to be very tired. With me, as long as I'm there, she's lazy and always looking for a chance to take a nap. I couldn't stand it, and once I rebuked her, but she complained that I had a bad temper and was difficult to serve, as if I had been harsh on her.
Since I didn't want my wife to be unhappy, I was almost always taking care of it by myself. To be honest, I was also worried that the nurse would be too rough and cause my wife more pain.
My wife later made a request, and she wanted me to sell the shop's house. I disagree, believing that the shop has a fixed monthly rental income and may appreciate in value in the future. But my wife resolutely refused and insisted that I sell it.
In the end, the shop was sold for 5.1 million yuan, and my wife asked me to deposit the money in the bank.
In the last moments of my life, my wife was unusually clear-headed, recalled many past events, and made arrangements for my future. She said to me:
Lao Wu, I'm not worried about anything else, I'm worried about you. I'm not here anymore, and I hope you can live well. You remember my words, listen to my arrangement, and be sure to do what I want. I nodded silently and agreed to her.
My wife is gone, I have lost a pillar in my life, and I feel empty. My son saw that I was sad and offered to stay with me for a few more days, and I agreed.
During those few days, I communicated with my son in detail about my wife's wishes.
I asked my son, "My daughter-in-law will be retiring next year!" What's the plan? ”
The son replied: "Yes, she is thinking about finding another unit to work, after all, the child will get married in the future, and the needs of buying a house and other needs will require a lot of funds." ”
I then asked, "If my daughter-in-law finds another unit, how much income does she have in a month?" ”
The son explained: "That's more than 3,000 yuan, plus a pension of more than 6,000 yuan." ”
I thought for a moment, and then proposed to my son: "Otherwise, my house here is temporarily empty, you move in with me, you and your daughter-in-law take care of me together, I will pay you a salary, living expenses are all covered, and another 1,000 yuan a day, how about it?" ”
My son thought I was joking and looked at me with wide eyes, and I told him that I meant it.
Subsequently, my proposal was echoed by my son. He went back to discuss with his daughter-in-law, and they finally agreed to my proposal. After the discussion, my daughter-in-law decided to take care of me with my son instead of going out to work after retirement. I promised them 1,000 yuan a day, and I would pay for the family's expenses.
In fact, this is also the will of my wife. She said that she has lived most of her life, experienced a lot of hardship, and earned some money. Although we can afford to hire a nanny, the nanny is an outsider after all, and it is better to have her own children take care of it. The money in our hands will eventually be given to our children, so it is better to provide some now so that the children can be grateful. My wife also reminded me that I should make my son and daughter-in-law feel at ease financially and not let them suffer. I proposed 1,000 yuan a day, which is 30,000 yuan a month and 360,000 yuan a year. This is not only compensation for their hard work, but also my compensation for them.
Of course, I also take into account the worst-case scenario. If my son and daughter-in-law are filial and treat me well, then sooner or later my savings will go to them. If they are not filial, I still have a sum of money in my hand to make follow-up plans.
Later days proved that my choice was wise. My daughter-in-law understood my intentions, and she was willing to cook and do laundry for me, and she could also get a good pay. My son always comes home to stay with me after work. When I'm bored, I go downstairs to play chess with old friends, and on weekends they take me for a walk in the park. Instead of spending money on a nanny, it is better to make it more comfortable to take care of your children. It's really a blessing to my wife, and I have lived so easily and comfortably in my old age.
In fact, the elderly do not need to be overly wary of their children. Who doesn't love money? When the elderly have money in their hands, it is more effective to give some at the right time so that their children can willingly fulfill their filial piety than to force them. This kind of voluntary filial piety not only gained fame, but also brought the family closer to each other.