"If you dare to say it, don't blame me for doing it" 2 months later, the Phoenix man's family of 4 became two
Qianqian, mom beg, don't get a divorce, okay? Mom was wrong, don't talk about you anymore. Xiao Lei is in a very abnormal mood now, he smokes when he comes home, and he loses his temper at me, saying that I toss his home away, it seems to be a different person, if you leave, how will you live this life? ”
Dong Qian listened to her mother-in-law's pleading, but was unmoved: "I know it's a fire pit, and now I finally want to get rid of it, but I can't give up easily." Isn't that stupid? Do you wait for the fire to burn bigger and end up trapped inside? ”
In Dong Qian's view, the decision to marry her husband Hua Lei despite her parents' opposition was a huge mistake in her life. At that time, she herself was like a cow that was pushed into a fire pit, and now she realizes that if she doesn't stop the loss in time, she may fall into an irreparable situation. She felt that even if she forgave her, her parents would no longer support her divorce.
Five years ago, her parents, relatives and friends strongly opposed her marrying Hua Lei, and they not only persuaded her hard, but also analyzed the pros and cons, and clearly told Dong Qian why the phoenix man could not be the ideal husband.
Although Hua Lei graduated from a prestigious school and is currently working in a large company, his annual salary is twice as high as Dong Qian's, but Hua Lei's family background is worrying. Hua Lei's parents were originally farmers, and in order to provide for their son's education, they had to go out to work. However, when Hua Lei was a freshman, his father unfortunately passed away unexpectedly, leaving behind a grieving wife. After the mother lost her husband due to long-term fatigue and illness, her physical and mental condition became worse and worse, and she was completely dependent on her son for support and medical expenses.
If Dong Qian marries Hua Lei, she will inevitably face two problems. First of all, she will have to take on the responsibility of raising the children on her own, and she will not be able to count on the help of her mother-in-law, which will have a non-negligible impact on her career, and it is very likely that she will be forced to become a stay-at-home wife and lose her financial independence. For a woman, once she loses her independent economy, her marital status is bound to decline, which is not good for her.
Secondly, since Hua Lei will never agree to separate from his mother, living with his mother-in-law will inevitably lead to sharp contradictions in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Dong Qian's parents have tried to communicate with Hua Lei many times, and they clearly feel that Hua Lei has deep feelings for his mother. Once there is a conflict, Hua Lei may not mediate calmly, but will blindly support his mother and accuse Dong Qian of being ignorant.
In addition, because Dong Qian's parents opposed this marriage, Hua Lei became anxious and uneasy, and he was angry with Dong Qian several times. Dong Qian's best friend resolutely opposed this marriage because she learned that Hua Lei was emotionally unstable.
However, five years ago, Dong Qian was an impulsive girl who was obsessed with love, and she was carried away by love. Even though her parents and people around her have clearly pointed out various reasons for marrying Hua Lei, she still stubbornly jumped into this fire pit.
Eventually, the parents relaxed and agreed to the family business. Hua Lei paid Dong Qian a bride price of 80,000 yuan, but his parents did not take any of it, and handed it all over to Dong Qian. They clearly told Dong Qian that this was the path she had chosen, that she had to bear the consequences alone, and that they would not cause any more chaos in her future life. Her parents' disappointment in her made her even more unable to understand their distress at the beginning, and she felt that her parents were too selfish to take into account her feelings. She thinks deep down that one day she will prove that she is not looking at the wrong person, but her parents are wrong. It's a pity that it backfired, and the worries of parents and girlfriends became a reality, accurately foreseeing the predicament that Dong Qian would face after marriage.
First of all, when Hua Lei and Dong Qian got married, they pooled a sum of money for a down payment to buy a three-bedroom apartment. However, Hua Lei not only took his mother directly to live at home, but also insisted that his mother occupy the master bedroom, claiming that it was sunny and close to his mother's illness. Although Dong Qian was dissatisfied, in order to avoid quarreling with Hua Lei, she could only compromise and live in the second bedroom with her husband.
Secondly, Dong Qian and her mother-in-law really can't get along. First of all, because Dong Qian has a habit of cleanliness, her views on hygiene and frugality are quite different from those of her mother-in-law, which leads to extremely unpleasant getting along. Secondly, the mother-in-law is more traditional, holding some old beliefs, such as the belief that women should be at home and should not work outside the home, and that women should be responsible for household chores and men should not set foot in the kitchen. At the same time, the mother-in-law kept urging them to have a second child.
Finally, as the parents feared, the mother-in-law was in poor health. In addition to not being able to take care of the children, the mother-in-law herself has a lot of things that she can't handle. Dong Qian not only needs to take care of her daughter, but also takes care of her mother-in-law. Whenever her mother-in-law was sick and hospitalized, Dong Qian had to travel between home and hospital, dealing with housework, taking care of her daughter, and taking care of her mother-in-law. And once one party does not do well enough, Hua Lei will accuse Dong Qian of incompetence.
Over the years, I have been alone in this home. When I quarrel with him, his mother scolds me and says I'm not sensible and not a good wife. When I quarreled with my mother-in-law, he would side with her and accuse me of being unfilial and ignorant. Phew, his filial piety is in**? His mother was hospitalized for a week, what else did he do besides hitting ** twice? Putting the blame on me, this is what he calls filial piety? ”
The quarrels again and again made Dong Qian feel cold, and the final blow that finally destroyed their marriage turned out to be the words from her best friend who became a reality.
Two months ago, Dong Qian had another argument with her mother-in-law, and the reason was still about fertility. Hearing that her mother-in-law actually used words like "losing money" to belittle her granddaughter, Dong Qian couldn't bear it anymore and yelled at her mother-in-law and told her to get out.
Unexpectedly, Hua Lei reacted strongly after hearing these words, and actually picked up the teacup and smashed it at Dong Qian, who was holding his daughter. Fortunately, Dong Qian subconsciously avoided it, otherwise the consequences would be unimaginable.
Before Dong Qian recovered from the fright, Hua Lei yelled at her, demanding that she apologize to her mother immediately, and threatened: "If you dare to say out, I will be rude to you, you are looking for a fight, right?" ”
Although Hua Lei raised his fist just as a threat, and didn't really hit Dong Qian, what about after this time? Seeing Hua Lei's waving fist, Dong Qian felt that her legs began to weaken, and she finally realized what a stupid choice she had made.
Dong Qian returned to her parents' house with her daughter in her arms, she cried and apologized to her parents, and clearly told them that she had decided to divorce. learned that Dong Qian came to her senses, her parents forgave her and fully supported their daughter's divorce. However, Hua Lei was unwilling to accept it, first made a big noise, and when he saw Dong Qian insisting on leaving, he smashed things at home and lost his temper. According to his mother-in-law, now Hua Lei is angry with his mother, thinking that his mother ruined his marriage.
These news deepened Dong Qian's determination to divorce. After two months of hard work, when Dong Qian proposed that if she didn't agree to the divorce, she would go to court, Hua Lei had to agree. The family was originally a family of four, but now it has become a family of two, Dong Qian's mother and daughter left, and their mother and son depended on each other, which was Hua Lei's own doing.
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