01Don't pay too much attention to gains and losses.
There are many things that we will go through in this life, but these things that we go through, many things that will upset us. In fact, it is not the external world that can disturb our hearts, but our own inner restlessness.
Many times we become bored, anxious, or have all kinds of bad emotions, simply because we value gains and losses too much.
When we see what we have lost, we always feel sad.
Because we don't want what belongs to us to disappear, we hope that those beautiful moments can be preserved forever.
But the world is not static, and many things are subject to change.
Therefore, if we want to have a happy attitude and be optimistic about life, then we should first let ourselves look down on everything in this world.
Don't always think about things that don't belong to you, and don't always think that what you have will disappear.
Our brains are often out of control, but we can also have the ability to change our thoughts.
For example, by finding something we enjoy to do, we can shift our attention elsewhere.
02Learn to think.
Many times we complain that the outside world makes us drift with the flow, or that each of us has an increasing burden on our hearts.
In fact, when we complain about the outside world, we might as well reflect on our own hearts.
Do we have the ability to distinguish between right and wrong, and whether we are willing to question some irrational phenomena in this world?
Are we willing to think about it?
There are all kinds of troubles in this world, but if we have the ability to think for ourselves, then these troubles are nothing.
We have a bright heart in this filthy world.
In this chaotic world, in fact, many times it is easy to lose ourselves.
Many times we don't know why we are in this world, and we don't know where we want to go in the future.
In fact, in this world, many of us lack the ability to think.
What others have, we turn into our own.
But we often absorb other people's ideas without thinking.
If we just listen to others without thinking, many times we don't know what the meaning of these things is.
In fact, if we want to be more clear about something, then we need to consider it according to our own thinking ability.
03Be clear about your goals.
In fact, in today's society, many of us have no goals and do nothing every day.
Even if some of us have some ideas of our own, many times we will not put into practical action, and these ideas are equivalent to utopian dreams.
Everything must be done through one's own practice, and you can't fantasize about these things happening every day.
Knowing our goals allows us to have a definite plan for the future, and we can better accomplish our dreams when we have a definite plan.
Many times our goals are not determined according to what we really think.
We often determine our goals through the opinions of others, or the winds in this society.
But we don't know if these goals are right for us.
Therefore, when determining our goals, we must first think about what we really want.
Don't always live in the shadow of others, and don't always follow in the footsteps of others.
We are special beings, and we should have our own unique ideas.
04Live authentically.
In fact, in this world, many of us are troubled by some material things.
The issue of money is often a topic of discussion.
Because each of us wants to live a rich life, poverty can make us feel insecure.
So many of us have been struggling for some material things for most of our lives.
In fact, we don't want to blindly deny the pursuit of fame and fortune.
The pursuit of fame and fortune can sometimes become the driving force for us to live.
But to do anything, we must have a degree, and we can't blindly do something too extreme.
We want to live our true self and live what we really want to be.
In fact, in this society now, many of us live a more hypocritical life.
With strangers, we will maintain a sense of proportion and boundaries, and even with intimate people, we will also put a mask on ourselves.
This mask can sometimes be a way for us to protect ourselves, but many times it is a tool for us to show off and disguise ourselves in front of others.
What is your original appearance?
Many times we should ask ourselves, do we like ourselves in the current state?
If we are really unhappy in this state, then we should adjust ourselves in time.