01The more he loves me, the more he cares about me.
In fact, in love, we are often prone to fall into self-set templates.
We often go to set our love path in the template.
But many times we think wrong.
We often think that the more a person loves themselves, the more they care about themselves.
This is true for some people, but not entirely for others.
Does he care about you just because he loves you?
Shouldn't we think carefully about what he cares about in this relationship?
Is he too lonely and wants to find someone to keep him company.
Actually, he doesn't love you, it's just that he just doesn't adapt to being alone.
Or if he chats with you frequently, or shushes you for warmth, then this is not necessarily a sign of love for you.
In love, we not only have to think about whether this person cares about themselves, but also his character and his personality, etc., are also factors that we need to consider.
02 Selfless love is the most precious.
Blindly giving, blindly sacrificing oneself, to fulfill this love, is that the most precious love?
In fact, many people are like actors in love, they are always used to being moved by themselves.
Before falling in love, they set up some love plots, so in love they always want these plots to play out on themselves. For example, when we were in school, we gave up our studies because we loved each other.
Because the other party's grades are not very satisfactory, he chooses to repeat, and then you choose to repeat in order to wait for him.
You think that this experience is vigorous, and you think that you have given a lot in this relationship.
In fact, many times we will fall into a kind of love misunderstanding, because we are used to staging self-moving chips.
Love is important, but do we think about the big picture?
Do we have the ability to protect each other by giving up our studies?
Or maybe the other person may not be able to make it to the end with you, but you give up your future for it.
In fact, when doing anything, we should not let ourselves go too far, we need to think carefully about the essence of this matter.
Blindly giving is not necessarily for the good of the other party, and many times we are prone to let the other party have heavy psychological pressure.
03 When you are older, you know what love is.
Many people always think that when they are young, they are always frustrated in love.
We always think that the maturity of love is directly proportional to our age, but many times this is not the case.
Even when some people are old, they don't necessarily know how to manage love.
Learning to love others is also a way to love ourselves, and we can find something we want from them.
When we find what we want, our hearts are filled with joy.
For example, when we help others, we don't necessarily make others feel happy, but in fact, we can also gain a lot in the process of helping.
So when we do anything, we don't necessarily look at what we can bring to the other person, but also look at what we gain when we help others.
No matter what age we are, in fact, we are all beginners in love.
Even if we have many relationships, we will become overwhelmed when we face a new relationship.
04 People who are good to others will also be good to their lovers.
We always think that people who are good to friends or family will also be good to their lovers.
Actually, this kind of thinking is too comprehensive, because good for friends or family, and good for lovers, these are several different things. For friends, we don't need to have too much psychological pressure, and we get along more freely.
For our families, we have an inseparable bond, and no matter what pattern we get along with our families, this connection is inseparable.
But we have a different level of lovers, they are both friends and family.
So when dealing with these different relationships, we all have different ways of thinking and acting.
Don't always confuse these relationships, because we have to get along differently in different relationships.
How to treat our lover is also a lesson that we must continue to learn in life.
No matter what kind of relationship we treat, we must have a sincere heart.
Don't always think about how to be opportunistic in these relationships.
There are many times when all of our cleverness can make our feelings become weaker and weaker.
There are always these important people in our lives who will be present in our world.
Don't let these important people down, and don't take their love for granted.
Love needs to be fulfilled by each other, not just by one person alone.