"Neighbors don't make friends, relatives don't leave" is a long-standing saying in rural China, which contains the wisdom and way of life summed up by the ancients in their long-term lives. The meaning of this sentence is that when choosing neighbors and friends, there are two kinds of neighbors that should not be deeply acquainted; And when dealing with kinship, there are three kinds of relatives that should keep their distance. Below, we will explain the meaning and truth of these two sentences respectively.
1. Neighbors don't pay.
1.Stay away from neighbors who love to take advantage of small things.
Neighbors who love to take advantage of small advantages are always trying to obtain benefits that do not belong to them from various sources, and such people are often selfish and lack integrity. Associating with such a neighbor can easily be taken advantage of by them and may even suffer losses. Therefore, for such neighbors, it is best to keep a proper distance and avoid too much interaction.
2.Stay away from your duplicitous neighbors.
Dussipous neighbors like to tell the truth and spread gossip. With such a neighbor, it is easy to get into unnecessary troubles and disputes. As the saying goes, "It is better to offend a gentleman than a villain", and it is best to stay away from such neighbors and avoid getting involved in right and wrong.
Second, relatives do not leave.
1.Stay away from snobbish relatives.
Snobbish relatives decide on kinship based on an individual's status and wealth. When you're rich, they try to please; When you are poor, they turn a blind eye. It is difficult to get real affection and love from such relatives. Therefore, for such relatives, it is necessary to keep a distance and avoid getting too close.
2.Stay away from scheming relatives.
Relatives who are calculating like to care about gains and losses in everything, and even between relatives, conflicts often occur because of some trivial things. Interaction with such relatives is prone to friction and disputes, which affect family harmony. Therefore, for such relatives, it is best to keep a proper distance and avoid excessive contact.
3.Stay away from ungrateful relatives.
Ungrateful relatives do not know how to be grateful, they only know how to take and never reciprocate. Associating with such relatives can easily get yourself into trouble and even lead to a breakdown of the relationship. Therefore, for such relatives, one should stay away and avoid too much help and support.
In short, the saying "neighbors don't make friends, relatives don't leave" warns people that when choosing neighbors and relatives, they must learn to distinguish between good and evil, and choose their partners wisely. Only in this way can we avoid unnecessary troubles and disputes and create a harmonious and happy living environment for ourselves.