Shakespeare said: "An unsatisfactory marriage is like a hell, a lifetime of fighting and not being able to live in peace, on the contrary, choosing a satisfactory spouse can lead to a hundred years of harmony and endless happiness." ”
When a man betrays his marriage and cheats, why doesn't he get a divorce?
Many women may think that he is because of children, property, or because of face, inertia, or because of lack of courage.
But are these really the motivations for men not to divorce? In my opinion, not so.
I think that after a man betrays his marriage, he has these motives for not divorcing.
One, selfishness
In the world of feelings, selfish people often carry a share"Double insurance"mentality.
They don't care about the feelings of others, they only care about their own interests.
They are eager to wander between two women, to appreciate two different kinds of love, and to enjoy double happiness.
They don't want to leave one side behind, but they don't want to take the responsibility they deserve.
In their eyes, the most important thing is to maximize profits and minimize losses.
This mentality is like that of an insatiable wolf, unwilling to let go in the face of delicious prey, but also unwilling to pay the due price for the catch.
Second, habits
They have long been accustomed to the meticulous care and dedication of their wives, just as fish are accustomed to water and birds are accustomed to the sky.
The tolerance and sacrifice of wives are indispensable nutrients in their lives.
They are like parasites, clinging to this stability, afraid of change, afraid of loss.
Faced with their mistakes, they choose to run away and are unwilling to bear the consequences.
They covet comfort and cling to their advantages, but they turn a blind eye to reality and ignore problems.
Three, greed
They want both the stability and security of their families and the freshness and excitement of an affair.
They want both the gentleness and virtue of their wives and the romance and passion of their lovers.
They want to enjoy the happiness and joy of their family while experiencing the thrill and pleasure of an affair.
They are unwilling to give up any possibility, unwilling to admit their mistakes, unwilling to face their hearts.
They only want to satisfy their own desires, they only want to pursue their own happiness, they only want to satisfy their selfishness.
Therefore, when a man betrays his marriage and cheats, he does not divorce because of children, property, or because of face, inertia, or because he has no courage.
but because of selfishness, habit, and greed.
They only think about their own interests and desires, ignoring the feelings and needs of the family and their wives.
They are not willing to accept their own mistakes and responsibilities, and only want to escape their own realities and problems.
Fourth, I didn't think about a way out
Some men don't divorce after betraying their marriage because they haven't figured out their way out.
They may feel that they do not have enough capital to start a relationship again, or they may worry that they will not be able to face the pressures and evaluations of society after a divorce.
In this case, they will choose to maintain the status quo and run away from their problems for a while, hoping that time will solve everything.
Men with this mindset often lack self-awareness and problem-solving skills, and they feel lost and uneasy about their future.
They may have been relying on the stability of their marriage and the dedication of their wives, and suddenly lost their direction and sense of security.
They are afraid to face unknown challenges and difficulties, and they are afraid to lose their familiar life and comfort zone.
As a result, they will choose not to divorce and try to maintain their stability and security in this way.
They may continue to cheat, continue to hurt their wives, and continue to run away from their own problems.
They put their own interests first, but neglect the feelings and needs of their families and wives.
As women, we should recognize the true face of such men and not be deceived by their rhetoric.
We should firmly defend our rights and interests, and not let men gain an inch.
At the same time, we should also reflect on our marriage and think about how to better protect ourselves and our family.
In the face of men's betrayals and mistakes, we should be brave enough to face reality, not to run away from our own problems, and to firmly defend our rights and happiness.