The extramarital affair that can be maintained for a long time is not only that the cheating man and the mistress themselves have feelings, but there will also be a relationship of interest between them, and it is not enough to rely on feelings alone, and the wife's side did not insist on separating the mistress, giving enough pressure is also one of the reasons.
So the extramarital affair that can last for more than 20 years is caused by a variety of reasons.
It's not just that the mistress has the means, but the cheating man is more greedy and wants both sides.
It is also directly related to the attitude of the wives and the failure to insist on resolving extramarital affairs.
After such a long time, the wife still wants to solve it, so she needs to work together from all aspects to have a chance to solve it.
Some time ago, an original partner said that she had just solved her husband's affair that had been cheating on her for 20 years.
She and her husband are in their sixties, both of them belong to public institutions, and their pensions together are more than 10,000 yuan.
The original partner's child is also married, and there are children, and the man's cheating is not known by the original partner, but by a long time ago.
At the beginning, I was talking about divorce, and then slowly the family planned to use the cheating man as an ATM, and then take good care of the children.
She also didn't expect that the cheating man and the mistress had been entangled for more than 20 years.
Why would a cheating man cheat on the same mistress for a long time?
This mistress must have his own means, otherwise the novelty and excitement will pass, and the mistress will continue this extramarital affair on what basis.
Most mistresses have grasped the preferences of cheating men, and then have always maintained their fawning over cheating men.
But it's not to blindly please, but to maintain the cheating man's good impression of the mistress.
Let the cheating man not want to lose the mistress, but occasionally he will retreat and break up, the cheating man has paid a certain price, and after saving the mistress, he will cherish the mistress even more.
Many mistresses have the means to know how to maintain a relationship with a cheating man and not let the cheating man get bored.
I also know how to handle cheating men, make trouble occasionally, don't let cheating men hate it, and let cheating men cherish the mistress.
But what Jiaxin wants to say is not the junior himself, but the reason for his wives.
Many wives may feel that the cheating man and the mistress have cheated for so many years, because they are inseparable, and the cheating man is greedy, and both sides want it and refuse to give up.
It was Xiao San who used means to make the cheating man refuse to end the affair all the time.
But in the past 20 years, the cheating man is greedy, the mistress is using means, and the wife is doing
Many wives are getting by, and they are laissez-faire without making trouble.
So why is the affair between a cheating man and a mistress able to last for more than twenty years.
To put it mildly, it is the inaction of the wives, and the wives are not self-reliant enough.
Why is it that if a cheating man is greedy, his wife should fulfill his greed and not divorce?
It may be that many wives have been housewives since they gave birth to children because they were unqualified at the beginning.
I have no financial foundation, I have no income, I can't get custody of my children, and I worry about bad things after divorce.
This is the case, and it is a very realistic factor, and divorce is indeed not a good choice for the wife in the first place.
But this is more than twenty years later, in this period.
The wife should understand that the cheating man doesn't take you seriously, and you don't dare to divorce just because you don't have a job. You are not financially independent, so why don't you work hard to make yourself financially independent?
Jiaxin also helped some of the original wives who were more obedient.
is also a housewife, and she doesn't dare to divorce for the sake of her children, Jiaxin's advice is that in marriage, use the money of cheating men to cultivate and improve yourself.
Use the connections of this marriage to find a job and give yourself an economic foundation and an independent economy.
It's definitely hard to do this, and it doesn't matter if you cheat on a man, you won't get a divorce.
Pretending to be deaf and dumb to continue the marriage, compared with taking money from a cheating man, Jiaxin thinks it is not difficult.
You need to put in the time and energy to work hard to improve yourself and then go out to work.
You can do it in about a year, and if you do it in a year, you don't have to endure twenty years of extramarital affairs.
And once wives have confidence, they will be afraid of cheating men.
Even if you don't want to divorce, you are more able to deter the cheating man, shake the cheating man, and break off the cheating man and the mistress.
The extramarital affair that you can't solve is not because of how deep the cheating man and the mistress love.
How scheming and calculating the junior is, how obsessed the cheating man is.
It's because of the state you show that you are easy to be bullied and even slaughtered.
The cheating man doesn't feel the need to be too sad about his wife, he just needs to be chic.
Xiao San doesn't feel that he needs to care too much about the original partner, and the original partner won't do anything anyway.
So they were arrogant and derailed, leaving the original partner alone to wash their faces with tears, and they had to ask why.
Cheating is the problem of the mistress and the cheating man, and the extramarital affair cannot be solved, because the wife is not firm enough.
Only when you do everything can you have an answer, and if you don't do it, you will always struggle in the problem and can't get out!
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I'm Jiaxin, a marriage defender who focuses on the separation of third parties.