Not long after Chen Junsheng and Ling Ling were together, they collapsed many times.
Such as roaring "Who cares about this position except Ling Ling", such as regret "I want to go back to the past, the old past", such as disdain, "Don't you think this is too ugly", ......
There are two reasons why the two people who are as sweet as molasses before marriage have constant friction and problems after marriage:
1. The two lack of enough understanding of each other
To put it bluntly, it was Chen Junsheng who didn't know enough about Ling Ling. In other words, the two people who enter the marriage in the sweet period, their understanding of each other stays on the surface.
At this time, Chen Junsheng had no hesitation in treating Ling Ling, and Ling Ling was reasonable and understanding. What they see is all the good of each other.
The truth is, who has no shortcomings. Since there is, sooner or later it will be exposed.
Although, whether we get married early or later, we all have to get along with each other's shortcomings, but the meaning is different.
If we enter marriage without knowing each other's shortcomings, it will raise our expectations of each other, and our expectations for marriage, once the problem is exposed, we are more likely to lose control.
You weren't like this before" and "you've changed", these are all tragic situations for those who don't know each other well enough to get married.
But if we still choose each other when we know each other well enough, then when we encounter problems, we will be more relaxed and more acceptable. Because you know, that's what he is.
Chen Junsheng did not go through this stage for Ling Ling, and their later dreams of sleeping together were doomed.
There's a good saying:Love is a hormonal that will beautify everything and blur the distance between two people; And marriage is an accurate algorithm, before marriageThe gap will be magnified after marriageEven
In marriage, the same is true for a person's shortcomings.
Therefore, if you identify a person, first try to magnify the other party's shortcomings by 10 times, or even 100 times, and if you can still accept it, then talk about marriage again, so as not to run into each other's flesh and blood in marriage.
Lack of foresight for future life
Chen Junsheng chose Ling Ling, after all, he overestimated himself and underestimated life.
He didn't know what he would face with Ling Ling.
First of all, he needs to support 2 old people, 2 children, 1 wife, and himself.
Secondly, he needs to deal with the relationship between his biological son and Ling Ling's son, the relationship between himself and Ling Ling's son, and the relationship between his biological son and Ling Ling.
Finally, he also needs to coordinate the relationship between his parents and Ling Ling.
In the past, Chen Junsheng couldn't handle it with a simple Luo Zijun, why did he think he could handle this.
Yes, when people encounter love, they will lose their rationality and think that they can do anything.
But life is life, and it doesn't make sense to you. It will let you know that what you think is only what you think.
Chen Junsheng is like this, he regrets it a lot, regrets not being at the beginning. But what's the use, the tears you shed now are all the water that entered your brain at the beginning.
Marriage is not flowers and candles, it is not a mountain alliance and sea vow, it is not that you love me and I love you. It's your relationship with her, his relationship with her, it's trivial housework, it's firewood, rice, oil, salt, it's one problem after another.
If you encounter a problem and do not have the ability to solve it, you will only run away, then you will encounter more problems if you start over.
Everything is like Ling Ling saying to Tang Jing, "I just want to live our life in peace and stability with Chen Junsheng", Tang Jing responded to the sentence "In this world, the more you want to seek fame, the more you can't get fame, the more you want to be free, the more you can't be free, the same reason, the more you want to seek stability, the more you can't be stable." ”