At present, in order to expand the scope of social interaction and "get rid of singles" as soon as possible, some single young people choose to enter the short ** live broadcast room. In the live broadcast room, the basic conditions such as the blind date's height, appearance, occupation, income, house, and car were placed on the bright side, and they were looked at and screened round by round. Some lucky young people have found a suitable blind date here, but there are also people who have encountered "routines" and "traps".
No. 1, a native of Jingyuan, Ningxia, 28 years old, with a car but no house, a young man in the enterprise; No. 2, from Tianshui, Gansu Province, 34 years old, has a house and a car, and is self-employed ......At 22:50 on January 28, Sister Ma, a post-70s matchmaker, repeatedly introduced the basic information of 8 young guests in the live broadcast room. The "group-style" blind date between 1 matchmaker and 8 young male and female guests is being carried out on the nine-square grid screen in the live broadcast room.
According to the rules set by Sister Ma, within 3 minutes, if a guest is interested in a young person she reads, she will apply for the group chat she set up, and you can further get the other party to enter the one-on-one communication session; If no one answers, start inviting the next group of marriage guests into the live broadcast room to connect with the microphone.
Liu Xinyuan, a 32-year-old young woman from Yuanzhou District, Guyuan City, Ningxia Hui Autonomous Region, met with three young men offline last year and had brief contact, but none of them developed into a romantic relationship. In order to promote life events, she recently began to enter the live broadcast room to find a blind date.
The information in the live broadcast room is updated quickly, and whether you can find the right person may be in three or five minutes. Liu Xinyuan said that she has swiped more than a dozen of this kind of blind date live broadcast room in the same city, mainly to see the appearance of young men, listen to the introduction of the matchmaker, chat more if you are interested, and switch to other blind date live broadcast rooms if you are not interested.
At present, in order to expand the scope of social interaction and "get rid of singles" as soon as possible, some single young people choose to enter the short ** live broadcast room. In the live broadcast room, the basic conditions such as the blind date's height, appearance, occupation, income, house, and car were placed on the bright side, and they were looked at and screened round by round. Some lucky young people have found a suitable blind date here, but there are also people who have encountered "routines" and "traps".
Live blind date, appearance, expression, and material conditions are the three major considerations.
I am 32 years old, working in the Dingbian Oilfield in Shaanxi Province, I have mortgaged a house in my hometown, I haven't bought a car yet, my sister is married, and I have a younger brother who is in graduate school. ”
In the small box in the lower right corner of the live broadcast room, a round-faced male guest in a black sweater is introducing himself. Liu Xinyuan saw that the background behind the other party was dim lighting and a simple dormitory environment. "The other party's job income is good, but the oil field work is hard, so I don't think I go home often. Liu Xinyuan speculated.
She wanted to ask the other party further about his career plan, but after thinking about it, "Don't look for a job in another place", she didn't interact with the other party in the end.
After graduating from junior college in 2014, Liu Xinyuan worked as a social worker in a public welfare organization with a monthly salary of nearly 4,000 yuan.
Sister Ma, the matchmaker, whose real name is Ma Juan, is a post-70s housewife in Guyuan City, Ningxia. Five or six years ago, she used to be an offline matchmaker for some young people. In 2021, considering that young people like to watch short **, she transferred her media business to the Internet and began to be an Internet matchmaker.
During the day, she sent the personal information of young men and women to be married to the short ** platform, and also sent some successful cases, **There are stacks of bride price banknotes and a dazzling array of dowry items in the screen, marked "Interested parties add WeChat private chat". In the evening, she opened a live broadcast room to organize male and female guests to chat with the microphone.
In the blind date live broadcast room, the "play" she set up includes paid one-on-one, as well as a matchmaker with 8 people to show their faces in the live broadcast, the specific form is under her auspices, young male and female guests in a short period of ten minutes, introducing their basic information, mate selection requirements, future marriage and childbirth life planning, etc. The whole process of the live broadcast room is open, and those who connect to the microphone cannot open the beauty filter, and any netizen can click to enter**.
Ma Juan told the reporter of China Youth Daily and China Youth Network that in her blind date live broadcast room, the male and female guests who joined the live broadcast of Lianmai were mainly 25-28 years old. The male guests are mainly educated in high school and higher vocational education, and most of them are self-employed and young workers, and their jobs are not stable enough and their incomes are not high; Most of the female guests have better careers and incomes, with college, bachelor's or even graduate degrees, some working within the system, and some with monthly salaries more than double the average local salary.
According to her observation, there are always more male guests than female guests in Lianmai, and in fact, there are often no female guests in the live broadcast room. Therefore, every time she opens a "1 with 8 microphone live blind dates", she will reserve at least two microphone positions for female guests. "Male guests are generally more patient than female guests, and some people are willing to wait in line for half an hour in order to wait for an opportunity to 'get on the microphone'. ”
When young people go on a blind date in the live broadcast room, appearance, language expression, and material conditions are the three major considerations. "Appearance determines whether the other party is willing to chat with the microphone, language expression determines the length of time to chat with the microphone, and material conditions determine whether they can be further contacted. Ma Juan said.
Ma Juan said with a smile that to be an Internet celebrity, you must be a good "atmosphere group", organize a blind date, let 8 male and female guests participate in the chat as much as possible, and guide them to talk about the recent weather, recent news, workplace topics, daily news, etc. "In general, single young men living in small towns and rural areas often have to lower their posture when they want to get blind date opportunities with female guests. ”
Ma Juan always "advises" female guests not to be too "face control", and not to be too "looking at money", to feel more about the male guests' speech and behavior, and she also reminded the male guests not to be "social fear", actively participate in the microphone chat, and show themselves to the female guests.
The "routine" hidden in the blind date live broadcast room
34-year-old Zhou Xuan is a grassroots teacher in Deyang City, Sichuan Province, in the past two years, in order to "get rid of the single" as soon as possible, she often takes the initiative to go into the live broadcast room to find suitable people.
Zhou Xuan found that for the marriage guests, some blind date live broadcast rooms require ID cards**, and some do not have a review mechanism, so there will be "emotional**" mixed in.
In August last year, Zhou Xuan was satisfied with a young man who claimed to be a worker in the system in the live broadcast room, and took the initiative to contact the matchmaker blogger to ask for and add the other party's WeChat, and kept chatting online for nearly a month.
The other party seemed very sincere at first, and the two talked very speculatively. But what made her feel "almost meaningful" was that the other party never took the initiative to invite her to meet offline. She once comforted herself, "Maybe people are just busy lately."
Until one evening, the man sent a WeChat message to Zhou Xuan, saying that something had happened to his friend and he wanted to find her to make up 20,000 yuan.
I don't feel credible to borrow money from the opposite sex before we have ever met. Although Zhou Xuan felt sorry for the time and emotional cost he had paid, he still rationally cut off contact with the other party.
Two months later, Zhou Xuan paid another matchmaker 100 yuan to participate in a "one-on-one" offline blind date. The meeting took place in a rented real estate agent's meeting room and lasted less than 20 minutes.
Under the auspices of the matchmaker, Zhou Xuan and the other party introduced each other's basic information such as hometown, family, and work, and added WeChat to each other. The 36-year-old man claimed to be unmarried because he was too busy with work, and his only relationship experience in the last five years was "living with his ex-girlfriend for a short time".
Zhou Xuan was skeptical about this, and in a cautious manner, he asked a friend to inquire and learned that in fact, the man was divorced in 2021, and his 8-year-old son was raised by his ex-wife.
Zhou Xuan couldn't accept the other party's deliberate concealment, and quickly cut off contact with the other party. When she told the matchmaker blogger about it, the matchmaker said she didn't know about it.
There is everyone in the blind date live broadcast room. Zhou Xuan said that sometimes Lian Mai chatted well, and suddenly someone joined the live broadcast room, and some didn't even turn on the camera, just said something "rubbing the content".
She also saw a male guest in the blind date live broadcast room suddenly flashed a woman of her age in pajamas, but the man argued that it was "his relative".
What's the situation?" and "What kind of presence are married people looking for in the blind date live broadcast room" ......The comment area of the live broadcast room was suddenly swiped by *** netizens. Zhou Xuan remembered that in order to maintain order, the matchmaker blogger "invited" the man out of the live broadcast room.
Yang Zhiqing, a young man from the post-95 factory in Wuzhong City, has been working for nearly 5 years, and because of his small life circle and narrow ways to make friends, he often meets friends of the opposite sex through the live broadcast room. When he entered the blind date live broadcast room for the first time, "just a few minutes after connecting the microphone, a female guest asked, 'Have you bought a house, the full amount is still a mortgage, and how much bride price are you willing to pay if you get married'."
In November last year, Yang Zhiqing met a young woman in the same city through a blind date live broadcast room. In the three months that the two got along, Yang Zhiqing undertook more than 2,000 yuan of offline eating, drinking and entertainment consumption. But without any warning, the woman suddenly told Yang Zhiqing that "I feel that the two people are not suitable and will not be together".
At the time, they got along with the attitude of falling in love, but now that I think about it, it is really a little wrong. Yang Zhiqing said.
Yang Zhiqing remembered that when he entered the blind date live broadcast room for the first time, a matchmaker blogger not only repeatedly introduced the personal information of male and female marriage guests, but also emphasized: "The matchmaker is only responsible for facilitating marriage, and if there are conflicts and disputes between two people during their offline love and marriage, especially when economic problems are involved, the matchmaker is not responsible." ”
Don't let live blind dates become a profit-seeking gimmick.
In April 2022, the People's Procuratorate of Jiashan County, Zhejiang Province, during the handling of a case in which an anchor and a female guest performed a "double reed" in the live broadcast room to defraud male guests, found out more than 200 peers and female guests involved in the case from behind the criminal suspects, and then found that there were loopholes in the supervision of the live broadcast room by the dating platform, and also issued a procuratorial recommendation to this dating platform, requiring it to strictly implement management systems such as user registration, anchor management, and report acceptance, and effectively strengthen the positive guidance and standardized management of the online live broadcast industry. Protect the legitimate rights and interests of netizens.
Obviously, these chaos deviate from the original intention of the blind date live broadcast and do not meet the requirements of a clear cyberspace. The reason for this is the problems of the participants, and the failure of the platform to supervise. Wu Hanhua, a researcher at the People's Data Research Institute of People's Daily Online, suggested that the live broadcast platform should strengthen the setting of the entry threshold for the blind date live broadcast room, and strictly control the live broadcast "matchmaker", blind dates, and onlookers, so as to prevent the blind date live broadcast room from becoming a place for "hiding dirt and dirt"; It is necessary to do a good job in the safety of funds, ensure the security of user information and privacy, and let the blind date have no worries; should take the initiative to accept the joint supervision of all parties, work together, and really do good things and practical things, and cannot let live blind dates become a gimmick for profit, and those who really want to "get rid of singles" are difficult to dream of.
In order to understand the needs of "cloud blind date" young people for intimacy and marriage and love feelings, Zhang Nannan, a lecturer at the School of Marxism and a doctor of sociology at Central China Normal University, once interviewed 30 users under the age of 35 in a sub-provincial city on the experience and practice of online marriage and dating.
Zhang Nannan believes that in the traditional way of marriage and dating, the establishment of young people's emotional relationships is gradually shifted from ordinary friends to marriage and love partners. The "cloud blind date" user can quickly realize the "encounter" of strangers with the platform as a medium. The matching service provided by the platform for age, family, education, preferences and appearance eliminates the need for young people to explore the basic situation of each other when they are in free love, and theoretically helps young people improve the efficiency of mate selection, expand the scope of mate selection, and reduce the information asymmetry in marriage and love.
However, Zhang Nannan reminded that the online blind date platform will pre-set the "conditions for young people to choose a mate for marriage and love", and some young people who choose according to the "conditions" on the platform will fantasize about finding the "perfect" partner, resulting in emotional "fast food" due to the pursuit of "perfection".
Zhang Nannan noticed that many young people who are "cloud blind date" are not willing to give all their sincerity unreservedly in this relationship. They do not believe that this kind of emotional relationship can be equated with intimacy, keep a certain safe distance from each other, and do not spend more energy to maintain emotional relationships, "artificial and technological embeddedness, partially replacing traditional emotional relationship practices, has an impact on young people's emotional cognition, which may affect the stability of young people's marriage".
Zhang Rui, a doctoral student at the School of Sociology of Beijing Normal University, believes that the ** youth dating platform should assume social responsibility, adjust the matching algorithm, and provide information for a wider range of young users, rather than only serving those individuals who are considered "the best" in the blind date market, "to establish a positive emotional expression and feedback mechanism for young people, and create a healthy emotional communication network environment."
On January 29th, on a short ** live broadcast platform, the blogger live-streamed the personal information of the marriage guests with the theme of "how to get rid of the single before the Chinese New Year", and guided the ** person to "** dating chat app, you can receive member benefits". Screenshots of the network.
Reporter's note: Less "routines", more truth.
For this story, I interviewed nearly 10 single young people aged 25-35. The New Year is approaching, these young people are about to return to their hometowns to reunite with their families, and without exception, they are all anxious about "getting off the list", and the blind date in the live broadcast room has become the choice of many people.
Yang Yang is a 32-year-old young woman with a hearty personality and courtesy, but in the face of choosing a mate, she frankly admits that she is confused and contradictory. She really wants to find someone who can be with her for a lifetime, but she suffers from the solidification of social circles, it is difficult to meet new friends, and the blind date introduced by relatives and friends is far from what she expected.
Recently, whenever she has free time, she swiped into the blind date live broadcast room to see if there are any men who match her eyes. She feels that she just lacks the right way to find the right person, and she may be able to find the person she likes through the blind date. "There's nothing to be embarrassed about on a blind date. Blind dates in the live broadcast room are also a way to find true love. ”
In the live broadcast room, she has seen female guests of the same age wearing exquisite makeup and patiently listening to the chat content of male guests, and she has also seen female guests say that they do not consider men from rural families with an annual salary of less than 200,000 yuan. She has seen male guests who are gentle and well-behaved, and she has also seen male guests appear in the live broadcast with their upper bodies naked in the live broadcast screen, which is extremely embarrassing.
In the final analysis, the blind date live broadcast room is a very convenient tool for making friends, there is truth here, and there are also 'routines'. Effective supervision is needed to ensure the bottom line. Yang Yang said.
This is also the common sentiment of many young people. For the blind date live broadcast room, it is necessary for relevant parties and platforms to take responsibility for regulation and management, so that the live blind date is more standardized and orderly, with fewer "routines" and "traps", so that single young people can cross physical distance, break social barriers, and find the ideal other half in their hearts.
China Youth Daily).