He is always perfunctory to you, as cold as the winter wind, but he always refuses to let go, like glue stuck to the palm of his hand. The reason may not be complicated, maybe he has used you as a spare tire, the one that can take his place at any time when he needs it.
Perhaps, he is interested in some kind of use value in you. In his eyes, you may be a stable emotional investment, a haven where he can find solace in his loneliness. However, this does not mean that he truly loves you, but just finds a convenient channel in you to meet his needs.
And perhaps even more poignant is that he knows that leaving you is a heavy price to pay for him. Maybe it's because of financial reasons, social pressures, or because of the huge opposition from the family. So, he chose to barely maintain stability, although he already had other expectations in his heart, but he couldn't let go of the comfort in his hands.
In this labyrinth of emotions with endless scheming, you may have seen it clearly, but how to let go of that dependence? Life may need a brave liberation to rediscover the happiness that truly belongs to you.
He is always like that, when he needs it, he will appear in your life, say sensational words, cast some ambiguous eyes, and make you mistakenly think that you are the only love of his heart. But when everything calms down, when he finds another goal, you will find that you are just a spare tire in his hand, a choice that he can choose at any time.
Perhaps, in his mind, you are just a passerby in his life, a character that can be summoned at any time when he needs it. He can choose to share his joys and worries with you, but never really cares about your feelings. You are just a filler for his emotions, filling the emptiness in his heart until he finds the next person who can replace you.
In such a relationship, you are always in a passive position, like a forgotten grass in the corner, at the mercy of the wind and rain. Your dedication and care are just tools for him to use, and once he loses his usefulness, he will not hesitate to abandon you. Perhaps, he will not directly say "I don't love you", but he will never give you any sincere promises.
This kind of feeling is a great torture, like a sharp knife, and every sting makes you feel painful. You may be reluctant to face the reality and admit that you are just a passerby in his life, but the reality is inexorably in front of you. Perhaps, the only way out is to take a brave step, say goodbye to this unworthy relationship, and find your own happiness.
He may never have really loved you, but he has always been able to find some kind of value in you. Maybe it's because you're empathetic and always able to comfort and encourage him when he's down. Maybe it's because of your intelligence that you can always give him advice and support when he needs help.
In his eyes, you are like a fruit tree growing in his life, and he can pluck the fruit from you at any time to meet his needs. Your efforts and efforts are only tools for him to use to achieve his goals, and what he gives is rarely truly rewarded. In his eyes, you are just a part of his life, not the person he really needs.
Perhaps, you once thought that you were the only one in his heart, but when you found that his feelings for you were not sincere, the loss and helplessness in your heart were indescribable. You may try to change yourself and try to meet his needs, only to find that you have never been able to get his true approval and cherishment. You begin to doubt your own worth, you begin to doubt whether you are worthy of love.
However, as time goes on, you come to your senses and realize that you don't need to rely on him to prove your worth. You learn to love yourself and learn not to give up your happiness for the sake of him. Perhaps, the final departure is a relief, the beginning of your rediscovery of yourself.
He may know that separation is an unbearable price for him, so he chooses to barely maintain the relationship. Maybe it's because they've built up so many shared memories and experiences, and once separated, it means they have so much to lose.
In his opinion, separation means facing a lonely and uncertain future, it means starting again to find another partner and readjusting to a strange life. And all this was so difficult and unimaginable for him.
Perhaps because of their financial dependence, they have established a common living and financial system, and once separated, it means starting an independent life again, taking on more financial responsibilities and life pressures.
Perhaps because of social pressure, their friends and relatives are accustomed to their state together, and once they are separated, it will cause discussion and criticism from those around them, bringing them more pressure and distress.
So, they chose to barely maintain stability, chose to continue to endure friction and contradictions between each other, and continued to live a seemingly happy life. However, this kind of barely maintaining stability does not bring true happiness and satisfaction. Perhaps, the ultimate relief is for them to re-examine their lives, bravely face reality, and find happiness that truly belongs to them.
In such a relationship, we may have fantasized that we could be the only one in his heart, but in the end we find that we are just an episode in his life, a choice that can be discarded at any time.
However, in the face of such a reality, we should not be immersed in grief and loss, but should face it bravely and take courageous steps. We deserve to be truly loved, to be cherished and respected. Don't let yourself be reduced to a spare tire or tool for other people's feelings, learn to love yourself, and persist in the pursuit of true happiness.
Perhaps, the ultimate liberation is not easy, but only by bravely facing the reality can we find our own happiness. Let's say goodbye to those unworthy feelings, say goodbye to those who don't cherish us, let us welcome new beginnings, and pursue true love and happiness. Believe in yourself and believe in the future, we will be able to find our own happiness and live the life we want.