Human traditionsMarriageThe way has always been "male marriage and female marriage", that is, the woman marries into the manFamily, the child follows the man's surname, and this traditional way continues to this day. However, in recent years, a new type of one has quietly emerged in some parts of our countryMarriageway, known as "two-headed marriage". This kindMarriageThe emergence of the way has aroused people's attention and thinking. So, what exactly does "two-headed marriage" mean? How did it come about? It is worth noting that the rise of "two-headed marriage" is not an isolated case, in recent years, this method has gradually increased in China and is favored by young people. In what follows, I'll cover the details of the "two-headed marriage" and the reasons and pros and cons behind it.
TraditionalMarriageIn this pattern, the woman usually marries into the manFamily, the child followsFatherand write the man's family tree. Although there are a few cases where the woman marries the manFamily, but this is relatively rare. However, in the last dozen years or so, an unusual one has emergedMarriagePattern - "Two-headed marriage". In this kindMarriageIn the model, there is no saying of who marries into whom for both men and women, and there is no bride price or bride priceDowryand other traditional customs. In fact, the "two-headed marriage" emphasizes the equality of men and women, and after marriage, the couple will agree to have two children, one of whom will followFather, a surname that follows the mother's. Children no longer call grandparents and grandparents separately, but call grandparents in a unified way. In addition, newlyweds will not be like traditionalMarriageThe same permanent residence in the man's or woman's homeFamily, but instead take turns living between the two houses. If they buy their own home, twoFamilywill take turns to go back for the New Year. This kindMarriageThe rise of the model can be traced back to the late 90s of the last century, when it became popular in a small area in rural areas of Jiangsu and Zhejiang, and gradually expanded to more young men and womenMarriageChoose.
There are many reasons for the rise of "two-headed marriage". Overall, it isPopulation policyand the collision of traditional and modern thinking in rural areas. Due to the implementation of the family planning policy, the only child is hereFamilyIt is quite a common situation, especially if there is only one daughterFamilyMore common. Although there is no preference for male and female childbearing in modern thinking, most people believe that children should have a duty to support their parents. However, in some rural areas in the south where there is a deep sense of tradition, people are generally worried about "incense", and they are worried that their family will not have an heirFamilyThe property is inherited by an outsider. Therefore, when the first children were born after the family planning policyGrow up**When it comes to the age of marriage and childbirth, some southern rural areasFamilyStart experimenting with the "two-headed marriage" method.
In addition, the relaxation of the birth policy also provides conditions for "two-headed marriage". In the 90s of the last century, some places began to allow rural areasFamilyGiving birth to a second child, or the first child is a girl'sFamilyIt is possible to have a second child. This is for those who have only one daughterFamilyIt brings the hope of continuing to pass on the lineage.
It is worth noting that the popularity of "two-headed marriage" is also with the younger generationMarriagewithFamilyThe change of perception is related. Compared with the past, young people today pay more attention to individual rights and equality. They are more inclined to be equalMarriagerelationship, unwilling to let one party completely marry into the otherFamily, losing part of its independence. In addition, due to the improvement of education level and the pluralism of values, modern young people place more importance on family affection, affection and personal choice. They prefer to choose one that aligns with their own values andlifewayMarriagemode, not just by the subjectConventional wisdomof bondage.
Opinions differ on the pros and cons of "two-headed marriage". Proponents argue that "two-headed marriage" can achieve equality between men and women, and can meet both the needs of family inheritance and the needs of individual independence. Both husband and wife are interested in fertility andFamilyThere is also a greater sense of responsibility, and children have more loved ones to act as supporters, sharing the responsibility of care and education. In addition, due to the equal treatment of the in-laws' family and the mother's family, it has decreasedFamilypower struggles and contradictions. The kinship between the two families is also closer, inlifeTake care of and support each other.
Opponents, however, argue that "two-headed marriage" can lead to the separation of couples and the inability to form stabilitylifeCircle andFamilyEnvironment. on both sidesFamilyIt can't be like tradition when it comes to taking care of children, sharing expenses, etcFamilyIn that way, a comprehensive force is formed. In addition, in the event of disputes and conflicts, both spouses will not be able to obtain itFamilyThe full support of the problem increases the difficulty and pain of dealing with the problem.
All in all"Married to two heads"This emergingMarriageThe model is gradually emerging in some parts of China, and there are both behind itPopulation policyis also influenced by the younger generationMarriagewithFamilyof the change of perception. This kindMarriageThe pros and cons of the model are controversial and require further research and discussion. Over time, for"Married to two heads"Perception and acceptance will also change.