Xiao Zhang and her boyfriend Xiao Wu from a northern province in Ningbo, Zhejiang, met at a university in Hangzhou and worked hard together in Hangzhou after graduation. In the past 8 years, the relationship between the two has been very good, but recently the two talked about marriage and began to have conflicts, focusing on the bride price, which eventually led to the breakup of the two.
After Xiao Zhang posted his experience on the Internet, it immediately became a hot search and dominated the list for a long time, which shows that the breakup due to the bride price has a strong resonance among readers.
In all cases of breaking up due to bride price, there is a commonality: the man suspects that his girlfriend's family asks for too much bride price and his family cannot afford to pay it; And the woman retorted aggrievedly: It's not easy for my mother to raise me, you still have too much money, and obviously don't pay enough attention to me. In the process of bargaining between the families of the two sides, the emotions are getting bigger and bigger, the contradictions are getting deeper and deeper, and the feelings between the lovers are getting weaker and weaker, leading to the final breakup.
Specifically, in the case of Xiao Zhang and Xiao Wu, the bride price demanded by Xiao Zhang's family was 1880,000 yuan. Xiao Zhang said that in the original assumption, the parents would not leave a penny of the bride price, and when they got married, their parents would make up 100,000 yuan and get a total of 2880,000 yuan for the new home of the two. But in Xiao Wu's view, his parents worked hard to provide for their own study, down payment for a house, decoration, etc., and their greatest ability was to make up 60,000 yuan for the bride price.
It seems that both sides make sense. But they have forgotten one thing of all: love. What made them decide to be together for 8 years must not be money, but love.
If there is still love in their hearts, they will definitely be able to solve this contradiction. Xiao Zhang can argue with his parents to reduce the amount of the bride price. Xiao Wu can go to the bank for a loan as a bride price, and after marriage, he will use the money brought by the woman's family to repay the loan.
A few days ago, a very popular little ** was popular on the Internet: A retired old man in Shanghai was very rich when he was young, but he never remarried after his wife died, because he didn't believe that there was still love, and asserted: There will be no love after 2020, because it will be difficult to make money after 2020, and everyone is more interested in money than love. Although this old man said something absolutely, if you think about it carefully, there is still some truth.
Xiao Zhang and Xiao Wu's breakup seems to be because of the bride price, but in fact it is because there is no love anymore. If there is no love, it is actually good to simply break up. Otherwise, forcibly marrying each other is tantamount to putting each other in a cage, and there will be more sins.
The woman broke up with her boyfriend who had been in love for 8 years because of the bride price