"People**" once pointed out: Educating children well is the most important cause in your life. As the famous host Dong Qing said: When educating children, you choose to make money and do not discipline children. When the child grows up, the money you have worked hard for a lifetime will not be worth a year of his failure. Children's education is a live broadcast that cannot be repeated. The validity period of parenthood is only 10 years, and once the education expires, it will become a lifelong regret for the child. There is no better home education than this:Father's love is not absent, and he accompanies the growth of his children with his heart; Mother's love is not offside, so that children learn to be independent; There are rules in tutoring, and children understand principles. Parents can only educate excellent children by doing these three things. 
Fatherly love is not absentChildren grow up without regrets"My dad loves to look at his phone, and every time he has time, he takes it out to look at ......This was written by an elementary school student in his essay. Truly and mercilessly poked at the soft underbelly of countless dads, many dads seem to spend far more time on their phones than on their children. In a survey, 70% of fathers under the age of 40 surveyed had never or rarely taken care of their children in the last year, 47% had never or rarely helped their children with their homework, and mothers had performed 7 and 20% respectively. This means that the vast majority of children grow up under the care and education of their mothers, while fathers are missing in the growth and education of their children. Psychologist Gerdi once said: "A father is a unique being, and he has a special power for raising children." ”From the father, the child observes what a husband is and what a father is, and at the same time thinks about what independence and courage are. A good father is better than 200 good teachers. Fathers are the guides of their children to the world, and 99% of their children's success comes from 1% of their father's changes. This is because, before the child is 10 years old, he often sees his father as his idol. Children often have a strong sense of adoration for their father, who is seen as a symbol of wisdom and strength. Children will subconsciously imitate their father's behavior. It can be said that the pattern of the father determines how high the child can fly. The absence of father's love is a scar that is difficult to heal in the child's growth. Artist Fang Zuming said in an interview: "I don't have my father in my memory, not even my back. "Jackie Chan has always been haunted by his son's grandfather's father's love. Until Fang Zuming was addicted to drugs**, Jackie Chan expressed his guilt and indebtedness to his son in public more than once. If father's love is not absent, the child's growth will not leave regrets. 
Mother's love is not offsideThe future of children will go furtherDr. Montessori once said, "We should give children equal love, free from prejudice and discrimination." "Every mother loves her child deeply, but sometimes loving too hard will hinder the child's development. In the process of raising children, maternal love is offside, which is the biggest constraint on children. Children should walk their own way, sooner or later they have to walk on their own, love children, you must learn to let go, let children be brave to explore. All love in this world has the ultimate goal of aggregation, and there is only one kind of love that has the purpose of separation, and that is the love of parents for their children. Therefore, the truly successful love of parents is to be able not to be offside, so that the child is separated from your life as an independent individual as soon as possible, and the sooner this separation is, the more successful you will be. Chen Heqin, a famous educator, said: To raise flowers, grass, birds, and fish, you must first know how to raise them well; Is it possible to raise a child well if you don't know how to raise it? 1.Do what your child can do on his ownMaybe you think that the child is too young to do anything on his own, but you have to understand that the child likes to imitate ** and knows what he likes to do. Once he unlocks his potential, the tasks he can accomplish may surprise you. For example, when cooking, let the child help pick vegetables, arrange the dishes and chopsticks together, etc., within the scope of his ability, willing to "use" the child. When your child is playing or concentrating on something, please put away your "care" and quietly observe your child. Don't disturb a child's ongoing work unless you are invited. 2.Encourage your child to make their own choicesThe first step in cultivating children's independence is not to help them make ideas and decisions in everything. Parents take care of their children in every detail. In the long run, it will not only not help the child, but also delay the child's growth. Depriving children of the opportunity to think independently and gain experience is like putting spiritual shackles on children. Every child is an independent and complete individual, and helping children to be independent is the best love to give children. Every day a child makes a small step forward, and the road to the future is a big step forward. 
There are principles in educationChildren can follow the rulesLoving children is instinct, setting rules is responsibility, and principled love is true love. Some parents think that as long as they send their children to school, they will ignore it and have their own teacher's discipline. In fact, education has boundaries. All the school can do is ensure that every child has a fair opportunity to learn, but it is your business to learn or not, it is your choice. Outside the boundaries of education, family education needs to complement each other. When it comes to education, homeschooling has a more profound impact on children. A good family education requires the hands-on efforts of both parents. Husband and wife are of the same heart, and their profits are broken. Excellent parents know how to educate "alliances". Only when parents have the same educational philosophy can children trust their parents' words more and enforce the rules more effectively. Keeping the same attitude and keeping the same pace in front of your child will have the best educational effect. In life, many families will encounter such a scene: the mother criticizes the child, the child cries non-stop, and the mother has not finished speaking; The father on the side said upsetly: "Don't talk about him anymore, just say a few words." If you live with the elderly, as soon as the grandmother hears the child crying, she will go over to see the child distressedly, hold it in her arms, and comfort her. Instead of listening to his mother, the child cried even harder. To educate a child, it only takes one voice for the child to understand the principles. Dr. Montessori said that children between the ages of 3 and 6 are often referred to as the "wet cement period," when children are most malleable and the best time to set rules. If you want your child to abide by the rules and be principled, the premise is that parents must stick to their own bottom line and principles. Don't lower your requirements or break your own principles just because your child is crying. To educate children, these 6 basic principles must be done by children, and the sooner they do it, the sooner they will benefit. There can be no rude, vulgar behavior. Wash your hands before eating, and have a regular routine. You can't take other people's things, but you can use your own things. Put back what you took from**. Toys and all public goods, whoever gets them first will use them first, and those who come later must wait. Apologize for doing something wrong, and have the right to demand an apology from others.
What can be done and what cannot be done, when children understand the boundaries between doing and not doing, they will abide by the rules.
On the Internet, I once saw such a sentence:
Heaven gives you an absent father, and it gives you an anxious mother who will only end up raising a child who is out of control.
The best way to educate is to have parents participate and guide at every stage of a child's growth.
Children's growth needs parents' attention and care bit by bit.
Father's love is not absent, mother's love is not offside, and the child will eventually grow into an excellent child under the bath of family education that pays attention to love and rules.
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